Is it Selfish for People to Want Biological Children?

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No it's not selfish for people to want to have their own biological children. Some couples do both. They have biological children AND adopt. Also some people (infertile & Singles) adopt because they are unable to have biological children and feel that they are called to be parents. They also have the resources to make that happen.
 
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Well the adoption process in many countries takes really long and might cost a lot of money especially if you adopt internationally. And adoption agencies have requirements for future parents that would drop out some incapable ones but also some that in reality would make wonderful parents... Some people also have better qualities for adoption specifically than others. I don't know, I think adoption is not for everyone. Some are good parents for their bio children but not to adopted ones.
 
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It seems to be a basic biological drive. It is in keeping with the biblical command to "Be fruitful and multiply." So IMO it is NOT a selfish drive, at least at its base. Selfish motives can be added to it, certainly.
 
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I think couples that want kids in general can sometimes be selfish to their spouse about it. But thats another issue.
Actually it may be precisely the issue here, but it just hasn't come out into the light yet. Let's wait and see....
 
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Of course its not selfish. God designed us to procreate and blessed that in Genesis, saying "Be fruitful and multiply". Procreation of children is one of the chief ends of marriage, though of course not the only one. All throughout the bible having children is perceived as a tremendous blessing, and children are to be accepted as gifts and cherished. I think it is a mistake to think God's design for procreation is inherently somehow wrong due to issues of global demographics.

Of course, it does not follow from all of this that we need to have large families or "breed like rabbits", to paraphrase Pope Francis. Responsible family planning in light of a couples means and circumstances is both wise and holy. And just as a matter of consideration, is the issue necessarily overpopulation of people, or an unjust distribution of resources? Food for thought.
 
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