Should teens eat everything parents cook even if they don't like it to respect them or should they choose freely if and what to eat?
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Teenagers should be polite, but they should not be expected to eat something they do not want. It should be their choice.
Yes, they should!
Learning to eat something you don't particularly like is a part of becoming an adult and learning to live in a polite society.
Parents with your mentality are contributing to their children's inability to participate in a polite society
and, likely, the the juvenile diabetes epidemic.
Not sure there is a perfect answer for this. You can't force feed a teenager and shouldn't (that is considered an assault). Do you MAKE your husband eat everything on the table if he looks down at your new recipe and says, "ug, I REALLY don't care for yellow squash"? The difference between you and your teenager is that you aren't going to cook food you hate so you have already shown a preference when selecting dinner. It is easy to eat food you like. I would expect my teenager to try everything...which means a taste. If I am cooking and I know that my child hates peas, I will probably also make some green beans so she will eat something green. I don't see that it is an issue to fight over. Food is to nourish our bodies and there are much more important things to get in a power struggle over. I think I might expect that person to sit politely with the family while we ate, but so what if they make a peanut butter sandwich to eat as long as they are getting their nutrition and not ruining everyone else's meal. Don't fool yourself, you don't have that much control over what they eat anymore. Teenagers usually have money and will fill up on garbage if you don't provide food that they can at least tolerate.
So here's a question. ..I'm vegan, and I allow my kids to eat meat if they choose. I think veganism, like other ethical philosophies, should really be their choice. Would it be better if, as suggested, I force my kids to eat what I eat, a vegan diet? Or does that only apply if the parents eat a more mainstream diet?
Oh, I do expose them to a vegan diet, and cook vegan meals for them, but I allow them to choose other meals, or add meat to something I make. Sometimes I even cook multiple dinnersNo reason to avoid having them try it - as long as you understand children's nutritional needs and how to meet them with a vegan diet. Why not at least expose them to it, if you believe it's "ethically right"? Notice I didn't say, "force them."
I suspect you are correct.I suspect that where there are barely enough calories in a meal to go around, they don't have this problem.
I suspect you are correct.
And this kind of comparison ... that since some people would be grateful to eat the food that you don't like ... or "Clean your plate because there are starving children in China" argument has led to many people having obesity issues as adults because they have learned to eat because it is on their plate and not learning to stop when they are full.
Should teens eat everything parents cook even if they don't like it to respect them or should they choose freely if and what to eat?
Yes, they should!
Learning to eat something you don't particularly like is a part of becoming an adult and learning to live in a polite society. Parents with your mentality are contributing to their children's inability to participate in a polite society and, likely, the the juvenile diabetes epidemic.