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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Drinking heavily isn't a good thing, driving home drunk is out of order regardless of whether he is a Christian or not. If his "man thing" doesn't work it could be a result of heavy drinking (there's a reason it's called "brewers droop"), or perhaps its lack of function is one thing driving him...
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    Sexual sin

    The Bible does say not to despise prophecies and immediately afterwards says "test all things, hold fast what is good". We must test, and the fact someone says "God told me..." doesn't actually mean God did anything of the sort. You only have to look at the tidal wave of garbage pumped out as...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Posts 7 and 18 look at the overall packages of issues. If the OP's husband is doing nothing to get better it suggests either he doesn't care, or doesn't see any hope for improvement. Frankly if he feels (rightly or wrongly) that he is being endlessly nagged it could be the latter. Many years...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Probably because nagging behaviour just makes a bad situation worse. If her husband is becoming a deadbeat it's not her fault at all, but if she resorts to nagging then she's becoming part of the problem rather than part of the solution. Nobody is saying that being nagged made him start...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Giving is what keeps the church going. If someone who is on a low income and can barely make ends meet gives "only" 3% because that's the best they believe they can manage, they shouldn't be pressured into giving 10%. Likewise someone who is making so much they can give 25% and not even notice...
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    So you're back to the law telling some people they can't be in certain businesses. Does "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" stop when the "pursuit of happiness" through business clashes with being legally required to do business with someone you don't want to do business with?
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    If the 5 black people living among several hundred white people face that kind of hostility the chance are they aren't going to be very happy there anyway. Would you want to live among several hundred people who were hostile to your very presence, to the point they would almost universally...
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    ... except that as a Christian the law seems less and less inclined to respect my concerns, while expecting me to respect everybody else's.
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    Awesome, so the new law effectively says "and you, you and you have to choose between your religious convictions and your livelihood". "Stop doing wedding cakes" is all well and good but if your business is wedding-related services the option is "shut down your business". It might be easy for a...
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    Work, eat, sleep, repeat

    Replying to a few points I've seen in the thread so far. Firstly, when you've got very little time to call your own don't get sucked into attending every single service at church. It's very easy to get into the mindset that if there's a service you need to be at it, and all it will do in your...
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    I think this is where people need to differentiate between "marriage" as a religious construct and "marriage" as a secular construct. Personally if two or more people want to enter into a secular contract with a secular government under which they exchange secular obligations for secular...
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    If you're not willing to accept the loss of business for taking your stance it shows you only support it until it starts to cost you. In other words, you don't really support it at all. Personally I believe that if a business wants to discriminate they should be free to do so, if they are...
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    ssm & religious liberty protection

    ... which is all well and good for someone looking to start such a business today. What of the people who were in business serving weddings before the idea that a man could marry another man was even on the public radar?
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    Bad Parenting or Child Endangerment/Neglect????

    Foolish mother, selfish mother, but it wasn't that long ago that a 9-year-old and a 12-year-old would be sent out to play for the day and parents wouldn't expect to keep watch on them the way that seems to be expected these days. When I was 12 I'd go out on my bike and spend the day playing...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Some of the things you mention don't sound like real issues to me, if I'm honest. "Stopped tithing" - what exactly do you mean by that? If you mean he's stopped giving anything to support God's mission that could be a problem but if you just mean he doesn't strictly give 10% then I don't see it...
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    ABCs of the UK

    Yeovil
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    ABCs of the UK

    Salisbury
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    Sexual sin

    I'd regard it as unusual to get something as specific as this from someone else. I wouldn't say it's absolutely impossible but it seems very odd to be specific enough to define the type of sin - sexual sin as opposed to any other kind of sin - but then leave it so vague as to whether it's...
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    Married couples dance?

    This, very much so. I really can't see the issue with having singles present. I can tell you that any venue that expected me to present a marriage certificate at the door would be told in no uncertain terms that it wasn't going to happen. I'm not going to carry my marriage certificate to an...
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    Lead us not into temptation ... American gun laws

    I've spent time in various places in the US, ranging from remote parts of the woods where I could hike for an entire day and not see another human being, to walking around NYC and DC in the evening. Personally the only reason I would want to carry a firearm would be as a precaution against...