Feeling forced to be a doctor....
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Being led by a parent towards a career direction i feel might bring harmful consequences...i feel powerless to say no..mainly becuase of want of financial security and to be financially well off making over a certain amount a year ...(maybe i loved money obviously )...but at what cost?
Does it make sense for me to take thousands of dollars in loans to do a profram i am not interested in but lo and behold i continue forth that path..but at what cost?
i feel detrimental consquences could result..perhaps my mindset heart is not right ..and i am viewing this opportunity negatively...perhaps other issues in my heart and mind have lead to this...but what if this is not what i should be doing oh god direct me what i should do for a asource of income please...please by faith pray for me that God will me directs me and gives me courage and strength to know and follow the career path he wants me to follow.
I had some ideas for a source of income but due to some issues some perhaps mental spiritual ..some maybe lackn of discipline i havent fully implemented the ideas..one i thought God gave me
Please pray that i will have peace and obey the counsel he has already given and that whatever is hindering me blinding me from seeing what path i should follow that it be removed..that if it is sins i am committing that i will repent by His grace and strength ..i dont want to end up in bad place in my life..
I feel like the person said of in the bible something like woe to the one who is alone and has no one.
I feel the main reason why i am doing this money...i know many will say its wrong but when you feel like youve been for a lot of your life and you get an opportunity like this..add to it somone constantly brainwashing in an sense being in an environment where being in the medical field whtether nursing or a dr is the one of the few ways to be finacially secure or wel off ...its hard to resist and say no..despite the fact that i dont want to do it in my mind..
Its crazy that i may drop( by loans) 50,000 for an premed education i dont care becuase because may be bound to this desire for high income.
I had two schools accept me and have been vacilitating about what to do..i may go to the one nearer to me as i dont want to be too far from family.
I just feel stupid.
Btw i dont think it would be wise for me considering my state of my mind and heart to volunteer in a foreign country..
Incan though find opportunity to volunteer in the us where i live..
On top of that i am in my late twenties at this point i want to be working towards a career..
Ive had other ideas for source of some income for now maybe some from God..but all this thinking debating about following a premed track plus other issues in my heart some or most or perhaps all my fault have been part of why i have really pursued those..
Does it make sense for me to take thousands of dollars in loans to do a profram i am not interested in but lo and behold i continue forth that path..but at what cost?
i feel detrimental consquences could result..perhaps my mindset heart is not right ..and i am viewing this opportunity negatively...perhaps other issues in my heart and mind have lead to this...but what if this is not what i should be doing oh god direct me what i should do for a asource of income please...please by faith pray for me that God will me directs me and gives me courage and strength to know and follow the career path he wants me to follow.
I had some ideas for a source of income but due to some issues some perhaps mental spiritual ..some maybe lackn of discipline i havent fully implemented the ideas..one i thought God gave me
Please pray that i will have peace and obey the counsel he has already given and that whatever is hindering me blinding me from seeing what path i should follow that it be removed..that if it is sins i am committing that i will repent by His grace and strength ..i dont want to end up in bad place in my life..
I feel like the person said of in the bible something like woe to the one who is alone and has no one.
I feel the main reason why i am doing this money...i know many will say its wrong but when you feel like youve been for a lot of your life and you get an opportunity like this..add to it somone constantly brainwashing in an sense being in an environment where being in the medical field whtether nursing or a dr is the one of the few ways to be finacially secure or wel off ...its hard to resist and say no..despite the fact that i dont want to do it in my mind..
Its crazy that i may drop( by loans) 50,000 for an premed education i dont care becuase because may be bound to this desire for high income.
I had two schools accept me and have been vacilitating about what to do..i may go to the one nearer to me as i dont want to be too far from family.
I just feel stupid.
Btw i dont think it would be wise for me considering my state of my mind and heart to volunteer in a foreign country..
Incan though find opportunity to volunteer in the us where i live..
On top of that i am in my late twenties at this point i want to be working towards a career..
Ive had other ideas for source of some income for now maybe some from God..but all this thinking debating about following a premed track plus other issues in my heart some or most or perhaps all my fault have been part of why i have really pursued those..
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you're not being forced into doing anything. If you search your heart, pray about it you either do or you don't. I work at the hospital and there are many different jobs there you can aspire to.
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yellowfree,
I want to tell you I empathize with you. My family was too poor to put me through college, though my Father insisted he could have found a way. I joined the Navy and served my time, in the process earning the GI Bill. This is paying my college expenses. I am not so much older than you and my last hourly job paid $9.80. It's hard, but I've never been able to push myself to do what I didn't want to.
My grandmother once told me my father and I are both disappointments to her because we did not attend medical school, law school, or even dental school. My mother told me she doesn't understand why I majored in Christian theology. But, I told her I have free money from the GI Bill and I will study what interests me. I once served an apprenticeship and learned a trade but I haven't actually worked at it for seven years and I have found it difficult to get back into, though I liked it.
Conclusion: We live in a difficult economy and contentedness may be something you need to learn apart from money. Don't force yourself to travel a path you don't want to follow.
I want to tell you I empathize with you. My family was too poor to put me through college, though my Father insisted he could have found a way. I joined the Navy and served my time, in the process earning the GI Bill. This is paying my college expenses. I am not so much older than you and my last hourly job paid $9.80. It's hard, but I've never been able to push myself to do what I didn't want to.
My grandmother once told me my father and I are both disappointments to her because we did not attend medical school, law school, or even dental school. My mother told me she doesn't understand why I majored in Christian theology. But, I told her I have free money from the GI Bill and I will study what interests me. I once served an apprenticeship and learned a trade but I haven't actually worked at it for seven years and I have found it difficult to get back into, though I liked it.
Conclusion: We live in a difficult economy and contentedness may be something you need to learn apart from money. Don't force yourself to travel a path you don't want to follow.
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Hmm
Well not sure if its just your mum or dad or is it both who are pressuring you?
If its mum..maybe, one of the reasons is she fears she wont have anyone to look after her in her old age?
Are you the daughter pegged to do this?
Do you have any brothers and sisters? How poor is your family really? Are there any doctors in your family you can talk to?
Well not sure if its just your mum or dad or is it both who are pressuring you?
If its mum..maybe, one of the reasons is she fears she wont have anyone to look after her in her old age?
Are you the daughter pegged to do this?
Do you have any brothers and sisters? How poor is your family really? Are there any doctors in your family you can talk to?
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Maybe talk to your dad and ask him to have a talk with your mum and say its hurting you to please your mum all the time.
I just read your OP again.
Your dad, ok he may not be earning much but the burden isnt meant to be on you to provide for the family.
I just read your OP again.
Your dad, ok he may not be earning much but the burden isnt meant to be on you to provide for the family.
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My father has been dead for many years now.
I feel bound..a slave to do this mainly because of money..smh
Like I am like "Help me!"
I feel bound..a slave to do this mainly because of money..smh
Like I am like "Help me!"
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ask God to help you yellowfree, He will guide and help you thru these waters of decision to get to the other side. I don't know how old you are, but any job in the medical field would be worth pursuing and the military has the GI bill so why not. Unless your interests are NoT in the medical field.
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I quit my job to do a program to pursue a program i have little.or no interest and to be honest my primary mmotivation to even do this is money ...man...
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On top of that I borrowed a lot of money (loans)
Slightly [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed... im not sure what tonor if i am really messing up here
I should hae sought him more i guess about it..but i get so angry...i keep myself distracted online..but the problem continues...
Slightly [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed... im not sure what tonor if i am really messing up here
I should hae sought him more i guess about it..but i get so angry...i keep myself distracted online..but the problem continues...
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if you allow yourself to get angered easily, it will be hard to follow the Holy Spirit's leading. Cast your cares on the Lord because He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 Stay out of strife with God, others and yourself. You can be your worst enemy. God is on your side!
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