Living with NON-CHRISTIANS

I dont think you are in the wrong if you do but perhaps it would be good to consider if you are strong enough in the Lord not to get dragged into a worldly mindset and way of life if you choose to live with non-Christians.. it is very difficult not to get depressed when day after day you see people living in a way that is not pleasing to the Lord. Trust me I have lived with people who said they are Christian but do not live like it and I thought it wouldnt affect me but it did. And I had a good support system - went to church and homegroup regularly but it still affected me.

By contrast it can be uplifting and strengthening to live with believers.. not always of course but as a general rule they will be wanting to go to church so it is easier to go and things like that which support honoring the Lord rather than not.

It is up to you but personally I haveffoundit easier and more empowering to live with people on a similar wavelength.

I don't know. You could be asking for hardship, but maybe not. It could be okay, or it could be a problem. They obviously have different values than you do, and it could easily become a point of strife and irritation, and maybe even influence you to compromise your own values. If you do move in with them, you may want to not make any kind of long term commitment.

Remember, we are to be 'in the world' but not 'of the world'.

I hope that you can bring your friends to a closer relationship with Christ and maybe invite them to church. Jesus is the GOOD NEWS!

IAMANOBODY2015 said:

I am in the process of moving to a larger city. I live in a small town. I am moving in with non-Christians. One of my roommates actually considers herself to be a Christian, but she does not live the Christian lifestyle. She is 32 and is living with her 20 year old boyfriend who I actually like. My mom, who is a devout Christian, is strongly opposed to this.

Am I in the wrong for moving in with non-believers, or one that considers herself a Christian but doesn't live the lifestyle?

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I don't see any problem. Here in Holland if you go study you live in a students' home with most of the time unbelievers. I was Lucky, I lived in two homes with believers. But christians here shack up and stuff, so one guy took his girfriend over, the other ones were kinda shacking up. So what? I was not shacking up, they were. I didn't drink wit them or go to disco's, no wait I actually did two times, hang out in a cafe and went to a godless concert with them. Just don't do such things and for the rest be a Light.

It's very challenging, but just think, you could be the most positive insight into who God is that your roommates have ever experienced Praying for you.

Hello Friend

In my experience there is a balance to be struck. As some have posted very wisely we are called to be salt and light, just a little pinch of salt in the food to season it, like one Christian in the midst of non-Christians. If you can be a witness there then great. Sometimes that can happen.

However sometimes there is a point in certain situations at which rather than you being a witness to those in the world they can actually drag you down spiritually. Sometimes that can happen too, rather than converting the world they try to convert you. That time would be 'come ye out from among them and be separate'

Only through discernment and prayer can you know the specifics of your situation and if it's best to stay or not.

Be a witness but keep your integrity and purity!

God Bless, hope this helps

If you are Christian and live as a Christian, and you live with the world... they will hate you.
There is no way around it. The more you show them righteousness and read the word... the more they will hate you.
Beware.

Well for me when I question things of this nature it usually means I'm pretty unsure about doing it. To me that mostly means no I shouldn't. That's me tho. U got lots of good replies here to ponder. B prayerful and I will b praying with u. There may b a lot of other things you'll have to overlook beyond them living together which can b tiresome.

IAMANOBODY2015 said:

I am in the process of moving to a larger city. I live in a small town. I am moving in with non-Christians. One of my roommates actually considers herself to be a Christian, but she does not live the Christian lifestyle. She is 32 and is living with her 20 year old boyfriend who I actually like. My mom, who is a devout Christian, is strongly opposed to this.

Am I in the wrong for moving in with non-believers, or one that considers herself a Christian but doesn't live the lifestyle?

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depends.
1. how close you are with your room mates ? only say-hi-hi simply help her washing dishes, after that you go to your room ? or everyday you pour out your feeling to her and explain about problems in office or school ?
2. if you close with her, and you have strong bonding with her, then more bonding means more no-no to go with her.
3. if you think she is just a friend to lower your bill, meaning you use her wallet instead of you depends on her emotionaly, then it means you are in control. it is fine. the more you are independent more yes-yes.

what personality your are. choleric, phlegmatic, sanguine, melancholic ?

4. if you are phlegmatic + melancholic... the best practice is no. you are easily swayed and no strong anchor. but easy to get fren meaning easy to get polutted imo.
5. if you are choleric + sanguine... the best practice is yes. you are naturaly manipulator imo. you always in control and with your saguine, you can influence people. perhaps correct her bad attitude by being influential.

so back to the word: depends.

IAMANOBODY2015 said:

I am in the process of moving to a larger city. I live in a small town. I am moving in with non-Christians. One of my roommates actually considers herself to be a Christian, but she does not live the Christian lifestyle. She is 32 and is living with her 20 year old boyfriend who I actually like. My mom, who is a devout Christian, is strongly opposed to this.

Am I in the wrong for moving in with non-believers, or one that considers herself a Christian but doesn't live the lifestyle?

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Are you called to be light? Aren't you called to be salt? Aren't we told to NOT place a basket over our light (to hide away from the world)

The greatest testimony is the one LIVED with your life. You walk upright before Adonai. You do not judge lest you be judged by that same standard. IDK about you but I need ALL the grace, mercy and tenderness I can get.

You don't know this person you are judging. Is she sinning with this guy who is her "boyfriend" for argument sake, yes... But guess what YOU ARE A SINNER yourself. Is her sin worse than your sin? Doesn't scripture declare the wages of sin is DEATH? I don't read any exceptions to that... Sin=Death.

Look at Yeshua's response to the Samaritan woman. John 4:17-18 The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus *said to her, “You have correctly said, ‘I have no husband’; 18 for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; this you have said truly.”

Did Messiah pick up a stone and stone her? Did he revile her? No... he was light to her and revealed to her WHO HE IS. Did he accuse her of sin? Messiah showed her that the GREAT I AM was sitting at that well asking for a drink.

BE LIGHT.

Why on earth would you think for a second that living there is some how you sinning? You are responsible for your actions and not the sins of others. Let the TESTIMONY of your LIFE be a witness. You, me and every other person who has accepted Messiah as LORD and Savior all are called to be a light, and our lives are a witness of him... so be holy as your Father in Heaven is Holy.

IAMANOBODY2015 said:

I am in the process of moving to a larger city. I live in a small town. I am moving in with non-Christians. One of my roommates actually considers herself to be a Christian, but she does not live the Christian lifestyle. She is 32 and is living with her 20 year old boyfriend who I actually like. My mom, who is a devout Christian, is strongly opposed to this.

Am I in the wrong for moving in with non-believers, or one that considers herself a Christian but doesn't live the lifestyle?

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No you are not wrong to move in, only for judging other people.

You (and your mom) judge your sister in Christ as inadequate, to the extent that you doubt that she is a Christian. That is not a safe place to be; it is not for you to decide who is, and who is not, a Christian.

Focus on sorting out your own sins and leave other people to do the same.

Didaskalos said:

If you are Christian and live as a Christian, and you live with the world... they will hate you.
There is no way around it. The more you show them righteousness and read the word... the more they will hate you.
Beware.

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I am pretty sure is not for being a Christian that Christians are hated. It is for being smug and sanctimonious.

We are called to the former, but not to the latter.

FoundInGrace said:

I dont think you are in the wrong if you do but perhaps it would be good to consider if you are strong enough in the Lord not to get dragged into a worldly mindset and way of life if you choose to live with non-Christians.. it is very difficult not to get depressed when day after day you see people living in a way that is not pleasing to the Lord. Trust me I have lived with people who said they are Christian but do not live like it and I thought it wouldnt affect me but it did. And I had a good support system - went to church and homegroup regularly but it still affected me.

By contrast it can be uplifting and strengthening to live with believers.. not always of course but as a general rule they will be wanting to go to church so it is easier to go and things like that which support honoring the Lord rather than not.

It is up to you but personally I haveffoundit easier and more empowering to live with people on a similar wavelength.

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That is a good point. The weak in faith need to spend time with those who are strong in faith.

The strong in faith can go anywhere, and live anywhere, without a problem.

True.. I thought I was strong in faith but over time living around people who said they were Christian but continually lived in not good ways with no evidence of wanting to change to please God it wore me down being around that. It was a good lesson though.
If in doubt its good to wait for Gods leading.. if you have that it helps tremendously!

Catherineanne said:

I am pretty sure is not for being a Christian that Christians are hated. It is for being smug and sanctimonious.

We are called to the former, but not to the latter.

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I think Jesus disagrees. Even the best, most loving and kind believers are hated for the word, for righteousness, and for His sake.

John 17:14
14 I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world.

Isaiah 66:5
5 Hear the word of the LORD, ye that tremble at his word; Your brethren that hated you, that cast you out for my name's sake, said, Let the LORD be glorified: but he shall appear to your joy, and they shall be ashamed.

John 15:18-20
18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
20 Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.

1 Peter 4:4
4 Wherein they think it strange that ye run not with them to the same excess of riot, speaking evil of you:

Matthew 5:11
11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.

Mark 4:17
17 And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time: afterward, when affliction or persecution ariseth for the word's sake, immediately they are offended.

Didaskalos said:

If you are Christian and live as a Christian, and you live with the world... they will hate you.
There is no way around it. The more you show them righteousness and read the word... the more they will hate you.
Beware.

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Funny but I actaully see people who say this kind of thing are never the ones who's life is that testimony. What I DO see is people who SAY this kind of stuff to coworkers who are unsaved and then wonder why everyone at work hates them....

Try LIVING what you are saying and that way you don't have to say it at all