What would you say if a very nice and Godly guy or girl wanted to date you

Goodbook · Oct 6, 2015

I know a few couples in my church who were divorced and remarried. And their hubby's are christians.
So, its not that christians will not date a divorcee. It all depends if God wants you to date and perhaps remarry. But I would say get things sorted with the ex first so it doesn't interfere and put the past behind you.

OGM · Oct 6, 2015

blackribbon said:
Still not getting it. I can't think of a single reason to not date a "nice" person who shares my religious views....or why someone wouldn't be ready to date a "nice" person or why grandma's recommendation would be to stay away from this kind of person unless she really didn't like me very much.

or does "godly" mean that they are actually a minister or other religious teacher?

The person maybe nice and have the same religious views...but perhaps you are still not in to them. It could be a myriad of reasons. Just like a woman may have the same religious views as me and think I am "nice." That does not necessarily mean she would want me as a boyfriend or husband. Why? I could make a long list of some of the possible reason. It could be a combination of reasons or it could be for one reason.

It is not a problem though because this planet has several billion people residing on it.

TonyLee · Oct 6, 2015

Edited out as I was confused.

Messy · Oct 7, 2015

blackribbon said:
Still not getting it. I can't think of a single reason to not date a "nice" person who shares my religious views....or why someone wouldn't be ready to date a "nice" person or why grandma's recommendation would be to stay away from this kind of person unless she really didn't like me very much.

or does "godly" mean that they are actually a minister or other religious teacher?

It has nothing to do with not liking the person. Some use it as an excuse: I'm not ready. I want to stay single and then next week they date someone else.
But I meant if you really like the person and have a crush on him and he's just awesome, with Godly I just mean putting God first.
It wasn't a recommendation from my grandma. She's in heaven. I just sometimes feel like her.
My grandma didn't want to marry anyone anymore. She always said she was so thankful to God that He gave her this apartment with other old people who were her friends and she absolutely loved being single.

Not ready or maybe never ready: if you never want that again.

Messy · Oct 7, 2015

If God said: I have Mr. or Mrs. Right for you. You can meet now if you want. It doesn't matter what you choose. But you will have a lot of problems and miscommunications. It won't go from a smooth roof as we say in Dutch.
Would you say yes or no?
Now I'd say no.

Goodbook · Oct 7, 2015

Hmm i would wait till im ready to date as im female and if he really is a gentleman he would not force anything...and be friends first without dating I suppose.

I think if a man can accept a lady is not interested and still be good friends with her, she may come round later, because love is patient and kind.

Goodbook · Oct 7, 2015

Just an example in real life, a lady from church txted and asked me to go to the movies with her, she wanted to see everest. But even though thats nice, and shes godly christian, i said no because Im not keen on going to see that movie. Nothing to do with her..i just dont really want to watch people acting and dying on a remote mountain.

You dont have to accept every invite.

Btw the lady is a widow and i suppose she didnt want to go with her son, or he was busy.

OGM · Oct 7, 2015

Messy said:
If God said: I have Mr. or Mrs. Right for you. You can meet now if you want. It doesn't matter what you choose. But you will have a lot of problems and miscommunications. It won't go from a smooth roof as we say in Dutch.
Would you say yes or no?
Now I'd say no.

I would probably tell him, "I am not interested at this time but thanks for considering me." Simple as that...

dayhiker · Oct 7, 2015

I'd say Yes if someone wanted a date. But I'm so busy it might be hard to find a time for the date.

Messy · Oct 7, 2015

OGM said:
I would probably tell him, "I am not interested at this time but thanks for considering me." Simple as that...

Yeah that's simple if you don't like someone. It's also simple to say no if God says that and you don't meet anyone.
Yet if he's cute and asks himself I might change my mind lol. I would just believe that this time it will all go smooth.

redblue22 · Oct 7, 2015

and some of you wonder how you end up with multiple boysfriends.

Messy · Oct 7, 2015

Goodbook · Oct 7, 2015

Have you been asked out Messy?
I think if someone likes you enough to ask and you like him then go..why not?
If God thinks you ready then you ready, obviously, nobody would bother asking if you werent...i think christian men would see beyond children and previous relationships...i mean, if they are not like, in their 20s.

Goodbook · Oct 7, 2015

You dont have to go out with them every single day.

Messy · Oct 8, 2015

Goodbook said:
Have you been asked out Messy?
I think if someone likes you enough to ask and you like him then go..why not?
If God thinks you ready then you ready, obviously, nobody would bother asking if you werent...i think christian men would see beyond children and previous relationships...i mean, if they are not like, in their 20s.

Lol no it was just a hypothetical question. I was actually having a pity party when I made this thread because someone didn't like me back and then I thought: well even if he did I wouldn't want all of that anymore anyway, so why bother about it?

Goodbook · Oct 8, 2015

Bring back the pity party. We havent had one in a while.

Messy · Oct 8, 2015

Lol, no hypothetical threads are better. Oh my.

.Mikha'el. · Oct 8, 2015

I would refuse. I'm so far behind in life compared to everyone else my age that a relationship would never be sustainable.

Messy · Oct 8, 2015

.Mikha'el. said:
I would refuse. I'm so far behind in life compared to everyone else my age that a relationship would never be sustainable.

Oh a guy in our church got married last year. He's in his fifties. He had always taken care of his mom.

blackribbon · Oct 8, 2015

Messy said:
If God said: I have Mr. or Mrs. Right for you. You can meet now if you want. It doesn't matter what you choose. But you will have a lot of problems and miscommunications. It won't go from a smooth roof as we say in Dutch.
Would you say yes or no?
Now I'd say no.

Sounds like a potentially normal relationship. I'm ready to meet someone so I'd say "yes". Whether or not something works out depends on how much the people are willing to put into the relationship. If God said it would be worth it, then I'm game.

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