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I'd just like to give an update for all who may be interested.... I've been doing pretty good for the most part. I've accepted the divorce but I continue to "stand" for my marriage. I still haven't had any contact with my wife (yes, I still call her that). I did a complete overhaul on my...

Again, the question is who is being coddled? Also, everyone handles the betrayal of infidelity differently. You may have emotionally detached from your wife because of her infidelity that you didn't care anymore. But after spending the last 12 years of my life with this person, to see her...

I was wondering the same thing...

I wouldn't exactly call it a rash decision. For a number of reasons, it has been this way for 6 months. I'm not sure of your situation, but I fought for a long time for my marriage and my family. I still love my wife as much now as I did the day I married her 11 years ago. To watch her do...

So I decided to speed up the divorce process. My lawyers submitted paperwork and it became final 12/22. I still feel horrible. My xw has turned into someone I don't even recognize. Her stepmom of 30+ years (who spent Christmas with her) told me she couldn't even stand to be in the room with...

A believer, IMHO, doesn't refuse to listen to those in spiritual authority such as pastors. They are Gods earthly representatives. If a pastors biblical advice supported by scripture doesn't matter, what do they follow if its not the bible? Its is God speaking through divinely inspired...

I understand what you're saying but biology has nothing to do with one WILLFULLY loving someone. Isn't that what it means to have agape love as the bible teaches us. I make the choice to continue to love my wife, though, in all respects, she doesn't deserve it. It has nothing to do with...

I was thinking this morning, as I got ready for church, about the personal journey I've been on. I realize that my attempt at getting my daughter, while I believe it would be what's best, was still my attempt to affect my wife somehow. I had ulterior motives and that was to continue to do what...

Update: My fight for custody of my daughter ended before it really began. The GAL, who'd met with wife and daughter before me, said there seemed to be no reason to give me custody. Daughter seems healthy. The GAL knows about wife's new love and that daughter knows him. I fought to...

Emotionally, I think I'm doing great. I stopped crying over my marriage a long, long time ago. I think that happened when I came to grips with the fact I couldn't control my wife or really and I truly my own life.

So everyone has told me to move on. I guess I'm trying to understand what that means. We've been separated for over a year now with the pending divorce. She has continued to live an adulterous lifestyle. People say she has moved on while I say she's living in sin. Are they the same? IDK...

A book I would suggest is "Surviving An Affair". It is a great book and it contains a plan for creating a fulfilling marriage for both you and your husband post affair. It is going to be a difficult task to try to reclaim the connection that seemingly has been lost, but it will be much harder...

For those who have followed my story, there isn't really much to update in terms of my marriage/divorce. Wife is still wayward and has not changed. I have started my second job to help pay for the continued litigation/custody battle. I still haven't spoken to my wife since June. I have a...

Today, I called my wife's stepmom, a very spiritual person and my only known supporter from my wife's family, to just update her on things in my life. She ends up telling me that my wife called her dad the day we she found out at court I was fighting for custody. He has known about her activites...

Had orientation yesterday for my 2nd job. I'm so ready to start getting my life headed in a new direction starting with getting financially healthy. I know there are some reservations from some about the 2nd job and my custody battle but I have to worry about right now and let tomorrow take...

I understand your points, but the facts are that I really need another job anyway for my short-term financial stability (at the least) as well as funding for the continued litigation. It's something that I really put off as long as possible. We'll just have to see how this affects everything...

Well, I got up to go to work and my car didn't start. It's OKAY. Gods preparing me for something to be revealed at a later date.

Thought I'd add a quick update: Due to the continued litigation in my divorce/custody case, it became evident I would need a second job. I went to a couple of places on Monday with some promise. On Tuesday, it hit me that I should try a place I'd previously worked 10 years ago since several...

Yeah, the mediation is to try to get things settled before the judge signs the divorce decree. I'm not really tired and actually feel somewhat indifferent. What I almost got emotional about was his statement about me trying to hurt my wife. That is not and never has been my intent.

Well, here's the update on today's status hearing...(rather long) It began rather interesting to see her mother and aunt there. Her mother has been her biggest supporter in spite of knowing what she's done. Her aunt (who's very nonconfrontational) has been non-committal and her presence was the...