Relationships With Non-Christians

Uberweston said:

I have this question that is bugging me. This may not be the place for it, but it was the only place where this seemed relevant. I've gotten pretty close with a girl, and she has said she's not a Christian, but a pagan. Would it be considered blasphamy for me to like her, and go further than being just friends？

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It's not blasphemy if you keep God's Word close to you, especially with non-Christians. I've dated a lot of non-Christians and honestly it was hard work because of the different set of beliefs. I've even taken some to church hoping His Word would reach them. Up until now I've learned (at least where I live) that it's really hard to find a Christian mate.

If you do decide to date her, do not let her influence you or your beliefs. Stay with God and keep praying. I'd really recommend asking Him first.

Uberweston said:

I have this question that is bugging me. This may not be the place for it, but it was the only place where this seemed relevant. I've gotten pretty close with a girl, and she has said she's not a Christian, but a pagan. Would it be considered blasphamy for me to like her, and go further than being just friends？

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Its not a great idea..how strong is her Paganism? It could prove to be a bad idea since shes basically a satanist, no? Paganism is the worship of the earth and man and anything that isnt God right? Dont they pray to trees and stuff? Witchcraft? Id steer away...but thats just me. You have to stand for something or youll fall for anything.

God tells us not to be unequally yoked for a reason, beloved. Though my dad was a strong Christian when he fell in love with my mom (who was not one), later in their marriage my mom gave her life to Christ. She said yes to Jesus, and told him she believed in Him. She was honest, and God really worked in her life. I was born after she got saved, and I've been in a Christian home ever since. But lots of times, things don't happen that way with every other couple in the world. I was really, really blessed to have parents like that, and I will never forget it.

Go with God, because he has many greater things in life for you. Not yourself. Following Christ is about abandoning yourself and your selfish desires, because they do nothing for you. In fact, He teaches you such things in the Bible for you to read with your own eyes, and learn as you go. But don't just abandon the girl you've gotten close to. Maybe she's in your life for a reason—the possibilities are endless. Maybe you'll be the closest thing to love and God that she's ever known, so stick around to find out if anything changes in her life. But wait on what God says, and pray pray pray. Crack open that Bible of yours, it's there for a reason, too.

Surprisingly, I have had an extremely similar set of circumstances. I reconnected with an old friend of mine, I hadn't talked to her in years, and we started trying to become more than friends. Only problem was, she was also a self-professed pagan. I am telling you from experience, don't do it. If you go into the relationship expecting anything other than for that person to follow their own beliefs you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Don't expect any romantic relationship to work out, don't expect them to see the truth of God through you, don't expect anything. You can hope and pray that it happens, but I am telling you I have lived this and I want you to learn from my mistake. I made the mistake of hoping she would change once I showed her God's love and right now she has completely forgotten about me after moving in with a pot head and accused sexual offender after talking to him for a week. I'm not saying your friend would do that, but just keep my experience in mind

Jaxxi said:

Its not a great idea..how strong is her Paganism? It could prove to be a bad idea since shes basically a satanist, no? Paganism is the worship of the earth and man and anything that isnt God right? Dont they pray to trees and stuff? Witchcraft? Id steer away...but thats just me. You have to stand for something or youll fall for anything.

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It is basically the worship of nature, yes, but equating it with Satanism is kinda crazy. It's more like the worship of God's creation. Regardless, actual Satanism is really different from how Pop Culture portrays it (not that I'm exactly an expert, but I know that they don't exactly go about doing human sacrifices. You'd have to read up on it)

To the OP: nah, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. As long as she's a good person and her version of paganism isn't too out of whack (like, she isn't in a cult or anything) it oughta be ok.

As the others have said, you just gotta hold to your beliefs. Who knows, you might even be able to bring her to know God; as I mentioned, paganism already revolves around the worship of Creation. That's not much more than a couple steps away from worship of the Creator.

Jaxxi said:

if satanists dont do human sacrifices then which religion does? And actually yes they do.

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You really need to research what Satanism actually is. I'm not saying I condone Satanism, but there are VERY few satanic groups that actually do ritual sacrifice. There's even a couple groups that just called themselves Satanic to troll Christians. Don't worry, knowledge of this sort isn't a sin. Being uninformed just leads to prejudice, which can easily lead to sin.

EDIT: As I said beforehand, paganism has absolutely nothing to do with satanism. They're completely separate systems.

EDIT 2: Crap... Looks like I accidentally double-posted. Bloody Internet, lagging out like that...

EDIT: please ignore. Accidentally double-posted. Internet must've lagged out.

Uberweston said:

I have this question that is bugging me. This may not be the place for it, but it was the only place where this seemed relevant. I've gotten pretty close with a girl, and she has said she's not a Christian, but a pagan. Would it be considered blasphamy for me to like her, and go further than being just friends？

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No, it is not blasphemy. However, it is to be avoided. I know stories of Christians who have fallen in love with and got married to non-Christians or (even worse) false Christians (yes, false Christians may be even worse because you may not even see the threat before it is too late: in this group, we can include Catholics, Mormons, Jehovah's Witnesses, relativists, supporters of homosexuality, radical feminists, etc.); they ended up badly.

Think about it: suppose you are married to a non-Christian girl. Think of the following problems:

1. You want to take your kids to church, but she refuses;
2. You want to make a daily devotional, but she rejects that;
3. She goes behind your back to ‘unteach’ your children all you have taught them;
4. She uses inappropriate language in front of your kids;
5. She uses God's name in vain;
6. She refuses to go to church with you;
7. She, secretly or not, ridicules your beliefs;
8. She refuses to submit herself to you (as she ought to, in accordance with Ephesians 5:22-24) and instead attempts to usurp the authority given to you.

Now, think about this: suppose you are dating a non-Christian girl (not yet married). Think of the following problems:

1. She seduces you to have sex with her;
2. You want your relationship to be a way of serving God, but she does not.

And I'm not done! Now, consider this: suppose you have got married to a Christian woman, and now you have both died. Now, you are in Heaven, and you can see the girl whom you have loved all your life burning there in Hell, and there is nothing you can do to help; you tried to get her out of there, but she refused, and now she is suffering the consequences.

Or, worse still, consider the possibility that you may even be influenced by her beliefs and turn away from God!

I know that it is difficult, if you love a girl, to simply say that it cannot be and refuse to ask her to date you — but this is what you must do. I have been in your situation many times. There was one girl in particular with whom this happened almost two years ago. I asked her to be my girlfriend, but she said no. Currently, I am so thankful that God did not allow me to date her, instead protecting me from this danger. I was so blinded by my passion that I could not see the seriousness of the situation I wanted to get myself into.

Control your passion for her. Come on! I know that you can do it! You can resist that temptation. It would not be good for you. Ask God to help you control it, and to show you a Christian girl with whom he wants you to date. You can do it! With God on your side, you can be strong!

God bless you!
The Portuguese Baptist

I want to add something. Remember Solomon? 1 Kings 11:2 "For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father." Also in 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"

The matters that TPB mentioned are spot on.And she is a pagan too? So were Solomon's wives and look what happened to him.The choice should be clear. It is dangerous to be yoked with an unbeliever.

lunabeam said:

God tells us not to be unequally yoked for a reason, beloved. Though my dad was a strong Christian when he fell in love with my mom (who was not one), later in their marriage my mom gave her life to Christ. She said yes to Jesus, and told him she believed in Him. She was honest, and God really worked in her life. I was born after she got saved, and I've been in a Christian home ever since. But lots of times, things don't happen that way with every other couple in the world. I was really, really blessed to have parents like that, and I will never forget it.

Go with God, because he has many greater things in life for you. Not yourself. Following Christ is about abandoning yourself and your selfish desires, because they do nothing for you. In fact, He teaches you such things in the Bible for you to read with your own eyes, and learn as you go. But don't just abandon the girl you've gotten close to. Maybe she's in your life for a reason—the possibilities are endless. Maybe you'll be the closest thing to love and God that she's ever known, so stick around to find out if anything changes in her life. But wait on what God says, and pray pray pray. Crack open that Bible of yours, it's there for a reason, too.

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2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

I would recommend you to re-consider further developing the relationship to avoid unnecessary pains in your life, I do see the point that you might be able to bring her to Christ, but afterall you can't save her, she needs Jesus. I'm not discriminating, but since unbelievers has different mindset than ours, I think you are just creating more troubles for yourself. Nevertheless, I could be wrong.

I advise against it. I have dated non christians and it never works out.