How do I face ungodly conversations in College?

Take Heart · Jul 17, 2015

I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

madera23 · Jul 17, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

There is no middle ground.
Why do you think they killed Jesus?

grace.upon.grace · Jul 17, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

Hi, I have certainly dealt with this same issue throughout high school and into college. Culture is continually moving further and further away from God in their words, their actions, everything. I don't know what the 'right' way to deal with these situations is, but I do know that we are called to be more like Jesus. To act like Jesus and be salt and light in the world. So, what would Jesus do? I think the best way to handle being around ungodly behavior is to be an example. Light only shines brighter in the darkness, and I've seen this be true in my own life. When you are involved in conversations and friendships with unbelievers that is when they can see Jesus in you. Now I don't think you should hide in the background and not say anything (believe me, I've done this before), but don't partake in jokes/gossip/crude behavior either. Let only pure, honest, and noble talk come from your mouth. Be involved and make conversation. But, don't take part in the sinful behavior. People were drawn to Jesus, unbelievers/sinners/the outcast/the rich/the 'godly' were all fascinated by Him. So my advice is to follow Jesus' behavior: Live in the world, but don't be of the world. Instead be an example (even when it's hard and we are among the very few who do the 'right' things).

WirSindBettler · Jul 17, 2015

I've struggled with this to an extreme degree, and though I absolutely detest saying it (God have mercy on me), the LDS gave me the best solution to it.

madera23 · Jul 17, 2015

WirSindBettler said:
I've struggled with this to an extreme degree, and though I absolutely detest saying it (God have mercy on me), the LDS gave me the best solution to it.

What would JEsus do..???
HE WOULD CALL THEM VIPERS AND DEAD MENS BONES AS He did in the synogoge.

SnowyMacie · Jul 20, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

Firstly, I like your use of hashtags.

Secondly, I do understand what you are talking about, it's about finding the area between being too much like society and too distant from it. I would suggest doing what Grace said, be involved and make conversation, but don't get involved in the sinful part of it. You can do it without making a scene or physically distancing yourself. If we're going to be the light of the world, we actually have to be there. If we spend all of our time in our Christian bubble, which studies have shown non-Christians even see, we're really not doing anything except feeling safe and comfortable. I don't say that as an excuse to go out and sin, but find the point in which you feel that in good conscious that you can engage in conversation with non-Christians.

dgiharris · Jul 25, 2015

This is a tough subject because we are social beings.

Speaking for myself, I've been in a lot of social situations in which I was the minority. The best way I've found to handle it is through the use of humor. It's amazing how humor can act as both sword and shield. Those around you should know that you are Christian and they should know your views on certain things. So when these conversations come up, you can interject your views in a way that doesn't betray you to yourself. You can also do it in a way that doesn't come off as offensive or holier than thou judgmental.

Or you can just be quiet and not get involved. There is nothing wrong with that either. When people around me are discussing something I don't agree with, I will sometimes just ignore them. If they persist in dragging me into the conversation then I will just argue but I'll do it in a way that is more of a debate and when possible I will interject humor to take the edge off.

Truth be told, sometimes the people around you just aren't all that respectful. In my group we had a few very Christian Christians and when they were around we made it a point to keep a handle on our conversations out of respect for them. On the rare occasion our conversations got out of hand, it's not like we didn't like them simply because they choose not to be a part of the conversation. We understood their beliefs and didn't hold it against them.

Anyways, Sorry I can't offer more concrete advice. I would probably guess that it may seem like a bigger deal to you than it is. It is okay to not take part in conversations you don't agree with. Doing so doesn't mean you automatically become a social pariah. Lastly, I can't say enough about humor being a valuable trait when these things happen. I've been in group situations where conversations where leading towards violence and I was able to immediately diffuse the situation with humor. Similarly, i've been in group conversations that were starting to get offensive and I was able to divert the conversation towards safer subjects using humor. True, we are all not born comedians but we can learn. Watching stand up comedians on YouTube definitely helps develop the sense of humor. And of course practice.

Good luck...

RDKirk · Jul 25, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

Tell us more about your situation. I've been in college, I've been in the military, I've been in overseas situations in places that were moral hellholes. The Lord has never been unfaithful in providing me with other members of the Body to help bear that burden.

PeterDona · Jul 26, 2015

The world is a social training ground - and a fishing place.
You would probably want some number of chappies, that you can normally have an easy conversation going. Those normally build up, if you take time to let it come. It certainly helps to be a little evangelistic. Your active interest in people is normally responded to, even if it is from a somewhat evangelistic interest. As long as people will feel that the interest is genuine, they can actually respect that your a christian, and even that you want to pull them into the faith.
And humorous - no better humor than "so, is it today we should pray for your salvation", on the line for the coffee machine. A surprising remark, but certainly one that would ignite a conversation, if the conditions are for it. You have your social sense, so you know what would be appropriate, and if such a remark would probably work or not. Above all, let your interest in people include your genuine interest in them.

I found one scripture, that could be of interest: Col 4:6 "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." I think that scripture condenses some principles
1) grace !!!!
2) seasoned with salt .... I believe that salt is a symbol of respect for the Covenant Lev 2:13 meaning, showing that you have christian faith and values
3) that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man ... I guess, he talks about training and experience here ... calibration

nice thread, I am fighting the same battle on my job. I have found that it can be interesting to know a little about creationism, for a quick discussion of science which is something that interests most people. Talking about your experiences at the recent church camp or street evangelism can also be great conversation starters. Talking about values can make for interesting discussions.

And then there are the seemingly hardcore ungodly ones ... those that will control the social group in a wrong direction ... hmm, there are always those special cases i guess.

dgiharris · Jul 28, 2015

PeterDona said:
....nice thread, I am fighting the same battle on my job. I have found that it can be interesting to know a little about creationism, for a quick discussion of science which is something that interests most people..

I'm sorry, I could not disagreement more. Whatever you do, NEVER get sucked into a debate of science vs religion and especially creationism vs science.

For one thing, there is little enough consensus among us Christians concerning creationism. There are Christians like me who see absolutely no reason why creationism and evolution conflict and feel that evolution is a form of creationism. Then there are other Christians who will get frothing at the mouth made if you mention the word "evolution". Then there are some Christians who fall somewhere in between. So yeah, don't kick that hornets nest and try to educate the masses around you on creationism when as a group we don't even have a consensus on it.

I'm not a big fan of Christians who feel the need to thump people with the bible and that is what a creationist discussion will inadvertently do as well as alienate you. Seriously, there is no need for this type of conflict and it should be avoided at all costs. I would argue there is a time and place for these types of conflicts and part of the social skill you will need is developing a sense for when we need to speak up and brooch a particular subject vs when we need to stay clear of a subject.

Just sayin, there are certain hot button topics that socially are just best to stay clear of.

RDKirk · Jul 28, 2015

dgiharris said:
I'm sorry, I could not disagreement more. Whatever you do, NEVER get sucked into a debate of science vs religion and especially creationism vs science.

For one thing, there is little enough consensus among us Christians concerning creationism. There are Christians like me who see absolutely no reason why creationism and evolution conflict and feel that evolution is a form of creationism. Then there are other Christians who will get frothing at the mouth made if you mention the word "evolution". Then there are some Christians who fall somewhere in between. So yeah, don't kick that hornets nest and try to educate the masses around you on creationism when as a group we don't even have a consensus on it.

I'm not a big fan of Christians who feel the need to thump people with the bible and that is what a creationist discussion will inadvertently do as well as alienate you. Seriously, there is no need for this type of conflict and it should be avoided at all costs. I would argue there is a time and place for these types of conflicts and part of the social skill you will need is developing a sense for when we need to speak up and brooch a particular subject vs when we need to stay clear of a subject.

Just sayin, there are certain hot button topics that socially are just best to stay clear of.

It's not a matter of social skill so much as a matter of keeping a few things in mind:

1. The mission: To make disciples and to take care of each other. How can this moment be used to take a step forward in making a disciple or taking care of someone?
2. The enemy: The enemy is never the flesh-and-blood person in front of you. The enemy is usually spiritual...and often the enemy is your own flesh...which the spiritual enemy can use against you as well as he's using the person in front of you.
3. The tactical goal: The goal of the moment is probably not to defeat someone in an argument. The goal may be to speak the words of Jesus in the hearing of that person at the edge of your vision who has never heard Jesus speak before.

It takes listening to the Holy Spirit to figure this all out in any given time and place, and it takes a lot of experience and constant practice to hear the Holy Spirit on the fly.

PeterDona · Jul 29, 2015

dgiharris said:
Whatever you do, NEVER (...)

I believe that every person can find a way, with the helping hand of Christ. I believe we are talking about how to get through the daily work life, with a fulfilling contact with colleagues but not having a bad conscience of having taken part in ungodly conversation.
For me it works to believe in creationism. But maybe that is because I am a science teacher, and can put a little weight to my belief. At my job, generally, they know me as a christian. Or, some of them do. I think there is some struggle to even find your feet how to be as a christian in a social setting. Example of what I did in a conversation was, because I and 2 other science teachers had a discussion on the solar system, and then I said straight that God put the planets in their orbits around the sun. My 2 colleagues laughed in a friendly manner, but I actually believe what I said.

Like that, I get some conversations, where I see how I can be as a christian talking with unbelievers, but still they will subconsciously accept my stance. Sometimes they start their ungodly talk even on a 1 on 1 basis, and then I can say something like, "that is really ungodly talk, that one". Of course in a friendly manner, I still want their friendship.

I also have my lonely time at my work, because generally I can not take part in the ungodly chatter. Maybe it would be the best for me to stand up and proclaim the gospel, so at least it would become common talk for all that Peter is a christian, and that he will not be moved from that. I put my hope, that God will give me the right inspiration, or maybe change my heart to accept the suffering of a christian in an ungodly workplace.

But I do feel that some colleagues really recieve when I talk about my faith, so there are also the good moments.

RDKirk · Jul 29, 2015

I attended a memorial for a Christian friend who was killed suddenly ten days ago. This was a young man, 25-years-old, who was drowned while on a first anniversary vacation with his young wife. I've known him since January--we worked together with the youth in our church. He was also a local junior high school teacher.

There were hundreds of people attending the memorial. So many of them had testimonies of how this very young man had entered their lives, many of them teachers in different schools, many of them not Christians--although they all knew three things about him: He was very much a Christian, he loved his wife very much, and he was very deeply interested in their own well-being.

One male teacher who had been through a trying time with pre-mature twin boys who for months had not been expected to live said in his testimony, "I couldn't cry with my wife, but I could cry with Darryl."

There were a couple who actually said their days would be harder to get through without having Darryl drop by to encourage them. One man said that a friend of his had mentioned Darryl as someone he should meet. He hadn't thought anything more about it, then one day out of the blue, Darryl called him saying, "I heard I should meet you. Let's meet! How about lunch?"

Darryl was the kind of man who just being around him made other men (including me) realize they had to step up their games--as husbands, as friends, and as Christians. Hardly anyone was as good a friend to Darryl as he was to them, and that included those who were not Christian.

At one point, Darryl got suspended from teaching because he'd mentioned Jesus once too often. That same month, he was also awarded Teacher of the Year. "Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits." -- 1 Peter 2

JLB777 · Jul 29, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

12 For this reason I also suffer these things; nevertheless I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that Day. 13 Hold fast the pattern of sound words which you have heard from me, in faith and love which are in Christ Jesus. 14 That good thing which was committed to you, keep by the Holy Spirit who dwells in us.
2 Timothy 1:12-14

Pray each day before you go to class and ask Him to give you strength and wisdom to be an example to those around you.

The Holy Spirit will show you.

You don't have to participate in ungodly behavior or conversation.

You belong to another kingdom.

JLB

Sketcher · Aug 10, 2015

Silence actually goes a long way, longer than you are giving it credit for. It's best to avoid talking when there's that kind of conversation going on unless it is necessary.

"In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise." - Proverbs 10:19

"Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive." - Proverbs 17:28

Also, this is good for conversation as well as deeds:

"Let a man meet a bear robbed of her cubs, rather than a fool in his folly." - Proverbs 17:12

JacquelineDeane · Aug 13, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

My family has this same problem too. Now this unacceptable speech and imagery has entered our homes through or computers and TV sets. I don't like everything I read online, but I am having trouble finding an Internet filter that will filter out individual words and pictures.

Also, I hear cuss words coming through the TV set from the actors/actresses who speak them, and growing up as a kid in my parent's house if I ever said a cuss word my mom would spank and punish me. Thanks to how my mother reared me I do not speak cuss words as an adult either (I formed this good habit), I think my speech sounds very wholesome, as the Bible would say.

If anyone knows of any technology that can filter out words and individual images (like inappropriate content and nudity) off of our TV and computer screens will you tell me about it? You can send me a PM.

Years ago I used to read an online magazine called "Etnies" and the editor of that magazine (a man called Brink) would post nude pictures on it, and I did not agree with him doing it because I knew that children viewed his magazine and I did not agree with him showing inappropriate content to an under-aged audience. He never got caught, but if I had my way he would be in jail today for suggestively soliciting minors. I tried to tell his superiors but my cries went un-noticed. You know what that says about his superiors? That they are just as evil as he is. They are just like him. And to me, that is disappointing.

Troy Rambo · Aug 13, 2015

Jesus said "What goes into someone's mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them." Matthew 15:11.

I usually feel a little dirty when people are being ungodly around me but according to what Jesus said above, I dont have to. But you can still stand firm in your faith and ask these people to clean it up. If they dont, you can walk away.

Armoured · Aug 13, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
I need help brothers and sisters.

I believe being surrounded by ungodly conversation- whether it be at home, at school, at work, etc..is unavoidable. Yet, I do know that even though we can't change what other people may say or how they act, we have control over our own conduct and speech.

So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis. And by struggle, I mean that I have gave into ungodly conversation and sadly became a part of it [gossiping, laughing at certain jokes, agreeing with things that shouldn't be agreed with]. I don't want to hate myself- but I do hate how I am speaking/conversing with others. I have tried 2 ways of dealing with ungodly conversation. In one college program, I have separated myself [literally by sitting at the back of the class and not interacting much with people and taking part in their meaningless ungodly chatter]. That didn't turn out too well because I ended up being called weird, ended up feeling miserable and alone, and ended up with others viewing me as if I didn't like them at all-in fact, I strived to love them in my heart, but with me not taking part in any conversation [just keeping to myself and studying in class], it came off as me not liking them at all.

The other way I have dealt with ungodly conversation was me taking part in them. Agreeing, laughing, not making anyone feel like I didn't like them. And I stumbled onto a great reminder today "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

Is there a middle ground somewhere? Does anyone know the struggle that I'm talking about?
#TheStruggleIsReal #IDoubtHashTagsAreEvenUsedInThisSite #IAmGenuinelyAskingForHelp #CollegeLife #DailyLife #WorkInProgress

Just engage in the conversations you feel are appropriate. The ones that aren't just politely excuse yourself and walk away.

Ringo84 · Aug 14, 2015

Accept that there are those who don't see things the way you do and move on. That's part of the reason we go to college: to be exposed to new ideas.

Born2live4ever · Aug 16, 2015

Spirit Reborn said:
So my question is...when I am in a group of people and they are all engaging in ungodly conversation, how am I to act? I'm afraid that being silent throughout it all will give the impression that I do not care or that I'm shunning them, or I am 'above them' or 'holier than thou'. Should I even say anything to contribute/give my 2 cents worth [in a godly fashion]? But how can godly conversation be even brought into an ungodly conversation? I'm not perfect by any means. This is something that I struggle with on a DAILY basis.

When I'm around people who are talking about things that bother me (online or off), I decide what to do based on a few things. First, my mood. If I'm feeling more patient than usual, I might take the time to explain why that bothers me, with the knowledge that it could turn into a debate. I wouldn't suggest doing this unless you're prepared to defend your stance.
If you're not feeling like dealing with it, you can always just ask them to not talk about that subject in front of you, for whatever reason that it bothers you. Gossip bugs me, too. You could always say, "Hey, c'mon, that's not fair, they're not even here to defend themself." Or, if that's too much, you can try to steer the conversation away by changing the subject. "Oh, I just remembered...," and so on.
You should never feel like you can't share your opinion, especially around friends. Given our different religious beliefs alone, I'm sure we wouldn't agree on a lot of things. But that doesn't mean we couldn't get along at all, and there's a balance to be found when you disagree with someone. Stand your ground. No belief is worth holding if you can't defend it.

How do I face ungodly conversations in College?

Have you struggled with this?

No, I didn't even think much about this until now

Yes, I want to change too

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