That's it; blame the victim.
It is very important to be able to set those boundaries to begin with. She had felt impure thru-out the contact yet was unwilling to examine why and or do something about protecting herself from the impurity
You're blaming the victim? The predator in this story, who has reached beyond the half century mark in age, is out of line. He's taking advantage of his senior status by intimidating a young girl with his physical contact and his artificial Christian love smile and rhetoric.
I made much mention of the predatory dirtball guy in the post you quoted.
She was already getting lots of compassion. People go to some for understanding and to others for help. I offered her advise on protecting herself from it happening again.
Saying she may have boundary problems is in no way blame. It's inquiring into what may have caused the predator to look at her as game.
Yes exactly, it's the same as I thought. Most girls would just say: back off you dirty old man! I was like that too when I was young. Turned out I was abused as a child and not healed from it, so I kept attracting those people. I stepped in a car with an old man at the bus station because I thought: oh what will he think if I say no? Girls have to be protected from naive thoughts.
Not necessary. The dirty old creep needs to repent.
And this thread is about her, not about the dirty old man. Once it's been established that he is a predatory person w/o him being here to personally council then the onus can only be upon what will help her or those in a similar situation reading this.
