Parents from different denominations

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Hello,

I am interested how parents from different denominations bring up their children ib Christian Faith. How the question of Baptism is solved?
And going to church? On Sunday to one church, and the other Sunday to another?

And do you have personal experience of having parents of different denominations?
 

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My husband and I belong to different denominations. Mostly my daughter goes to church with him, because it's very hard for me to look after her on my own, and lead the service at the same time. But he tries to come to my church at least once a month so that she experiences both traditions.

About baptism, we agreed that we would not do it until we could both be happy about it. So because my husband's denomination only does believer's baptism, our daughter is not baptised (yet). I am not entirely comfortable with that, but I can live with it more than I think he could live with her never having what he would see as a valid baptism.
 
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My Wife and I were raised in drastically different faith traditions, and traveled very different spiritual paths before meeting.

When we married I identified as a Non-Denominational Protestant and she was Catholic.

We spent a while searching for a faith community that we could build a family in, and after a very disappointing attempt at a Non-Denominational church that purported to be universally accepting (but in reality was very dogmatically divisive) we ended up at an Episcopalian church.

We did have to carefully discuss the issue of baptism after I decided to be confirmed Episcopalian and she wanted our children baptised Catholic, but the issue has recently become simpler since she decided to become officially Episcopalian as well.

Either way, I think that the important thing is to make sure you're not sending conflicting messages to the children. If the faith traditions are different enough in doctrine, you should have a talk with the kids as soon as possible about those differences.
 
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My wife lived through this growing up. Her father was raised Lutheran and her mother was Baptist. They both stopped attending church the entire time my wife and her brother were growing up. My wife was baptized and joined the Lutheran Church shortly before we were married. Her parents started attending a Baptist Church a few years after we were married.
 
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I think it is important for a couple from different backgrounds to agree on some things right at the beginning. The things that REALLY matter. When your children grow up, they will have the chance to make their own choices. Until then, it is a god idea to expose them to what you and your husband believe in. Even if that means two churches in two weeks. Kids are resilient. When I got divorced, that's exactly what my kids did - went to dad's church one week and mum's church the next week. They are smarter than we give them credit for sometimes and will figure it out by themselves.
 
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Hello,

I am interested how parents from different denominations bring up their children ib Christian Faith. How the question of Baptism is solved?
And going to church? On Sunday to one church, and the other Sunday to another?

And do you have personal experience of having parents of different denominations?
My wife and I got married in a Roman Catholic Church, officiated by the Catholic priest, an Anglican priest, and a Presbyterian minister. Worshipping, we alternated churches each week between hers and mine. We baptized our children in the Roman Catholic Church, but took them to both churches when they were growing up, until we found a church that was acceptable to all of us. It seemed to work for us, but my church accepted the Roman Catholic baptism as valid. I know not all churches accept baptisms from other debominations.
 
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