I seriously need help

travnja · Aug 30, 2015

Hi, I am going through something so major...I am a single parent of one daughter. I raised her with the Lord as her Father in that I thought I was doing everything He wanted me to do as a mom. I raised my daughter with the Bible as the blueprint for our lives. She told me at around age ten that she asked Jesus into her heart and was born again...all the while she was with Christian friends and every year at VBS learning and knowing about salvation...but then her uncle passed away when she was 12 or 13 and she started seeing things fall apart. Not between her and I but with her uncles family (they're not Christians but uncle was) anyway very long story short my daughter's so called Christian friends started doing sinful behaviors little by little...our church fell apart and I kept talking to her through the whole sad journey but she insisted she was ok and understood. Fast forward to present day, she is now 18 and last week came to me crying and having anxiety so scared and ashamed to tell me a secret that she's been keeping for the past few years...and the secret is that she started doubting God because of all the pain and sadness people go through and has decided that she doesn't believe in God anymore. She said that she's so confused and sad. Now she is depressed with anxiety. When she told me I fell apart and so did she. We cried and yelled and cried back and forth. I started feeling like I had nothing to live for. I realized that was satan and his deceit because I stayed feeling hopeless for three days when I woke up and said REALITY CHECK, God does not cause feelings of hopelessness so I told myself to "get it together, you have a battle to fight!" I must get my daughter back with the Lord. I must. She is not misbehaving or doing anything inappropriate like many teens do, she really is a good girl. I just don't know what to do all by myself. I need other Believers to help me, talk to me, and point me in the right direction. I have lost my Christian friends because they also chose a more worldly path. I have one friend left, but I'm embarrassed to tell her what has happened. Everyone looked up to my daughter for her heart and love for God...sigh, I'm scared you guys. Please pray. I need you.

In Christ's Love-

Winken · Aug 30, 2015

God is not the author of pain and sadness. Doubt is. Disappointment is. Those two are internal, mind-oriented, not Spiritually in tune with God through the Holy Spirit within. When that happens, "that ole devil" gleefully pushes harder, bringing up everything he can to discredit God, to discredit our faith, all for the purpose of destroying our Christian witness.

Prayer. Love. Dedication. Scripture. Happiness --- all these to come to your daughter through your prayers and ours. May she become aware that the Love of God blesses and caresses her now and forevermore. May that awareness produce in her an ocean of thanksgiving.

Blank Stair · Aug 30, 2015

My prayers are with you. I'm at a loss to give advice at this point. But know that my sympathies are with you and your family.

fat wee robin · Aug 30, 2015

travnja said:
Hi, I am going through something so major...I am a single parent of one daughter. I raised her with the Lord as her Father in that I thought I was doing everything He wanted me to do as a mom. I raised my daughter with the Bible as the blueprint for our lives. She told me at around age ten that she asked Jesus into her heart and was born again...all the while she was with Christian friends and every year at VBS learning and knowing about salvation...but then her uncle passed away when she was 12 or 13 and she started seeing things fall apart. Not between her and I but with her uncles family (they're not Christians but uncle was) anyway very long story short my daughter's so called Christian friends started doing sinful behaviors little by little...our church fell apart and I kept talking to her through the whole sad journey but she insisted she was ok and understood. Fast forward to present day, she is now 18 and last week came to me crying and having anxiety so scared and ashamed to tell me a secret that she's been keeping for the past few years...and the secret is that she started doubting God because of all the pain and sadness people go through and has decided that she doesn't believe in God anymore. She said that she's so confused and sad. Now she is depressed with anxiety. When she told me I fell apart and so did she. We cried and yelled and cried back and forth. I started feeling like I had nothing to live for. I realized that was satan and his deceit because I stayed feeling hopeless for three days when I woke up and said REALITY CHECK, God does not cause feelings of hopelessness so I told myself to "get it together, you have a battle to fight!" I must get my daughter back with the Lord. I must. She is not misbehaving or doing anything inappropriate like many teens do, she really is a good girl. I just don't know what to do all by myself. I need other Believers to help me, talk to me, and point me in the right direction. I have lost my Christian friends because they also chose a more worldly path. I have one friend left, but I'm embarrassed to tell her what has happened. Everyone looked up to my daughter for her heart and love for God...sigh, I'm scared you guys. Please pray. I need you.

In Christ's Love-

For me as a European this is so exaggerated .I was beginning to think that something bad had happened to your daughter . I have decided that there is something seriously wrong with religion in the US .Your daughter is 18 years old and should be learning and studying something which will open her mind at college or university ,making friends ,and if she is as you say not doing anything wrong you must let here find her way into her own future ,while keeping an eye on her .
God is not the terrifying judgemental monster you seem to think He is ,but loves all His children especially the ones who fall .He came He said for the poor in spirit not the upright ,uptight pharisees .
It is clear you need to talk to someone who cares ,and if you can't do that with the one friend you have left ,then she is not a friend . Find some real christians there are some out there with sympathetic hearts ,although some seem too ready to condemn ;Another thing you need to do is do interesting things with your daughter and buy her some European classic fiction like Leon Tolstoy ,Victor Hugo , and you can find other christian story tellers ,european is best perhaps in the libraries .

I find the broad education to be a christian is very lacking in so many fearful American christians .I don't know what you mean by 'worldly ' or to the extent of it .Some people thought that the 'Simpsons' was of the devil ,but that is paranoia .

You should read the story of the 'prodigal son' ,and I find worthy christian forums the most personally helpful and Jesus loving biblically accurate site .

So please do not panic ,God expects Young people to find their own relationship with Him ,not a forced one from parents ,and He is mch more patient and loving than humans ,whose fearful guilt they dump onto Him . Love and God's blessings on you and your daughter .

bhayes · Aug 30, 2015

praying. just don't drive her away because she is after all your daughter. I know my brother is an atheist and it hurt my parents who are both christian and me but we still love him obviously and my dad prays for him everyday and I pray for him to. God works in mysterious ways all the time so just trust him and pray always for faith for your daughter.

Also about the pain and suffering, I think that it is a fact. The reason why there is pain and suffering is because of sin and that is why we need Jesus. So maybe your daughter is just waking up to the realities of sin but this doesn't mean that God still doesn't work. He always works and has a plan, just trust him and pray always.

servant of Merciful Love · Aug 30, 2015

Praying for you both ~ God bless you :crossrc:

MissRowy · Aug 31, 2015

Praying for you and your daughter to get through this battle. Stay strong and our Saviour will protect and heal you

suzeequeue · Aug 31, 2015

poor darling... i feel your pain, dear, and i know you're scared, but Jesus has it under control. pray for your daughter and keep portraying the good example of Christian love, stay faithful to church and Bible study and prayer. God says to raise up a child in the way he should go and in the end he shall not depart from it... have faith that He will draw your daughter's heart back to Him. keep praying.

you might want to look up Ravi Zacharias in regard to apologetics and learn the many ways you can PROVE that God exists to your daughter. once a person has an atheist mindset, it can be difficult to sway them, but with the power of the Holy Ghost, all things are possible. keep the faith and stay the course because now is the time the devil will attack even further, trying to get you to even doubt. may our dear heavenly Father bless you and your daughter. love in Christ, and prayers for you both. :prayer:

thank you, Lord.

tturt · Aug 31, 2015

It is something to be concerned about but keep showing her unconditional love and praying to Yahweh. Praying, too.

TheNorwegian · Aug 31, 2015

Why can you not tell your best friend about this? It is not a sin to be honest - even if that means to show you are weak and have some struggles in your life

LaSorcia · Aug 31, 2015

Hugs to you both. May God give you wisdom, as I don't have it, I'm sorry. Use the promise in Proverbs for comfort: Raise a child in the way they should go, and when they are older they will not depart from it.

I find praying scriptures that speak to my problem to be really helpful. Good luck and God bless.

rockytopva · Aug 31, 2015

Father I pray blessings and a renewed spiritual relationship with mother and daughter in Jesus name I pray.

Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.

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