I am here in desperation. I have really gotten myself in a bind. I’m a Catholic — was divorced over a year ago, with one son. I had tried to relocate for a new job with my son a few hours away — after the divorce (I had the right to move my son) and my ex got a bunch of money — hired a big attorney — and stopped my son. So, long story short — I had to move for my job and I lost full custody of my son. He stayed with my ex. I see him as often as possible, but it’s tough.
In the meantime, I met a man in my new city. Also a Catholic divorced father of 3. He suggested he would help me fight for my son and he eventually asked me to marry him…we are now engaged. But, the war with my ex has caused a lot of problems between us. He hates that man - and how he has brain washed my son against us. It’s ugly. My ex also turned my entire family against me…..I had honestly thought of going back to my ex though because it has been so so hard to be away from my son. I hate to see that boy suffer and I miss him soo much!
Not to mention my new fiancé is very controlling and jealous — we have struggled because he doesn’t like the idea of me traveling for work - or being around other men. He’s a good man but very controlling. He lost trust in me because at one point he found me texting another guy on my cell phone — while we were having an argument. That only caused MORE controlling behavior. We got past that but he still looks through my texts because he worries about me constantly.
Well, now I just found out I”m pregnant. We were using birth control - and I am stunned. I am against abortion, but I must admit I wondered about it….but I don’t think I can do it…. God would not be happy with me —
But, do I stay with my fiancé and raise this baby? Or do I go back to my ex and tell him that I’m pregnant and see if he will still consider reconciling? I know I must sound crazy — I feel it. I’m so lost
In the meantime, I met a man in my new city. Also a Catholic divorced father of 3. He suggested he would help me fight for my son and he eventually asked me to marry him…we are now engaged. But, the war with my ex has caused a lot of problems between us. He hates that man - and how he has brain washed my son against us. It’s ugly. My ex also turned my entire family against me…..I had honestly thought of going back to my ex though because it has been so so hard to be away from my son. I hate to see that boy suffer and I miss him soo much!
Not to mention my new fiancé is very controlling and jealous — we have struggled because he doesn’t like the idea of me traveling for work - or being around other men. He’s a good man but very controlling. He lost trust in me because at one point he found me texting another guy on my cell phone — while we were having an argument. That only caused MORE controlling behavior. We got past that but he still looks through my texts because he worries about me constantly.
Well, now I just found out I”m pregnant. We were using birth control - and I am stunned. I am against abortion, but I must admit I wondered about it….but I don’t think I can do it…. God would not be happy with me —
But, do I stay with my fiancé and raise this baby? Or do I go back to my ex and tell him that I’m pregnant and see if he will still consider reconciling? I know I must sound crazy — I feel it. I’m so lost