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    C'mon and give your .02

    I think it depends on what the source of the problem is. If it's money, for example, then spending a bunch of cash you don't have to take a frivolous trip might very well make things worse. And if you keep fighting about whatever it is that's causing friction, then fighting in a hotel isn't any...
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    looking in from the outside

    Several people have actually mentioned to me lately that it's clear to them that we dote on each other. And they're right. :love::love2:
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    Being more domestic

    Ardeur, my husband is in graduate school, and he spends many long hours studying. He hasn't gone to bed earlier than midnight in weeks. We've both agreed that his schooling is our priority, so we'll do whatever we have to so that he can excel. So I know first hand that it's possible to work...
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    New understanding

    I think the saying, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth" applies here. :)
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    Being more domestic

    First, I think it's not productive to say or even think that your husband is being an immature child. When we have this kind of problem with differing desires/expectations in a marriage, blame and derision only make things worse. Even if you don't say these things to your spouse, the attitude...
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    how to encourage your wife

    I have to say that this question bothers me. In fact, I find it a bit offensive. I'm not a very social person myself. I don't make friends easily, and in fact I don't really want to make friends. I like it just fine that I have acquaintances instead. Would you say that I might not be a...
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    how to encourage your wife

    There goes snoochface again, saying exactly what I want to say, better than I could have. People who are homebodies don't need fixing. Some people are social butterflies, and some are not. That's all.
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    Is marriage an oppressive institution?

    Obviously some women end up as single mothers without choosing it. But it's a huge problem that so many children are growing up without fathers. It's a huge problem that so many people think it's perfectly fine to engage in promiscuous extra-marital sex (I'm not saying premarital, because many...
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    Is marriage an oppressive institution?

    Aw, honey. I hope you didn't think I was saying that you have to be married to be an upstanding person. I think this initiative (as mentioned in the OP) is aimed at single motherhood. It's not aimed at single people who don't have children. And I agree completely that it's better to not...
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    Is marriage an oppressive institution?

    My father died when I was three, and my mother did not remarry until I was 17. I'm sorry but the lack of a father has more than an economic effect on children. It has a psychological effect too. Fathers are very important. Your children will carry the scars of divorce all their lives. Being...
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    Is marriage an oppressive institution?

    In Saudi Arabia, sure. Not in the western world. And even when it is oppressive, that has nothing to do with the institution of marriage. This is as far from correct as it is possible to be. Children who grow up in stable households with married parents are healthier, more advanced...
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    Platonic Friendships

    I think it's fine to have casual or "light" friendships with the opposite sex, but confiding in someone not your spouse is putting you on a dangerous road. Also, it's a bad idea for a married person to spend time alone with anyone to whom they are sexually attracted. We humans are very good at...
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    What do you say when...

    Thank him for thinking of you. Display them proudly. And when they wilt, toss them out. And all the while, give thanks to God that you have a husband who loves you enough to give you gifts. And while you're at it, pray that God will turn you into a person who looks for the good in what her...
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    Is there such a thing called "soulmate"?

    I used to think there was such a thing as a soul mate. Now, I think that for each person there are probably a number (maybe a fairly large number) of other people who could be compatible. Love is not an emotion. Lust, infatuation, romantic feelings--these are emotions, but they are not...
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    She'll probably get some chocolate the day after Valentines Day...

    If my husband can't afford full price chocolates, then I'd rather he demonstrate his love for me in some other way. Honestly, even if he can afford full price chocolates, I'd prefer that he demonstrate his love in some other way. The way I'm thinking of doesn't cost any money at all, and it...
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    A poll for married men and women

    There is no room for lies in the marriage bed. And besides, it is possible to enjoy the journey for its own sake, even if one doesn't ever reach the destination!
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    Wife has "secret" account?

    Why can't you just come out and ask her? Why all the subterfuge and games?
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    Ladies Need Your Help

    Yes, exactly. He's hurting his wife every time she sees him doing this. So rather than getting all prideful and insisting that there's nothing wrong with his behavior, he should demonstrate to her that he cherishes her...and knock it off.
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    Marriage Problem

    My advice is to stay out of this.
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    Wife has "secret" account?

    I have an account just like moonkitty's. So does my husband. It's good practice to use a junk account to sign up for websites that might spam you. And like her, I've never once sent anything from it. Every few months I check it and empty out all the spam from my inbox.