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It's near impossible to answer that question without more information. However, when I find that when the same thing happens over and over to me, that I am the common denominator.

Not at all. He is a sperm donor and a stranger to you, not a father. It's wonderful that you pray for him at all. Call him whatever makes you comfortable. God knows.

You said it yourself: he doesn't want to. You can't force someone to do what you want them to do. You have told him that this is abusive behavior, you are supporting him, and you are doing all you can do. In the end, the choice is his.

I think it's unwise to assume that dreams as messages from God. Dreams are random, and are affected by stress, circumstances, health, and even what you eat. The focus of a believer should always be deep prayer, learning from Scripture and communion with the Holy Spirit. Unless you are being led...

Your question of how do you evangelize your parents presumes that they are not saved. Is this true? If so, my guess is that they are cultural Christians who took you to church as a child because it was the thing to do. They may know most of the Bible stories, but they don't sound like they are...

I'm sorry that you are hurting. I can imagine how that must feel. Praying for you. When I am the common denomination in a situation, I've found that the most productive solution is to look at myself. How did I contribute to this situation. What behavior of my own could have created it? In your...

I'm curious as to why you want to go to college if you have no interest in learning anything. What is the end game you're looking for? You also mentioned wanting to go to live in other countries. Most countries will not give you a visa unless you have a skill and a job lined up. I recommend...

I agree with seeking.IAM. You were not honest with him, and he has no reason to return this small item that's easily replaceable, nor to have to deal with the lease because of what you said. You will need to pay to remove your name from the lease yourself. This is a reminder of the wisdom to...

It seems unreasonable that she works all day while you play games, and then she starts dinner as soon as she gets home. Why not make dinner yourself? If you don't know how, there's dozens of websites that can help you. It would be a very loving thing to do to allow her to come home to a home...

I think you might be asking God to give you motivation, but that is not typically how He works. He gave you free will to be as productive or as lazy as you want to be. It's up to you to make choices. If you dislike your procrastination, then do something about it. Make a list of everything you...

I read a bit of your backstory, and it appears that you are trading one disastrous relationship for another. You have a young child that needs a good father, not one who is an unbelieving inappropriate content gamer. I understand that it must be scary to be young, alone and a parent. But now that you are a...

I think it's important to discern between cultural traditions and the Word. Our culture uses the upper case as a sign of respect and to honor God. God is concerned with your heart, not the minutiae of our traditions. As for punishment, our God is a God of grace. He is not waiting to smack you...

You need an attorney stat.

"Please don't ask me anymore." Simple. And if they keep asking, let them. What's the harm? Any question that begins "how do I get .... to..." is trying to control the behavior of others. It never works the way you want it to.

This is an extremely long post. It's hard to know the specific advice you are looking for, as I assume it's TL.DR for many. Perhaps if you broke it down succinctly, you might have more responses.

Philippians 4:11-12 11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or...

You have done an excellent job in setting boundaries - well done! Keeping a record is also perfect. The church is responsible for this. You are not only a member, but an employee, and the pastor should have released him a long time ago. The fact that Tom continues to harass you despite being...

This, along with many of the other things you've said about your treatment of him are very concerning. There is a book that describes this called "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me". It's about Borderline Personality Disorder, the characteristics of which you have displayed in many of your previous...

You get out of it what you put into it. If you want interaction, start interacting before or after church. Host a picnic after services. Talk to your pastor and offer to lead a Bible study. Or to organize some kind of fellowship. Why not be the one who makes it better?

No. I have ADD, and it makes things difficult for sure. I learned to manage it by putting into place strategies to keep myself in control, and to recognize when I am about to go off the rails. I tried meds, but they made me edgy and anxious, so I stopped. It's important to recognize that you...