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Hi everyone,

I'm in major need of prayer.

I dropped my laptop which has irreplaceable documents for university on it as well as photos that I have not backed up for a while (lesson learned). If I can't recover it then I will not be able to continue properly with university. I have it booked in for repair.

Also I am going through early stages of separation and divorce due to domestic violence and my husband would not work for years. After the final act of violence, we broke up and I am set on divorce though my husband has changed his mind and doesn't want to. I will not change my mind and have entered into a relationship with a long term friend who I can see a future with. I know that is considered adultery but it would be unhealthy for me to reconcile with my husband and is not an option for me anymore. But I would like prayers to help me cope. I was finally doing well but I am now having panic attacks because Im so scared of losing my vital data on my computer. I have assignments due very soon and I'm finding it very hard to focus because of anxiety.

Thank you very much.
 

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The love of God is never measured by our sin know this. He died while we all were 100% lost in sin. Yes God is always for the two to stay together but..there would be reasons one could leave. Do you know Jesus as lord..are you saved? If so then asking for prayer knowing "I know that is considered adultery".. it does not work like that. Talking about the OTHER relationship. That has to stop. I dont know all about you and your husband. Between you and God if its like you say...

Now if you dont know Christ.. you again know your in sin and HE died for ALL your sin..forgives you.. same if you know Him. See SIN..the price for doing that sin playing with sin ..it has a price.. its DEATH. I do not mean just some day we will die. I mean it opens the door to all kind of things that effect our lifes..bad things. It is NOT worth the price. The end will always be worse. He is always trying to help us. Its not that He does not want us to have fun..its the LIE.. that sin will lead to death..unless we repent.. WE made the choice. Yes He loves you died for you and all sins.. but we have to repent.we can not walk freely in sin. KNOWING its adultery and staying there is freely walking in sin. Repent of that.. as long as in mans eyes you are still married.. keep it .. nice? Hehe And the home work so to speak ..really? There is nothing HE cannot do.. like for some odd reason all your stuff was saved.

See Jesus said.. if you were BLIND you would have no sin. You say you see..your sin remains. The thing here is.. you see. Please.. let Him in.. He loves you.. no matter what ever happens.. He loves you. Stop the adultery if you are saved.. if not.. even HE does not cast any stone.. He forgives you.. go and sin no more
 
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God forgives adultery eternally through Jesus, otherwise no Christian could be saved and the atonement would be null.

Every time my eye strays on a woman, I commit adultery (Matthew 5:28), and I am 100% guilty before God to a degree which can never be recovered. My sin cannot be blotted out by my own hands. Only Christ could do it, and he put it away forever.

If you are not a Christian, you can make Jesus your Lord and then your past is blotted out by Christ's work at the cross. Your old life is gone. You are a new creature. If you are presently married when you do this, you only have to keep the husband if they want to stay around. If you are devorced already, then the marriage belongs to a woman who died. (Romans 6:4)

So a woman who divorces and then gets born again owes nothing to her former husband, except the debt of love owed to all people. (Romans 13:8)

If you are a Christian, and you're divorcing, it's within your right to leave a man if he is unfit to live with. It is not alright to then remarry unless that other man commits adultery or dies. It is sin. But if he's looked at inappropriate content once since you left him, then he's an adulterer, and you're 100% within your right to find another husband. If he looked at a woman lustfully, you may also likewise leave him. But let's say we're excusing those things, and you cannot leave him morally. Which is stronger, your sin or Christ's atonement?

Christ's atonement, otherwise all creation, and all men and women would be lost.

At the crux of the matter is what is God's will concerning your life, and God will navigate the nuances of the situation outside of strict legalism concerning the law of adultery. If the law of adultery were our guide then 40% of the women in church should divorce their husbands tomorrow.

Rather love is our guide. Read 1 Cor 13, and do that. That brings you into God's will on a level that goes above and beyond legalism and strict rules. It's superior to the rules, and does things rules could never conceive of.

Romans 3:21 - But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify.
 
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Thanks for your replies.

My laptop data was recovered, thank God. The IT person tried for an hour and it wouldn't work, kept saying there were errors in the drive. Then I prayed with all my heart and it worked.

I will never go back to my husband, it's just not an option for me. I don't even hate him, I hope he moves on and I'd be happy for him to find someone else. We never should have got married and we got engaged when I was only 17.

He was a drunk, violent, verbally abusive and then refused to work for the last 4 years. He told me he wanted a divorce. I agreed, he then changed his mind. We talked about divorce regularly through the "marriage". This time I grew a backbone and ended it. I then entered into a relationship with a friend of 5 years. It was very unexpected but has turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I know it's adultery according to Christian beliefs. I pray daily and ask Jesus into my heart but I've been agnostic since the beginning of trying to be Christian more than 10 years ago. My husband is Christian. I pray to God in Jesus' name and I do have faith even though my belief is certainly not solid, if that makes any sense.
I know Christians will always say my new relationship is wrong as I am still legally married (husband moved out) but I have never felt married nor had any evidence of marriage other than a certificate. We had no home, he refused to work or have a house or have children and made my life miserable, he was psychologically and physically abusive.
I felt such an immense weight off me and a sense if strength I never had when I would not take him back after he said he wanted to divorce me. He's finally unable to ruin my life anymore. He threatened to kill me and my partner.
My partner is a genuinely good man and it's heartbreaking to have people just say our relationship is just sin and that I should be with my ex who threatened my life on many occasions. I can only hope and pray that that's not what Gods will is for me. My husband certainly used quotes from the bible to try and get me to stay with him but denied all verses that spoke about his responsibilities as a husband.
 
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I'm so glad you said you won't go back to the abusive relationship...really you are doing the right thing there wholeheartedly and ANYONE who says differently needs to re-address their faith in my humble opinion and I would hope they are not a Leader in any church. What I would say is to give yourself some space to really grieve what happened. (I can say this as I've been there) - I know you have a new relationship and it probably feels great but we can subliminally ruin a new relationship because we are still 'mentally' in the old one and recovering from the scars...if your new fella really loves you, he'll know when to back off and give you time to overcome all that has happened.
I will most certainly pray for you and your partner and believe me when I say that the Lord really does want you to blossom and for you to know a deeper love. I'm also glad the Laptop data has been recovered :0) Many Blessings Lexie
 
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