Why would you even think that is the meaning behind it? (scratches head) I don't even understand how you landed there.
Who said women can't control their emotions?
You seem to be reading into things that aren't there.
In principle, happy wife, happy life means that if you do the simple things to make her happy (i.e. take care of your responsibilities around the house, be generally attentive, loving and considerate, etc.), then you'll have a happy life together since she'll have nothing to complain about. Yes, simplistic definition but more what the author was driving at - as did others. It's still kind of silly phrase, yet in many ways was meant with good intent.
Many of the women you speaking to you have husbands they love and cherish, so to say they have some 'quest' to show men are always wrong, etc? That just plain doesn't line up with logic. You seem to have a prejudicial view towards women that don't view life, faith, etc the way same you do.
You seem to be very cynical, and have a seriously jaded outlook on life towards others. I feel sorry for you. God would never wish that for you EVER!