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  1. chris414

    for those dating

    I seriously question the strength of the marriage in which the girlfriend and boyfriend have not even spent time alone.
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    Staying chaste while vacationing with boyfriend

    :amen: Simple as that: just tell yourself "no". Once you've established your boundaries, it's a case of yes or no as to whether you cross them. Don't overthink and complicate it... it's either yes or no. (and yes, I am in a relationship so I can speak from first hand experience)
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    Do you think it's wrong to get drunk, regardless of circumstance?

    Hi there. I know there are lots of Christians out there who believe that it's wrong to get drunk, no matter who you're getting drunk with / where you're getting drunk / the regularity of it. And there also those who believe there's nothing wrong with getting drunk. I'm interested to hear if...
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    think about this.

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    Meeting Boyfriend's Pastor and Pastor's Family

    I would disagree. While he may know the man in this relationship, he quite clearly doesn't know the woman. You cannot judge a relationship by only knowing one person, and even when you do know both people intimately you can't "assess" whether two people are right for each other. Sure, you can...
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    Meeting Boyfriend's Pastor and Pastor's Family

    I've got no time for people like that^. I hope your boyfriend is on "your side" as such and that this situation won't cause friction between you as a couple. What is your bf going to do if the pastor decides that you aren't a "Godly woman"? Will he dump you or will he defy his pastor and stick...
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    Getting married – having seconds thoughts, confused and discouraged

    You don't want to be kneeling by the altar saying your vows and having the niggling thought of whether your marriage is "right". However, people on CF can give you all the advice on the world but at the end of the day our advice is limited because it is based on only a few paragraphs you have...
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    Would it bother you

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    Would it bother you

    Yes it would bother me, especially if the closeness with the best friend was at the expense of (or instead of) closeness in the relationship.
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    What to expect?

    We've had one or two bad periods around 4months and 8months and obviously the infatuation fades after the first few weeks / months, but the majority of the time it has been really great:) We have an incredibly intimate relationship and (as cliched as it sounds) are undoubtedly each other's best...
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    What to expect?

    Hey everyone Me and my gf have recently enjoyed our one year anniversary:) I've seen a lot of threads on CF about what you can expect when you're just starting a relationship, but then not much afterwards. I've always been able to imagine what it would be like to have a girlfriend up until...
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    How far is too far?

    i'll just go ahead and put my 10 cents on the table even though my experience seems to be somewhat different to others. I agree 100% that sex before marriage is out, and there are some other things that i am keeping for marriage just because i want to, but i have found that in my current...
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    Talking About Sex?

    what's wrong with just talking about it for plain old fun? I often think this kind of thing is taken way too seriously among Christians to the point at which the pleasure aspect of sex is diminished... I can't see how talking about it is wrong - to me it's just getting to know your gf/bf better.
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    living together without sex?

    Amen to that:thumbsup:
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    Cheating... forgive and forget?

    Hey guys Well this question is more just out of interest than anything else, but i really struggle to understand how people find the strength to forgive their bf/gf (or wife / husband) if they find out that their bf/gf was cheating on them... sure, even if their bf/gf shows a lot of regret and...
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    How To Tell...

    you realise of course that whoever you are crushing on, if you ever contact them, will immediately go and find all yoru previous posts, including this one;)
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    confused and lost

    sounds dodge... how'd the weekend visit go (if you went)?
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    Bringing it to a poll (Revised for Clarity)

    Yes i'm sorry i am very aware of that, i meant to include that little disclaimer in my other post but i forgot;) apologies... i do not think like that:)
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    Bringing it to a poll (Revised for Clarity)

    I did not post this revised poll, but yes i assume that is a typo in the last option as it does not make sense to hav that option as it is... in the previous post i did kindly requested that only Christians reply to the poll and i'd like to ask for the same in this one - i just want to hear...
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    Bringing it to a poll (Revised for Clarity)

    thanks for the confusion clear up:)