Hi, I am a 21 year old recently graduated university student. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and it has definitely not been easy. My parents are traditional and so they wanted me and my boyfriend to wait to be together. I was 19 at the time and my boyfriend was 21. I was still in university at the time and lived under my parents roof. I sought out spiritual council from the two ministers I know and asked what I should do. My parents were very controlling and even though my boyfriend tried hard for their approval they just never gave it. One day, we sat my parents down and told them that we have decided it was time for us to be together. Yes, we are both students, yes we have priorities but we can also be together at the same time. My parents did not like this and started shouting at us and so my boyfriend got mad and protective as I was in tears. Few months later, my boyfriend finally had enough of how I was being treated at home (being controlled) and he sent my father a text message telling him how horrible a father he was and how they should treat their daughter better. Obviously this did not sit well with them and a massive argument erupted. I was at home at the time and my mother wouldn't stop shouting at me and swearing and horrible things were said as this was the only way she knew how to hurt my boyfriend. I left home that night. So fast forward two years, it hasn't been easy. My relationship with my parents are only getting better now and we are becoming close again. We have reconciled and everything is good between us. But my boyfriend wants nothing to do with my parents! And I feel torn! I am always in the middle and I have to keep things separate. My boyfriend refuses to apologise and my parents won't make the first move. I am now at a stage in my life where I want to start thinking about getting married and me and my boyfriend have talked about this a lot. The problem is, I refuse to marry him until he reconciles with my family. But now we are away to break up because he believe he will never apologise. What do I do? Do I fight for my boyfriend and be okay with my parents not being at the wedding or do I let my boyfriend go. I really believe that once he gets back to being on fire for God, he will forgive my parents but he is so certain he won't. My parents are Christians and so am I and my boyfriend. But my boyfriend hasn't been going to church as he was so put off by what happened with my parents. Do I fight or give up?