People in abusive relationships are the same no matter what their preference. Get out! Seek refuge. Seek counseling. Prosecute. NEVER go back. Never accept the lie, baby I'm sorry. It'll never happen again.
It should have never happened the first time. Something is missing in the person that beats their partner the first time. First for that victim is not the first time that abuser has raised a hand to someone. Don't ever stay! When someone blackens your eye, breaks your skin with a punch, harms you, rapes you as a lover or spouse, that's who they are! You're just seeing it because they arrived at the level of rage where the mask they put up to hide that about themselves couldn't be maintained.
If you're harmed in that way GET OUT! Because every time that fist falls, that slap lands, that hair is pulled, that abuser, male or female, is telling you one thing.
They want to beat you to death!
And they won't stop hurting you until you stop moving! GET OUT! Because love doesn't make you bleed!
When they say after that, baby I love you! Remember that punch, that slap, that hair pull, that stomping. Blend those memories with those three worthless lying words to get the first clue! Let me show you an example:
Baby, I love to hit you with my fist. Baby I love to backhand you across the room. Baby I love to put my size 12 1/2 into your chest and stomp you into the floor over and over till you black out. Baby I love to rip the hair out of your scalp so that you have bloody skin patches where those blond natural curls use to be.
Baby I'm sorry! And I'll never do it again!
You're right! They will NEVER do it again if you leave as soon as your able. If you have to crawl and it takes half a day because he went to work and tore the phone out of the wall so you'd have no one to call and no means to. If you can walk out, walk out. If you have to dive through a window because he's nailed them shut to keep you home bound and put the locks to the house on the outside and a key dead bolt on the inside, and he keeps the key under his pillow when you sleep, dive through the window, covering your head between both folded arms to protect the veins in your neck. Hit the ground and run and scream to the top of your lungs for help.
And NEVER EVER EVER GO BACK. Because it's better to wear a bandage for your troubles after you've escaped, than to wear a new dress or suit in your coffin because you believed he'd never do it again. When you're dead he'll keep his promise!
And this isn't the proper forum for this query.
Honestly, I am not trolling. Occasionally I wonder about a walking partner I had over 30 years ago. He was in a very abusive homosexual relationship. Went to bed with a loaded gun under his pillow for fear that his alcoholic partner would kill him in his sleep, through one of his rages. He was isolated. Though he had family they had disowned him. He felt very trapped, and hopeless, just as heterosexuals feel in the same circumstances. I loved him as a friend, and never knew what happened to him, when we moved. He stated, "there are safe houses for abused women, but none for people like me".
As a Christian community, is there anything we should do, for people like this in so much pain???
