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I don't usually talk about personal things here, but this has been bothering me lately.
I know I like to encourage those who are struggling with singleness and to help them wait on God and His perfect timing, but truthfully I have been struggling with this myself. I have my good days where it seems easy and I feel everything is as it should be, but I unfortunately also have my bad days where it's just so hard and the tears seem to never stop flowing. I know God has a plan for everything, but sometimes it's just hard.
I've tried all the traditional avenues like being set up on dates, online dating and even attempting to get to know some people here in Singles after some friends had success with it and nothing has worked. I feel like I've exhausted all avenues and there's nothing left to try. So, naturally I'm left wondering just how am I going to meet anyone if I've tried it all? I honestly feel kind of hopeless and I know I shouldn't because there is always hope in God.
So, I'm just asking for prayers from y'all that God would help me to get through this and come out a better and stronger person and maybe even with a special someone. I don't usually ask for prayer because I am admittedly very prideful in that regard, but I feel like if God hears the prayers of many it's more effective. Sometimes I feel like mine aren't enough.
Anyway, I've thoroughly embarrassed myself now, so I'm gonna run. LOL
God bless
Don't be embarrassed, we've all been there. I know what you mean, some days it's easy to be single and see it as a blessing, but others it is not easy. I've tried everything as well, maybe we need to find out how couples really ended up together (suspicious face). Seriously, if you ever need anything, I'm a PM away!
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A verse that often has given me consolation is Proverbs 19:14. I often think about this verse, I believe it tells us something important about finding a spouse...
"A house and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD."
In other words, our parents can give us temporal wealth, but they cannot give us someone to marry. A godly wife (or a husband, of course) is a gift from God, it's an inheritance from our Lord. I think this is kind of liberating in a way. A gift (or an inheritance) isn't something we can demand or deserve, it fully depends on the Giver.
Our job is to be in the right relationship to God, not to go out of our way to make this “inheritance” happen. If we are sons and daughters of God we can trust that he is in control, and that he'll give us everything we need for our happiness.
"A house and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD."
In other words, our parents can give us temporal wealth, but they cannot give us someone to marry. A godly wife (or a husband, of course) is a gift from God, it's an inheritance from our Lord. I think this is kind of liberating in a way. A gift (or an inheritance) isn't something we can demand or deserve, it fully depends on the Giver.
Our job is to be in the right relationship to God, not to go out of our way to make this “inheritance” happen. If we are sons and daughters of God we can trust that he is in control, and that he'll give us everything we need for our happiness.
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Thanks Matt!
And yeah, I'm curious about how some people end up together as well.
Alcohol?
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I know how you feel.I have my good days where it seems easy and I feel everything is as it should be, but I unfortunately also have my bad days where it's just so hard
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For me the feeling come and goes. One day, strong in faith. The other day, walking in hope.
Two days ago I was plain upset, not understanding why it was taking so long to find someone who likes God and His ways. I was driving, there was a Christian song playing and I just didn't feel like praising at that time. This is common, It's easy to not feel like praising when you've been praying and waiting for one thing for so long.
I realized I had to separate Praise from Expectation.
Feelings aside, I'll praise God no matter what. He's been too good to me.
I don't praise Him because I want something from Him, I praise Him because He's a good God.
My relationship with God is not solely because of what I can get from Him but because He's a good God.
I am in expectancy for something, that's true; but that would not affect my overall relationship with God.
While I'm waiting for Him to be a wife provider, He's right now being a protector, a good father, a great friend, a path maker, a healer and all the other great things He's doing for me.
This is not to say that sometimes I wont feel like questioning the wait but I have the comfort, knowing He is working for me.
When that feeling comes, I simply pray. I pray for patience. Patience to wait on Him rather than going to find someone for myself.
It's always good to know we are not in this alone, let me know when you need encouragement.
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Whenever I see Jeremiah 29:11 quoted, it makes me want to throw a Bible at someone.
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Yes, these are my thoughts exactly! I completely agree with you, too.
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I don't usually talk about personal things here, but this has been bothering me lately.
I know I like to encourage those who are struggling with singleness and to help them wait on God and His perfect timing, but truthfully I have been struggling with this myself. I have my good days where it seems easy and I feel everything is as it should be, but I unfortunately also have my bad days where it's just so hard and the tears seem to never stop flowing. I know God has a plan for everything, but sometimes it's just hard.
I've tried all the traditional avenues like being set up on dates, online dating and even attempting to get to know some people here in Singles after some friends had success with it and nothing has worked. I feel like I've exhausted all avenues and there's nothing left to try. So, naturally I'm left wondering just how am I going to meet anyone if I've tried it all? I honestly feel kind of hopeless and I know I shouldn't because there is always hope in God.
So, I'm just asking for prayers from y'all that God would help me to get through this and come out a better and stronger person and maybe even with a special someone. I don't usually ask for prayer because I am admittedly very prideful in that regard, but I feel like if God hears the prayers of many it's more effective. Sometimes I feel like mine aren't enough.
Anyway, I've thoroughly embarrassed myself now, so I'm gonna run. LOL
God bless
I know how you feel and I think most of us on here can relate to how you feel. I'm in a similar situation and unfortunately other than saying just keep praying and trusting God I don't have any advice. I'll be praying for you and I hope you feel better soon.
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