When I was in high school, college, and post-college I had lots of friends. I was social, really outgoing, confident, funny - the life of the party, I suppose. But then I got older, my friends got older, our lives changed (new relationships, marriages, kids, jobs, change in political affiliations, etc) and we all grew apart. With a few friends it was the typical losing touch over time deal, but with others it was my choice to remove them them from my life (for reasons I won't bother you with here).
Now, as an adult (I'm 31), I have found myself to be lonely and longing for that special bond of friendship. Sure, I have people I talk to online whom I've gotten to know through special interest groups (my husband and I are childfree by choice), and yeah I occasionally text my maid of honor and maybe see her once every few months, but other than that, I have no one. Well, let me rephrase that, I have no one other than my best friend, my husband. Buuut, a girl does need her girlfriends, too.
To make matters worse, I don't work and I realize that having a job is a great social connector. Then there's the fact that I am Christian and most people my husband and I meet are either liberal and don't see eye-to-eye on certain things that build strong friendships OR we come across the random Christian, but they are so strict that it's hard to feel free to be ourselves. My husband and I are rather conservative (and aren't afraid to voice our political opinions online), but we like to have fun, throw back a few drinks, perhaps enjoy a cigar or two on special occasions, and we have weird senses of humor (Cards of Humanity, hello!) as well. It seems impossible to find that perfect fit with friends. Lord only knows how we found each other! Ha haa!
And yes, I do realize I keep talking about finding friends as if I want a couple-friend for me AND my husband, but really it doesn't matter either way to me right now. I would just like to start filling the void, you know?
So, LOOONG story short, does anyone have any advice or tips or experiences they can share for how I may find some new friends? It seriously gets to me and really gets me down from time to time and I'm done sitting here feeling sorry for myself. It's time for action!
Thanks in advance, everyone. And sorry for the rambling post.
Now, as an adult (I'm 31), I have found myself to be lonely and longing for that special bond of friendship. Sure, I have people I talk to online whom I've gotten to know through special interest groups (my husband and I are childfree by choice), and yeah I occasionally text my maid of honor and maybe see her once every few months, but other than that, I have no one. Well, let me rephrase that, I have no one other than my best friend, my husband. Buuut, a girl does need her girlfriends, too.
To make matters worse, I don't work and I realize that having a job is a great social connector. Then there's the fact that I am Christian and most people my husband and I meet are either liberal and don't see eye-to-eye on certain things that build strong friendships OR we come across the random Christian, but they are so strict that it's hard to feel free to be ourselves. My husband and I are rather conservative (and aren't afraid to voice our political opinions online), but we like to have fun, throw back a few drinks, perhaps enjoy a cigar or two on special occasions, and we have weird senses of humor (Cards of Humanity, hello!) as well. It seems impossible to find that perfect fit with friends. Lord only knows how we found each other! Ha haa!
And yes, I do realize I keep talking about finding friends as if I want a couple-friend for me AND my husband, but really it doesn't matter either way to me right now. I would just like to start filling the void, you know?
So, LOOONG story short, does anyone have any advice or tips or experiences they can share for how I may find some new friends? It seriously gets to me and really gets me down from time to time and I'm done sitting here feeling sorry for myself. It's time for action!
Thanks in advance, everyone. And sorry for the rambling post.