Anti-Crush Activists

Quieted said:

I came by this article, and it really hit home to me since I was raised in a bit of a dysfunctional family and around controlling/abusive people. I really think that these warning signs are so important to know:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201506/20-signs-your-partner-is-controlling

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Oh yes... I think we've all at some point met people like this. I learned the hard way and began questioning a "friend" with those qualities as well as a narcissist, rather than myself. I came to the conclusion before Googling what I was experiencing, and found my hunch was correct. It wasn't me! And I can say that positively!

What a cool thread idea!!

We could ask the moderators to close all active crush threads. Seriously they are annoying. No, I don't have a crush. And don't plan on having one either.

All my friendships are real and reciprocal.

Nice thread. I'm happy with no crush in sight!

Narcissists only have one relationship thats more important than anyone, its the me myself and I relationship.

If you ever had the misfortune to watch sex and the city, at the end of that series carrie bradshaw says the most important relationship she has (after about 45 odd boyfriends) is with herself.
And she has a crush on Mr Big, who doesnt reciprocate until they decide to milk the series for all its worth and make some really bad movies in which they attempt to get married.

I like the thread. Being infatuated with ideas of someone in your head, thinking of being in love with them, can be detrimental to the soul. It's a form of a lack of being content.
I don't need ____(enter crushes name) in my life to be happy. I'd rather be holy, and righteous in God's eyes.

Typical liberul.

Ohhhh....so do I need to match up the anti activists?

I am just kidding.

I should come back here, I never managed to see my crush again, excitement has faded away.

I don't allow myself to get crushes anymore. I simply recognize that I may be very attracted to someone visually, but it doesn't go much more beyond me acknowledging that she simply is just very attractive in her exterior, but until I know her, I know nothing about her beliefs, personality, values. I just know that she's pleasant to look at, but there has to be a lot more for me than just physical attraction.

crushes distort my perception of a person. last time I did that I almost got into huge trouble. thank God she literally hated me lol.

I guess crushes are a stronger form of attraction? I don't even want to feel attraction. I wish it would go away. I wish i could feel those things to God more. its so hard without distorting myself, I don't even know how to be a person anymore but apparently I am one. for years I have fallen in love with God and it is ruining me. I feel something more intense than a crush, it feels like a good madness. so ashamed I am to exist in this world because I can't find God enough. the way I use words changed and changed, I stopping trying to speak english but I guess i still do. everything I feel I try to feel towards God but my body won't cooperate all the way and I hate it. my soul does not have full integrity and it must for God.

crushes are nothing compared to what love is but I think crushes are part of it and so they should not be hated so much. but it is so sad when all a person has is a crush or something like it and then when that feeling wears off in about a year the relationship turns sour.

love makes one very biased. imagine how God feels for us!

but still, that is one reason why God gives us the dark night of the soul, so that we don't just have the feeling of pleasure or affection to him. it is hard to distinguish the difference between pleasure and love. i think that love causes pleasure and so it is bad for saints to try to love to feel pleasure but the pleasure itself is pure unless otherwise defiled. you CAN get a crush on God because you can have spiritual visions and that kind of thing. it will just be an image but it is a blessing that God gives to some of his. I hope anyone who seeks God will have one that they may be strengthened and have a crush that won't cause torments.

but crushes are not good enough because they are not strong enough. crushes are one sided, a terrible deformity that needs completion. Gods love is so much more, I really hope we can personally know God. he is not supposed to be only transcendent for us. he is also to be eminent, imminent, immanent.

down with crushes! up with crushes!

GQ Chris said:

I don't allow myself to get crushes anymore. I simply recognize that I may be very attracted to someone visually, but it doesn't go much more beyond me acknowledging that she simply is just very attractive in her exterior, but until I know her, I know nothing about her beliefs, personality, values. I just know that she's pleasant to look at, but there has to be a lot more for me than just physical attraction.

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Agreed, on all counts.

Plus, a crush is nothing. Really, even if you think it's overwhelming and all-consuming, it doesn't even come close to falling in love with someone. Not by a long chalk.

Crushes are just fragments of your imagination. Love is VERY real.

Travelers.Soul said:

Ohhhh....so do I need to match up the anti activists?

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Who has time for crushes anyway?

Ain't got no time for laryngitis or a cold Crush...

The Bible exhorts us to 'flee youthful lusts' which is what a crush is.

We had a memory verse to teach children in bibles in schools which had that it's 2 Timothy 2:22.

however since it was like 8-10 year olds we just said a paraphrase - 'Do the right thing'.

I asked, should we teach the children what a youthful lust is? And the teacher said, uh, no, they don't need to know that. lol.

mojoboy31 said:

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I should match you up next....hmmmmmm.....who could I pair you up with?

Travelers.Soul said:

I should match you up next....hmmmmmm.....who could I pair you up with?

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