Have you ever cheated?

Brave of you Unfaithful to post
I have recently posted that I was unfaithful in my marriage too and empathize with your situation.
Godsgirl79 posted an excellent help. Your words have helped me too.
so thanks.
Unfortunately no matter how much your spouse abandons you, abuses you, or hurts you adultery is wrong and we will have to be judged by God for that.
Also wanted to say your not alone. And I pray for you.
God Bless

dayhiker said:

All a man had to do was write a bill of divorcement and give it to the woman. No court or family meeting. That bill said, "You are free to marry any man."

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That was only PART of the get - or certificate of divorce. It also had to have arrangements for the man to support the woman financially until she remarries. That was in keeping with the ketubah or marriage contract. If the get did not contain that, or it was not sufficient, the woman could go to a rabbinic court to have the terms changed.

Dave ... I'd not come across that before .... do you have a reference for it? I'd like to add it to my research.

I learned it in a class at a synagogue. I believe it is from the Talmuds - probably the Babylonian one.

Try Tractate Ketubot.

Thanks, Dave.

Yes, i cheated this year! Wife and i been so far apart since child born (8yrs now). We fell out of love with each other!

No hugs, kisses, loving words, or Sexual contact for 8 years! Didnt bother me until this year when i met someone who 'really' showed me true love.

Told wife about affair.

We still together but for how long i dont know. I pray to God for guidance daily!

Thanks for being brave enough to share your pain.
I pray this will speak to your wife about where she is and that the two will find a way to love again.

I've never been married, and have not cheated in relationships. I've been cheated on though, and it hurts. But, what I have come to realize is that someone who cheats, it is usually due to something internal he/she is battling, and it's manifesting itself in the form of cheating. Many people who cheat may say...well, I wasn't getting enough attention, etc in my marriage, but you always have the option of discussing that with your spouse and either divorcing or working through it. Cheating is never a good solution to a problem that you're battling over. I think you should seek counseling, and hopefully...you can heal from your own wounds and may your marriage be stronger for it.

For me, cheating is always a deal breaker. But, that's just me. Everyone may feel differently about what they might tolerate in a relationship. It's not that I couldn't forgive the guy who did that to me, but I know myself, and I know that I wouldn't ever be able to trust like nothing happened.

Hugs and hope things get better.

Wife admitted yesterday that she doesnt love me. Been that way for years! We only together for our young daughter.

Sorry to hear that antletems.

How is your communication with her?

dayhiker said:

Sorry to hear that antletems.

How is your communication with her?

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With wife? Ok i guess. We dont talk much and rarely sit together. We just come back from a weeks holiday too. Very cold atmosphere in house which is to be expected.

Unfaithful, if your husband is a sweet and loving man then maybe your flesh is seeking more "fire" in a relationship. What Satan is keeping you from understanding though is that you can receive that from your husband if you just take the time and speak with him about your desires, etc.

Adultery is a sin. Affairs are a sin. I've committed adultery of the mind/heart in the sense that I've battled with inappropriate contentography, but have never gone beyond that.

My wife is going through a similar thing except she isn't repentant of it. She's had an emotional affair and is still in a place where she doesn't speak to me about our marriage because she needs time. I would urge you do what glorifies God, which would be to work and fight for your marriage. Remember, your life is an ember. It's momentary. Soon you'll be before God's throne. Do you really want to waste your time on sin? I say that for us all and myself included. God be with you.