If these are just your preferences, why get all mad? Is this about morality, or is it about your preferences?
Because, people tell me I'm not being "Christian" if I don't accept those who don't fit my preferences.
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If these are just your preferences, why get all mad? Is this about morality, or is it about your preferences?
As I stated before, since I'm not of that particular bent, I don't mention men, but men are much more vile in the area of sexual immorality than women.
It isn't bitterness and resentment toward women. Its the bitterness and resentment toward the casual acceptance of sin.
The action is not as important as the reaction(sin --> repentance).
God found sin so disgusting and unconscionable that He sent His only begotten Son to die, bearing the weight of sin.
Yet even He who hates sin so much can forgive those that repent.
Why can't you? Do you feel cheated that they 'got away with it'? Because if you do you aren't angry at them, you're angry at God and His grace.
I decided to see what you said, so I clicked show ignored member's post.
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Either ignore me or not. You're acting worse than a 2 year old sometimes, not on your own term.
If 100k people marry each year, but 50k of all married people divorce each year, then the overall divorce rate is 50%.
I put you on ignore awhile back. Occasionally, when I see that someone I have on ignore posts a comment, I get curious.
See, this is another tactic used by feminists. If you say something they don't agree with, they say things like "your acting immature", "woman hater", or something else they feel is an "insult" in order to try and "shame" you. I'm actually being pretty nice. I don't think I have tried to personally insult a specific person on this thread. Ive disagreed with many, but I haven't actually resorted to name calling.
So, for more than a decade I have heard "Well, if you don't accept my past you aren't a Christian".
No, it's not, but hatred and unforgivness are...which are the only things most of us are seeing from this thread.Anger is not a sin.
That wasn't graphic, that was a list. Graphic would have been describing how those injuries could have been inflicted. And no, I don't get any satisfaction out of my past. Quite the opposite, but I'm not going to hide my sins, either. I will admit them openly as we are instructed to do. There are people who are much worse than I, and if even one of them says to themselves, "If someone as low and vile as he can be accepted by God, then I can, too". Then, it is worth all the name calling and insults. Your name calling and insults are as water on a ducks back to me.
What you mistake for a "superiority complex" is just my upbringing, which I didn't choose. When you live on a farm you learn how to do those things. When your family runs short of food during a bad year, you learn what things you can eat which grow wild. Its called growing up poor. Telling the truth isn't bragging even if it makes Darth Bagel feel inadequate. There are many, many people that have far more "skills" than I. Most people have skills I know nothing about. But because they know more than me, or know different things than me, and they talk about it, I don't assume they are bragging. I appreciate it when people talk about the things they know because I may learn something. BlackRibbon and I don't agree on much, but when it comes to medical issues, I would listen to her. I enjoyed giving dreaminofireland that stack cake recipe because she enjoyed the praise her father gave her. She thanked me, but I didn't receive kudos for it because she was the one who made it. And for people who truly are braggarts, kudos are all that matter.
Truly, most of the people here are only words on a forum. Which is why I don't usually get angry when people try to insult me online.
And where did I ever "brag" about murder?
And I have never suggested killing someone if they "cross me".
I have repeatedly stated that I am as low of a sinner as has ever walked the earth.
Based on the "bad boy" thread I was going to see if you were a member of that forum. It looks like they're under new ownership and my 12 year old account is gone so I wasn't able to search the member list.This is known as MGTOW or Men Going Their Own Way.
Based on the "bad boy" thread I was going to see if you were a member of that forum. It looks like they're under new ownership and my 12 year old account is gone so I wasn't able to search the member list.
MGTOW and theredpill are highly toxic communities. The majority are atheist/agnostic. It looks like MGTOW removed their religious sub forum and replaced it with a philosophical one instead. MGTOW has a strong preference for using escorts/prostitutes/massage parlors instead of having serious relationships.
The one useful piece of information from MGTOW was that if you wanted to get married, you should marry someone from an eastern country (one that is not feminized). You already made reference to that, so maybe you are an old member or a quick reader?
Have you thought about moving to Japan or Eastern Europe?
Now, while I wouldn't express myself quite like @William67, I'll have to admit that I understand his frustration.
Furthermore, the fact that he (as a male) resents dating woman with multiple parters in the past, is actually quite atypical. Usually males are the ones who are the most promiscuous. Now, our brother here is obviously not afraid to speak his mind, but I'm not sure if anyone here would have protested if William67 was a woman, and a tad more soft-spoken.
For here is the thing, many Christian women seemingly agree 100% with William67 about this! If you're a guy with a past, Christian women will apparently more often than not, hold your past against you. For instance, check out this thread, where a young, nice Christian male admits that “good” female Christians won't touch him with a ten foot pole: http://www.christianforums.com/thre...bout-dating-a-man-with-a-sinful-past.7897344/
We also had a thread last summer where the question was, “would you date people with a past”, and the consensus seemed to be “it depends”. http://www.christianforums.com/thre...marry-someone-who-was-once-an-addict.7896880/
William67 isn't alone in stating that sometimes it's difficult to forget someone's past, even if they have repented and are forgiven by God. I had a quick look, and there are many threads like these on this forum. I think he actually describes a real phenomenon; if you're a person who have avoided sexual sins, it can be difficult psychologically to date someone who is, ahem, experienced. For some guys the mere thought of marrying someone who've had multiple partners in their past, is actually quite terrifying!
Here are some relevant threads about this:
http://www.christianforums.com/threads/bothered-by-fiances-past.7829484/
http://www.christianforums.com/thre...r-of-dating-girls-with-a-sexual-past.7735837/
http://www.christianforums.com/threads/im-curious-would-you-personally-marry-a-non-virgin.7660805/
To sum it up, William67 isn't always the most diplomatic person when it comes to the way he expresses himself, but I think that perhaps we've given him too much flak in this thread. We're talking about his feelings here, and it's not really possible to argue with emotions. We'll have to respect that he feels this way, in the same way that we have to respect all those women out there who are scared of guys with a past.
Your standards are fine to have. I agree with them. No one should marry anyone that they don't want to marry. But, your rant sounds a lot like the rantings of my former co-worker. My vote is that you don't get married. Marriage is a ministry to your spouse and your children. You do sound like you would be suspicious of your spouse even if she was a good and honest "good" girl. They are out there; I know more than a few. But, I doubt they would be charmed by your attitude towards women specifically and your rage unless you hid that from them. I don't say that to insult you; it's just reality. Calling women "harlots" isn't very attractive even if their behavior is questionable. Rahab was a prostitute and a liar and yet repented and then married and was in the direct line of Christ; so obviously God doesn't think women with pasts are useless and unfit for marriage or to raise children. Boaz turned out pretty well, I guess. You don't have to marry someone with a past; but to be so hateful and angry towards anyone that has changed is not really in line with God. Just don't marry them. It's pretty simple really.
1) The tone of your post seem to brag about your family and your violent sentences. You seem proud of it.
2) "These are people who are much worse than I" - You are not better than those who have had sex before marraige, regardless of what you think. That attitude is the definition of self-righteousness and the attitude of the pharisees.
3) "Your name calling and insults..." if you didn't have a problem without your pride, toughness, and masculinity, you wouldn't have said that sentence.
The people who don't think they have a pride problem are generally the ones who have a pride problem.
Exactly part of your problem if you see the people on only words on a forum.
I never said they were irredeemable. I said I didn't want to marry someone with an immoral past.
"For her doctor, it was chemo or nothing. He offered her no alternatives. The day after her funeral, I had an almost overwhelming urge to grab a rifle and put 15 rounds into her doctor's worthless skull." - Controversial Opinion thread, post#146
Most of the other posts have been removed, but the countless times you've talked about how your family has killed various people from business rivals to police officers.
In one of those "You Test" threads back in the summer/fall, you went into detail about how you would essentially brutally kill anyone who crossed you.
You main claim to be the lowest sinner, but you're not those people. It doesn't matter how low you claim to be if you don't actually act like, which sense you've essentially made two threads now calling out and shaming people because you haven't done what they have done, shows that you don't actually believe you are as low of a sinner as ever walked the Earth.
There is an old saying, "Plain talk is easily understood". I am a blunt person, always have been. Ive always seen "hemming and hawing" around a subject to be a form of cowardice masquerading as civility. Some people see that as being rude or "harsh", but its just being honest.