I'm in a moody way this evening.
I was just curious what people's definitions are of "loser".
I often think of myself as a loser, but there are people in my life who think very highly of me. I can't figure it out why they do.... Somedays I agree with them, and days like today, I think they are nuts.
Some info on me:
I'm 27, finished college two years ago. I got my Bachelor's and Masters' in music/violin performance. I currently do make a little money with music, although not a ton. I have part time contracts with a couple of professional orchestras, and I play for weddings pretty frequently. I'm not terrible at the violin, but I'm not great either. I probably couldn't win a major orchestra audition. I work fairly hard to just maintain my playing, let alone improve.
I took up a part time job as I do not make enough to live on from just music stuff. So, I work 30 hours a week in Accounts Receivable as an office assistant. I only make 10 an hour, but it essentially pays for my rent, car insurance, and gas/food.
Currently attempting to find a half decent paying full time job with health insurance, as I want to make more money and I have an obamacare health plan (which I frankly don't even need, I haven't gotten sick in 4 years). Oh, I also have a lot of student loan debt. In retrospect, I probably shouldn't have majored in music, but then again, it's the only strength I had coming out of High School, and music keeps me somewhat sane.
I've always had problems with being social. I have a few friends who are close, but I rarely see them, as we all seem to be too busy for each other any more. I've also never been good with women. I'm a guy who yearns for a fulfilling relationship, but I just haven't done well on this. I've been told that I just need more confidence, but I simply don't really understand it. I used to be pretty overweight, but I've slimmed down a lot. Probably doesn't help that I'm not great looking!
Anyway, overall, I just feel a little aimless. I'm a Christian, and I know that to God, I'm not a loser, but the fact that I'm somewhat broke, single, and lack a social life makes me feel like I'm just not worth much in the eyes of the world. I know my life could be much worse. But I feel like a loser.
I feel like at this age, I should have been married, had a kid, a house, a career, and things would be smoothly going on. Any of that stuff seems so far away. I'd be pretty happy with just a good job really! (and maybe a girlfriend...)
Oh well, I'm really just ranting. I know it's silly to hold onto some sort of expectation. We all progress differently.
I was just curious what people's definitions are of "loser".
I often think of myself as a loser, but there are people in my life who think very highly of me. I can't figure it out why they do.... Somedays I agree with them, and days like today, I think they are nuts.
Some info on me:
I'm 27, finished college two years ago. I got my Bachelor's and Masters' in music/violin performance. I currently do make a little money with music, although not a ton. I have part time contracts with a couple of professional orchestras, and I play for weddings pretty frequently. I'm not terrible at the violin, but I'm not great either. I probably couldn't win a major orchestra audition. I work fairly hard to just maintain my playing, let alone improve.
I took up a part time job as I do not make enough to live on from just music stuff. So, I work 30 hours a week in Accounts Receivable as an office assistant. I only make 10 an hour, but it essentially pays for my rent, car insurance, and gas/food.
Currently attempting to find a half decent paying full time job with health insurance, as I want to make more money and I have an obamacare health plan (which I frankly don't even need, I haven't gotten sick in 4 years). Oh, I also have a lot of student loan debt. In retrospect, I probably shouldn't have majored in music, but then again, it's the only strength I had coming out of High School, and music keeps me somewhat sane.
I've always had problems with being social. I have a few friends who are close, but I rarely see them, as we all seem to be too busy for each other any more. I've also never been good with women. I'm a guy who yearns for a fulfilling relationship, but I just haven't done well on this. I've been told that I just need more confidence, but I simply don't really understand it. I used to be pretty overweight, but I've slimmed down a lot. Probably doesn't help that I'm not great looking!
Anyway, overall, I just feel a little aimless. I'm a Christian, and I know that to God, I'm not a loser, but the fact that I'm somewhat broke, single, and lack a social life makes me feel like I'm just not worth much in the eyes of the world. I know my life could be much worse. But I feel like a loser.
I feel like at this age, I should have been married, had a kid, a house, a career, and things would be smoothly going on. Any of that stuff seems so far away. I'd be pretty happy with just a good job really! (and maybe a girlfriend...)
Oh well, I'm really just ranting. I know it's silly to hold onto some sort of expectation. We all progress differently.