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  1. J

    I'm so heartbroken. How can I move on?

    Yeah if what I think happened happened, then my advice is to either tell him how you feel or just move on. I don't think you were ever in a relationship and I don't think you ever told him how you felt, and so you cannot and should not be angry at him, and you certainly should not feel cheated...
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    I'm so heartbroken. How can I move on?

    I feel like I'm missing something here. So him liking someone's photo on Facebook shows he was trying to get their attention? And you feel cheated on in a way?...Were you two ever in a relationship? Is that something you talked about? I don't really understand why you would be angry, it sounds...
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    Would you wait for engagement or marriage for first kiss?

    As I said before, the research on this subject says otherwise. Also, these "huge surprises" you're referring to, such as "one person is a very shallow sleeper and the other talks loudly in their sleep", is not a "huge" problem at all. Any "surprises" that would be considered grounds for divorce...
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    Would you wait for engagement or marriage for first kiss?

    Yeah pretty much. There is a lot more in depth information out there, but the basic idea is that when you cohabitate, you allow little things like, as another user pointed out, "speaking loudly while sleeping" or forgetting to put the toilet seat down, or whatever I think you get my point, all...
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    Would you wait for engagement or marriage for first kiss?

    Actually the research on this says the exact opposite. Cohabitation, couples living together prior to marriage, are much more likely to divorce if they eventually do decide to marry one another (as opposed to a married couple who never lived together prior to marriage). Also, the more physical...
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    Would you wait for engagement or marriage for first kiss?

    Marriage. Anybody who would rush into marriage because they cannot resist the temptations of the flesh is making a horrible decision. I'm not saying it's easy, but the way I think of it is kissing may not be seen as being "as bad" as premarital sex, but I wouldn't want my future spouse to know I...
  7. J

    Your church

    I agree, I actually listen to a southern baptist preacher online quite often. My old pastor posts his weekly sermons online too and I enjoy listening to them, the sermons are good, but there's just no passion, no fire.
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    Your church

    I was raised Presbyterian, however my family and I moved for a period of a couple years and the only church near us was a Dutch Reformed church. Doctrinally they are basically the same and we loved that church, and so because of that I no longer consider myself a "hardline" Presbyterian, because...
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    Interdenominational Dating

    I care less about what denomination they consider themselves apart of and more about how they interpret scripture. For example I am a Calvinist, do I care if she was a Presbyterian or Dutch Reformed, say? Not really, because doctrinally speaking they're basically the same. Now if she were a...
  10. J

    How to prepare oneself for next season?

    I'm not sure what you mean by "the next season in my life". You are always "in season", you are always on God's path, you are always where He wants you to be. If you feel that you are in a standstill, or that nothing is going on in your life (I guess that's what you mean?), all I can say is do...
  11. J

    What book are you reading at the moment?

    I'm currently reading Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen and (Un)Qualified by Steven Furtick. Both worth reading depending on what you're into.
  12. J

    not new, but been away for a while

    Hello all, I'm not new to the forums, but I've been away for a while, really haven't been active in a few years so just wanted to say hello :) I'll try to be more active going forward, looking forward to meeting some of you. God Bless!
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    what should I do if I see her again?

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    How were baptist pastors "chosen" in the early 19th century? (1800-1850s)?

    What I mean is, how would a town come to have a particular pastor? If their pastor died, who would replace him? A member of the community? Or were there regional seminaries that would dispatch a new one? Very curious as to how that worked, thanks :) (also I apologize if I'm not using the correct...
  15. J

    What are you listening to right now?

    Switching back and forth between George Ezra and Taylor Swift. I've seen them both live, both were amazing, and yes I just admitted to being a Taylor Swift fan :tearsofjoy:
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    Does anyone here write poems or songs?

    Oh I know the feeling. I think the reason it's so hard is because writing is so personal. I see it as a window into my very being, and if I let someone read what I wrote it's almost like I'm giving a piece of myself away. It makes you vulnerable putting yourself out there like that, I commend...
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    Feeling like a failure, as though I ruined the path God set for me

    I won't go into much detail, but if you didn't know I'm currently in college. I didn't pass a class a couple years ago (I didn't fail, but I got a 75 and needed a 77), and so I had to wait an entire year to retake the class. Now two years later I have put myself right back into the same...
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    Does anyone here write poems or songs?

    That's really good!
  19. J

    Every one has a passion, what is yours?

    Writing (short stories mostly)
  20. J

    Does anyone here write poems or songs?

    I prefer to write short stories, but I do enjoy writing poetry every now and then (though I'm not very good).