New struggling with Same Sex Attraction

rodM89 said:

Hello,
I'm new to this site. I just searched for Christian online community because I am in desperate need of it which leads me here. I'm a 25 year old male who have experienced and struggled with my struggle for several years now. Not always though. I did however struggle with feeling different from all the other boys when I was younger and I never quite was able to figure out sexuality and be like one of the boys. I didn't feel a strong attraction to the opposite sex and I felt pressured to like girls and be with a girl which made me feel like something was wrong with me. It wasn't too long that I would question my sexuality and make that that connection with being attracted to the same sex first through inappropriate contentography and liking guys which started a downhill spiral. It's been several years like I said which lead me to being other guys and acting out on my lustful desires. Eventually I would have moments when God would draw me back to him and I was actively pursuing holiness and be to putting to death the works of the flesh but it's a very rocky journey at times. It's a bit of a rollercoaster and it seems like the dips only gets deeper and deeper and I get discouraged at times after failing so times. So it's a struggle.

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If you remain in the Lord you will be fine. I have dealt with this for years, and still do to a very slight degree now. I don't consider it a dominant issue in my life and I do not describe myself using the term "homosexual", and in my opinion neither should you since you are not advocating that lifestyle. You and I are regular people that have dealt with perverted lusts. And like any other Christian, we have been forgiven and saved from those things, and need to walk in the Spirit so that we may put to death the deeds of the flesh.

In my humble opinion, you attraction to women is there and always has been; it has just been subdued and skewed this whole time. At least that is what it felt like for me getting back to a healthy mindset and away from homosexual desires.

I will say that my biggest risk area is when I am around anyone else who allows homosexuality in their life - it is always good to avoid being in any close, exclusive relationship with someone who has not completely repented of that.

I hear you and the first thing you do is seek the Lord for this. Also if you have not done so go to Church and be active in the church. Also be part of church small groups that meet weekly or fortnightly. In addition I recommend you to share this struggle with a trusted Christian within your church, especially if they are a Church leader. Also I highly recommend you to seek out male friendships who are Christian. The do not need to know of your struggles but all Christian men have their struggles.

Father I pray blessings on this request and for the healing of this condition in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.

rodM89 said:

Hello,
I'm new to this site. I just searched for Christian online community because I am in desperate need of it which leads me here. I'm a 25 year old male who have experienced and struggled with my struggle for several years now. Not always though. I did however struggle with feeling different from all the other boys when I was younger and I never quite was able to figure out sexuality and be like one of the boys. I didn't feel a strong attraction to the opposite sex and I felt pressured to like girls and be with a girl which made me feel like something was wrong with me. It wasn't too long that I would question my sexuality and make that that connection with being attracted to the same sex first through inappropriate contentography and liking guys which started a downhill spiral. It's been several years like I said which lead me to being other guys and acting out on my lustful desires. Eventually I would have moments when God would draw me back to him and I was actively pursuing holiness and be to putting to death the works of the flesh but it's a very rocky journey at times. It's a bit of a rollercoaster and it seems like the dips only gets deeper and deeper and I get discouraged at times after failing so times. So it's a struggle.

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God through the name of Jesus our savior I ask you to heal this man of his wounds father people have told this man he is evil of being the why you made him father help him find a suitable spouse that will love him and love you amen

rodM89 said:

Honestly I'm struggling with that because I do not where my attraction to women or the lack thereof lies. I don't know if I will be able to be with a woman or even be sexually attracted to a woman. I don't know if that type of a change is for me or is even possible. Is it possible? I don't know sometimes but I am encouraged by the testimonies of people who have transformation take place in their lives.

Thanks for responses!

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Yes it is possible in my opinion. I don't know you, but I'd be willing to bet there are deep-seated lies that you have come to accept, unbeknownst to you, that have been feeding this lust.

In your journey, try to avoid these cliche' mistakes:

1) Thinking that you have not overcome this issue until you have no temptation in this area

Jesus was tempted to sin, yet He never sinned. Temptation does not equal sin. The way you overcome this issue is through the cross that saved us from the penalty and the curse of sin. If you repent of sin and believe in Jesus, then you are saved from sin, right now, at this very moment. Unfortunately I think many Christians have a twisted understanding of this to where we have to work to maintain out salvation or work for our salvation.

2) Trying to make yourself be attracted to the opposite sex.

I have never heard of this working and I can't imagine it would be very successful.

3) Praying for God to take away the desires and getting mad when they don't go away.

The Lord gave us all the tools we need to overcome this; if we don't use them, I'm not sure how you can get mad at God for that. There is so much more I could go into about this, but I will just leave this short note for now unless you have questions.

4) Quitting

Winners never quit. It may sound cliche' but it's true. Jesus said to keep knocking, keep searching.



Satan's plan in this is to get you to believe that this sin is who you ARE. Jesus wants you to believe in Him so you can be CLEAN and know that you are clean. You have a whole world system that will tell that that this is who you are - you have to decide whether you believe the world on this one, or if you believe God on this one.

I hope this helps.