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    A Needs-Centered Approach to Life: A new perspective on human nature

    Here is an article I wrote on a needs-centered approach to life. When we focus on our needs (not to be confused with wants) and the needs of others we stay compassionate towards ourselves and others. We are able to give grace to ourselves and others as well. Harmony of the Heart: A...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    Grafted In, Thanks for sharing more about your situation. I respect your decision to stay in your marriage. I also made this decision to stay for 8 more years. My wife's anger problems continued, though, and they were starting to affect me and my kids in ways that were very unhealthy. Jesus...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    Kenyanmom, Deuteronomy 24:1-4 states the following (NAV): "When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she find no favour in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, and give [it] in her hand, and sends her out from...
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    Lean on Jesus...

    God touches us through people. The church is supposed to be his hand and feet. Seeking healthy people who can give you a hug or talk to you on the phone when you need support is totally healthy and a very godly thing to be doing. I think that this would count as leaning on Jesus (as well as...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    Grafted In, I take into account what individuals who are filled with the Spirit have to say on this topic as well as if it aligns with inner peace and scripture. Yet, I am leery of when someone speaks for God as His mouthpiece. If only it was that easy. Each situation is different and...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    Kenyamom, I empathize with your situation. That must be hard. You have had sufficient time to heal, process and move on and yet legally you are still bound. Kudos to you for allowing God to heal you and change you! I also agree with you that it is a personal decision that one must make...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    Blackribbon, My children are 7 and 10. I read the book Dinosaurs Divorce which covers a lot of the topics that come up for kids after a divorce. They asked me when I thought I would start dating. I told them maybe in one or two years but that I was not sure. They are supportive about this...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    The question was a general question. I know a lot of people who are going through a divorce and I also have just gone through a divorce. I was in an unhealthy and abusive relationship and have met with a Christian therapist for over 20 sessions over the last 9 months and am about to complete a...
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    We are ALL products of wrong programming!

    I agree with you memoriesbymichelle. We are socialized or conditioned by our society, peers, media, family, etc. in various ways that go counter to what God would want us to believe. Years of programming is hard to deal with. Six thousand years ago people were afraid of the Gods and they...
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    On loneliness

    Loneliness is an emotion that is experienced when we interpret ourselves as alone. Our emotions are caused by our thoughts. I don't like to categorize emotions as positive and negative and instead like to thinking of them as pleasant and unpleasant. The reason is that when I have an unpleasant...
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    Do we have the same "God"?

    Thanks for the welcome dayhiker.
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    Hell..

    To allow the rest of humanity to go to hell and do nothing about it would put me in a state of hell. Having that on my conscious would get in the way of being able to enjoy heaven. Plus, that is what Jesus would do or actually what he did. He died on the cross so humanity could go to heaven. He...
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    Do we have the same "God"?

    Everyone has a different perception of God. Even within the Christian faith we have people who believe that God is a God who punishes and is out to get us when we do something wrong and then there are those within the faith that believe God is restorative, forgiving and gracious and not...
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    How do you guys connect with God?

    Thanks! That is a good one. I will try it. I think it can lead to more contentment as well.
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    How do you guys connect with God?

    Thanks Kit Kat! Integrating more service to others can help us feel closer to Him.
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    Dating after divorce

    Great advice Kylissa!
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    How do you guys connect with God?

    I am trying to get ideas on how to connect or spend time with God. For instance, prayer, worship, meditation, journaling, prayer journals, devotionals, reading the Bible, 12 steps, workbooks, etc. Any other ideas or things you do? Edit/Delete Message Reply With Quote Multi-Quote This Message...
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    How long to wait after divorce

    A question for you all. If someone gets divorced how long should they wait to start dating again? Keep in mind sometimes the divorce process can take anywhere from 6 months to 5 years.
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    This may sound so vain but...

    May Abba heal the puffy places and bring you peace about the situation. He is your comfort and love you very much!
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    A blog I started that is about to get 100,000 hits

    Harmony of the Heart I would love to hear what you guys and gals think.