I feel worthless and it is damaging my relationship

Moonrise Lu said:

I am feeling so worthless, I feel worthless all the time. I don't feel like I will ever accomplish anything in life. I feel like just a statistic to add to the population of the world.

The only thing that doesn't make me feel worthless is my fiance. He loves me very much and he wants me to be happy. But honestly unless I am with him I don't feel happy about life. I only get to see him two times a week (we don't live super close, the trip takes it's toll on gas money) so I spend the rest of that time basically being unhappy, hating my job and feeling worthless.

Anyways he got upset with me because of me feeling worthless and putting myself down all the time and told me not to call him unless I change my attitude. He wants me to say that I am a "good person with potential" and stuff like that but I cannot say it sincerely cause I just don't feel that way. I feel like I am lying or conceited if I say that. This topic came up cause we were talking about me going to college but I keep shooting down any careers to pursue (because I honestly think I would suck at them or I have no interest in it or feel like it would be something I would hate).

So now he is not gonna talk to me unless I change that and I just don't know how... I have pretty much always felt this way about myself. I know what the bible says about our worth in God and everything but I just CANNOT feel it, and even when there were times I did it didn't change anything in my life. So I don't know what to do, my self esteem is hurting my relationship but I am not going to lie to my fiance about how I feel about myself just to have him talk to me again. But he is literally the only person I have, if I can't talk to him I don't know what I will do...

I want to change sure, I don't want to feel like this, but I do, it's all I've ever really known and I don't know how to change it, even with knowing what the bible says... someone please help I really hate myself right now

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First, your boyfriend has to accept you as you are.

Second, so do you.

It looks as if you might benefit from relationship counselling. If you can't manage that, perhaps find a book or an online course to do together; a reputable one.

I wish you well.

“Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."

It's okay to feel bad. Just give it to God and pray for guidance to your heart, as you probably already have, but don't give up.

Loving others the way Christ told us - even though it is hard, and I struggle with it - is a thing that keeps on giving. When we can truly love someone without wanting anything back to ourselves, we can start to see how badly we treat ourselves. "Do I judge that person like I judge myself?" is a good question to ask. Usually the answer is probably "no", as love in itself does not demand or judge. The more we can love like that (and the opportunities will be there, all the time), the more we will understand what really matters, even with the way how we see ourselves.

Why do we judge ourselves so harshly then? I don't know. Sometimes we're too proud to admit that we need Christ, and we try our hardest to achieve everything by ourselves. Sometimes we're estranged of love and compassion. Sometimes we think we are too bad or horrible that nothing can make it better - and in that way we are worshiping our sins and shortcomings more than Christ. Sometimes we're too self-centered in how we look at everything, so that we can't see anything else. Sometimes we let fear control our lives.

One thing I do know is this: love makes everything grow, hate does the opposite.
Let the grace of God in, sister. Persevere and focus on love, good things and God, and in time you will not only feel better, but all sorts of relief too that will have a lasting impact. One day at a time. Pray for loving guidance.

Patience is one thing we will learn from these things and struggles, even if we think we don't have it. Often we are forced to learn it. God bless you, and take it easy now.

Father I pray strength from the Holy Spirit in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.

@ 1:40 in the video below... Father in the name of Jesus I pray for those that never did get their request in. Those that have unsaved loved ones I bind the forces of hell in the name of Jesus, those that are sick and diseased and afflicted... Stretch forth that healing hand of Calvary... Touch them from the crown of their head to the soles of their feet... Save every member of their family I pray. Let that resurrection power of Jesus Christ come alive! In the name of Jesus meet the financial needs... Lord I see a lot of mail here from prisoners behind bars. I am asking you to touch their lives, save them and heal them and deliver them and set them free. Use them there in that prison house to bring others at the foot of the cross... In the name of Jesus Satan we bind you... We command you to take your hands off of God's property. Lord, you said that whatever we bind on earth you'll bind it in heaven... What ever we loose on Earth you will loose it in heaven... I loose the people! I loose the people! In the name of Jesus calling the miracle working power of Jesus Christ alive... Amen and Amen!- Your Power Preacher, RW Schambach

You are in, (one with) Jesus, therefore you are full of worth. As He is, so are we in the world. (1 John 4:17)

God cannot be God without you. He needs a body to walk around in.

He wants to explore His creation by use of your body. He wants to see through your eyes, and hear through your ears.
And so, He is in you now.

You are very important to Him. He planned you and designed you before He created the universe. And then he created the universe for you. He planned that in your life He would have a love affair with you. He's 'head over heels' in love with you.

Whatever bad things you think of yourself are false teachings, mistakes, mis-perceptions, and confusions. The reality is that you are an incarnation of God.... (the Jesus personality).... And inside you, you are fully perfected now. God modeled you perfectly. You are like a like a farrari (car) to Him. You are exquisite in design.

So, begin to see yourself as God 'sees' you... as a unique expression of His beloved Son.

That is called 'metanoia' or 'true repentance'... to see yourself as God sees you....in all glory and honor, sitting at the right
hand of God, sharing His throne with Him now.

Repentance is not sitting around feeling sorry for imperfections.

This is the true reality... In your spirit you sit on throne with Him now, with all enemies as your footstool.

And, me thinks you might have someone saying bad things to you, criticizing you, badgering you... tell that person to 'get off you back!, get lost, skat!'... Don't take no crup!