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This is sort of a continuation of my last thread "What Do I Do?!" I apologize for the length of this post.
In short, I had trouble adding a girl on Facebook. Result: I added her. Nothing happened. At all. She added me back, she's liked a couple posts I put up, but other than that, nothing. Eventually, I stopped liking her. I still consider her as a friend, but I had to be honest with myself, I only knew her for less than a year. I didn't know nearly enough about her to honestly say whether or not I liked her.
For a while, I didn't really have any interest in anyone. There were a few times where I would think about someone and then say, "Hey what if that girl was the right one?" I know I'm a little young to be thinking about that sort of stuff, but the thought does cross my mind. But after some serious consideration, i.e what a marriage between me and that person would look like, what we would look like in a picture, the history I have with that person, etc., I found most of them maybe wouldn't be the best match. That went on for about a few months.
Fast foward to about a month and a half ago, I arrived at my old church for the first time in two years. I had moved away to Florida because my dad found a job there, but we moved back for the fact that it would be more financially responsible. I went around finding as many people to suprise as possible. Some saw me and said hey, others asked if I was staying for good, and others just went on like normal. Sunday service went on like normal, with the exception of a few new people and new songs during worship. That night, I went to Youth Group (probably my favorite part of the whole church). For as long as I've been in the Youth Group, the praise band has gone from a full group, to a few people, to just one guy. It went like that for a while. Then that night, I saw quite a few people go up on stage. Most of them I had no idea had any musical talent whatsoever. I felt like Marty coming back from 1955 to find that his family is completely different. One suprise in particular came when they started singing. It wasnt a song I knew, but I really liked it. The best part was a girl I had known for a while. She was playing the guitar and singing along on stage. There was a beautiful voice coming from the stage, but I didn't know who it was. The whole time the song was going on, I was looking around the stage to find out who was singing like that. Then, I looked at the girl. My heart skipped a beat. She sounded as if she belonged on the radio. Like I said before, I had known her for most of the time I attended the church before I left, so it wasn't exactly the same case as the girl who moved away. At one point, I had a crush on her, but it didn't last long, I was too busy being a goofball. Now I'm starting to like her again, and I'm worried that my track record of acting like a toddler will ruin my chances of at least having a cup of coffee with her. What's worse is she may be taken as well, but I don't know for sure. We were painting the halls of the Youth Center when the girl mentioned going outside to get someone. It was a guy. He literally looked like Mr. Perfect. He plays football, has good looks, and can talk to anyone. I asked a close friend who he was, and he said it may be the girl's boyfriend. My heart sank, then I hoped he was just a cousin or a friend. Now not only am I worried my past would hurt my chances, but I'm also worried if I ask, I would be interfering with their possible relationship. I was about to ask her, but then she would probably ask if I liked her, which I would say yes, but theres no telling what her reaction would be. Last time I liked someone, news spread like wildfire, and I was continually teased about it. I haven't had any form of a relationship since fifth grade, and I didn't even want to be in it. So I have no knowledge of how to handle a relationship other than what I see in film and television, which I wouldn't rely on too much. No one has ever known me as the romantic type. Most girls at my church know me as a dork. The odds really are not in my favor in this situation. But I can't help it, she's cute, she sings beautifully, and all I want to do is get to know her better. I want to ask her parents, who both seem approachable, but then if she's not already in a relationship with that guy, they may say she's too young. I don't know exactly how old she is, she's younger than I am, but I do know she's in high school, but the age gap, however big it is, may end up being too big, or they may not trust me enough. I kind of just realized I may be thinking about this too much or I'm suffering from paranoia. If anyone has any advice on this, I would very much appreciate it.
The second problem goes along with the first in a way. I could be looking way too hard for a girlfriend. At school, at church, and pretty much anywhere, I was looking around for someone who might end up being the right one. That sounds like desparation if you think about it. I've tried to stop looking, but I can't for some reason. If this is a problem, let me know.
Again I apologize for the length of the post
In short, I had trouble adding a girl on Facebook. Result: I added her. Nothing happened. At all. She added me back, she's liked a couple posts I put up, but other than that, nothing. Eventually, I stopped liking her. I still consider her as a friend, but I had to be honest with myself, I only knew her for less than a year. I didn't know nearly enough about her to honestly say whether or not I liked her.
For a while, I didn't really have any interest in anyone. There were a few times where I would think about someone and then say, "Hey what if that girl was the right one?" I know I'm a little young to be thinking about that sort of stuff, but the thought does cross my mind. But after some serious consideration, i.e what a marriage between me and that person would look like, what we would look like in a picture, the history I have with that person, etc., I found most of them maybe wouldn't be the best match. That went on for about a few months.
Fast foward to about a month and a half ago, I arrived at my old church for the first time in two years. I had moved away to Florida because my dad found a job there, but we moved back for the fact that it would be more financially responsible. I went around finding as many people to suprise as possible. Some saw me and said hey, others asked if I was staying for good, and others just went on like normal. Sunday service went on like normal, with the exception of a few new people and new songs during worship. That night, I went to Youth Group (probably my favorite part of the whole church). For as long as I've been in the Youth Group, the praise band has gone from a full group, to a few people, to just one guy. It went like that for a while. Then that night, I saw quite a few people go up on stage. Most of them I had no idea had any musical talent whatsoever. I felt like Marty coming back from 1955 to find that his family is completely different. One suprise in particular came when they started singing. It wasnt a song I knew, but I really liked it. The best part was a girl I had known for a while. She was playing the guitar and singing along on stage. There was a beautiful voice coming from the stage, but I didn't know who it was. The whole time the song was going on, I was looking around the stage to find out who was singing like that. Then, I looked at the girl. My heart skipped a beat. She sounded as if she belonged on the radio. Like I said before, I had known her for most of the time I attended the church before I left, so it wasn't exactly the same case as the girl who moved away. At one point, I had a crush on her, but it didn't last long, I was too busy being a goofball. Now I'm starting to like her again, and I'm worried that my track record of acting like a toddler will ruin my chances of at least having a cup of coffee with her. What's worse is she may be taken as well, but I don't know for sure. We were painting the halls of the Youth Center when the girl mentioned going outside to get someone. It was a guy. He literally looked like Mr. Perfect. He plays football, has good looks, and can talk to anyone. I asked a close friend who he was, and he said it may be the girl's boyfriend. My heart sank, then I hoped he was just a cousin or a friend. Now not only am I worried my past would hurt my chances, but I'm also worried if I ask, I would be interfering with their possible relationship. I was about to ask her, but then she would probably ask if I liked her, which I would say yes, but theres no telling what her reaction would be. Last time I liked someone, news spread like wildfire, and I was continually teased about it. I haven't had any form of a relationship since fifth grade, and I didn't even want to be in it. So I have no knowledge of how to handle a relationship other than what I see in film and television, which I wouldn't rely on too much. No one has ever known me as the romantic type. Most girls at my church know me as a dork. The odds really are not in my favor in this situation. But I can't help it, she's cute, she sings beautifully, and all I want to do is get to know her better. I want to ask her parents, who both seem approachable, but then if she's not already in a relationship with that guy, they may say she's too young. I don't know exactly how old she is, she's younger than I am, but I do know she's in high school, but the age gap, however big it is, may end up being too big, or they may not trust me enough. I kind of just realized I may be thinking about this too much or I'm suffering from paranoia. If anyone has any advice on this, I would very much appreciate it.
The second problem goes along with the first in a way. I could be looking way too hard for a girlfriend. At school, at church, and pretty much anywhere, I was looking around for someone who might end up being the right one. That sounds like desparation if you think about it. I've tried to stop looking, but I can't for some reason. If this is a problem, let me know.
Again I apologize for the length of the post
