Mail Order Brides?

Goodbook · Nov 26, 2015

Actually, there IS mail order sperm donors apparently.

leothelioness · Nov 26, 2015

Deidre32 said:
It's one thing to meet someone visiting your country from another country, and you have chemistry, and decide to begin dating...and perhaps, the person moves back to their country, and you have a long distance thing going. But, to SEEK out ONLY women over seas, is just odd to me. There are occasional success stories, but it's naive to think that women from other countries who wish to live in the states, aren't potentially opportunistic and will feign being interested in a man, in order to obtain that...I've read stories to this effect. Kind of sad.

Agree with this.

I think it's a bit opportunistic and maybe even a bit predatory in a way. Most of those women come from poor countries and just want a better life and the men are taking advantage of that. Kind of sad, really.

leothelioness · Nov 26, 2015

William67 said:
That's just it. Most of the men who seek mail order brides have tried the "old fashioned" way, but unfortunately, they are also looking for old fashioned women. Those are as scarce as hens teeth in the US.

They do still exist, though. They just might not be where you're looking. They're usually sat at home doing their own thing.

I'm probably about as traditional as they come, but I'm also not a girl about town. I'd rather be at home than partying. So, needless to say, I would be pretty hard for most guys to find.

SnowyMacie · Nov 26, 2015

William67 said:
Didn't see your post until Cearbhall quoted it. So, you think its "creepy and desperate" for men to "not settle"? Creepy and desperate is the guy who marries the first girl who looks at him, no matter how low class she happens to be. These men don't limit themselves to just the type of women around them. My uncle could have had any woman he wanted. He was kind, he had money, owed no debts, and didn't have the baggage of divorces behind him. He chose the woman he wanted. That's not desperate or creepy.

It doesn't matter how many women he could have had, what he thought of American women, or that he choose who he wanted. It's incredibly distasteful to joke about a human being shipped in a box (because human trafficking is still a very real thing today), it's a bit creepy to have a catalog of women (online dating includes a lot more than just a picture and their location), and it's desperate to go through that whole process instead of choosing celibacy.

Cearbhall · Nov 26, 2015

William67 said:
I could tell you the things my uncle said about American women, and why he chose to find a foreign wife, but you really wouldn't like it.

Oh, I can guess, and those are exactly the sort of beliefs to which I'm referring. Not to say anything against your uncle in particular, but I find it much more likely that the problem is the man who has to mail for a wife, rather than there being something wrong with every single woman in America.

It's rather troubling for a man to have something against all the women around him.

Toro · Nov 26, 2015

I tried a mail order bride once.

After a week she said she missed home.

That Bosnia must be a beautiful place.

Toro · Nov 26, 2015

leothelioness said:
They do still exist, though. They just might not be where you're looking. They're usually sat at home doing their own thing.

I'm probably about as traditional as they come, but I'm also not a girl about town. I'd rather be at home than partying. So, needless to say, I would be pretty hard for most guys to find.

Thats just cause they aren't dedicated enough to drive near your house with their head out the window screaming "Leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeooooooooooooooooooooooo?!?!"

SnowyMacie · Nov 26, 2015

leothelioness said:
They do still exist, though. They just might not be where you're looking. They're usually sat at home doing their own thing.

I'm probably about as traditional as they come, but I'm also not a girl about town. I'd rather be at home than partying. So, needless to say, I would be pretty hard for most guys to find.

It's cause you're a Bama fan [emoji14]

Goodbook · Nov 26, 2015

Drive by dating. Could be an option.

leothelioness · Nov 26, 2015

TX_Matt said:
It's cause you're a Bama fan [emoji14]

Oh, hush now. ^_^

leothelioness · Nov 26, 2015

Goodbook said:
Drive by dating. Could be an option.

Lol, that sounds like it would be interesting.

Toro · Nov 26, 2015

Goodbook said:
Drive by dating. Could be an option.

leothelioness said:
Lol, that sounds like it would be interesting.

See? I knew having an awesome car isn't wasted money.

Bull in an awesome muscle car is so much better than a bull in a Prius.

SnowyMacie · Nov 26, 2015

leothelioness said:
Lol, that sounds like it would be interesting.

Actually, that used to totally be a thing in Texas! Back in the 50s and such when drive-in food places were popular, high schoolers would go hang out there and girls would go park their cars and guys would drive around to see who they liked.

Tom Mix · Nov 26, 2015

I have no opinion on mail order brides but yesterday I did see a car going down the road that offered maid service, now that is genius. If I could remember the name of the service I would call them to do my dishes.

Goodbook · Nov 26, 2015

Maybe a little chopper bike.
Hed have to do some circuits round my street as its a cul de sac.
Then Id go out wandering what all the noise is and why he kept driving round my house.
He would have this little flag on the back of his bike showing me he available (not red).
Then. He would leave some flowers in my letterbox.

I would naturally be drawn to ask, hey cool,bike. Can I have a ride? And then we would ride to the nearest bridal shop.

Yeshuas_My_Freedom · Nov 26, 2015

Carnegie said:
Hey all, I'm fairly new to these parts. I was just curious what you good folks here think about the concept of mail order brides? It seems like kind of an archaic practice, but I've met some folks over the past few years who are basically using that same practice.

What do you think about it?

It's naive and a sign of desperation. There are plenty of people to date in one's home town. Ordering one from a foreign country is ridiculous.

Carnegie · Nov 26, 2015

William67 said:
Really? So, you've only ever dated virgins? Are you over 18? If she sleeps around, she is not old fashioned.

Yeah as a matter of fact. I'm in my 20's and so are the women I've seen, except for one who was in her early 30's. They all dressed modestly, hadn't slept with anybody and they had good family values. I met one at a BBQ, another at a potluck, and I actually met another at a sock hop my friends put on at the local rec center.

Carnegie · Nov 26, 2015

Cearbhall said:
That sort of power dynamic can lead to a lot of problems, not in the least because many men use it to find a submissive woman from a more misogynistic culture instead of adjusting to their own culture. I'm sure there are examples where nothing goes wrong, but you have to think about why they had to go to such lengths to find a spouse.

^

I could see that being the case. I think a lot of us western guys believe the stereotype that Asian women are all quiet and just looking to be dominated by a big white man.

Carnegie · Nov 26, 2015

Yeshuas_My_Freedom said:
It's naive and a sign of desperation. There are plenty of people to date in one's home town. Ordering one from a foreign country is ridiculous.

It seems silly since there are so many ways these days to connect with women in your town. Or even in other towns around the country.

Goodbook · Nov 26, 2015

in your dreams.
The reality is, asian women most want to live in a country where they can have a house with a lawn and bring up their children without living in what amounts to a jail cell i.e an apartment. It doesn't matter if you are white...really.

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