Orgasming?

I'm a single woman, and I'm struggling with my ultra sensitivity.

I've kissed, just a quick goodbye kiss to a SO, and I've orgasmed. I can let loose with minimal touch and romantic attractions.

It's not a disorder kind of serious, but I find it difficult in a Christian relationship to be so turned on whatever I do. I'm sure if pre-marital sex was right, this would be easier to cope with. But it's not. My [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] are wonderful, but it just makes me want more from him. It's unfair that we're both trying to stay pure and I'm foaming at the mouth for more from a friendly peck. I don't want to sin, or make my SO sin because of me.

And just to keep myself not going there, I can't tell him to not touch me at all. I'm a very touchy person and I love physical contact too. I love hugging, kisses, and snuggling. With friends, this is okay because it's not a romantic attraction. I can be a-okay with my best friends and not feel a thing. With an SO or crush, just the fact that I have an intellectual connection with someone is hard. For example: If we're talking and I really like you, my body starts to stir. If I look into your eyes long enough or let you embrace me deeply, I will [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. You just won't know because I'm hiding it.

I also find that my reluctance in doing simple things like holding hands send out wrong signals. They think that I don't like them, but for me, it's just hard to contain my feelings in the middle of a public area. I have to act completely normal, and I can't blurt out on my first date, "Every time we make physical contact, I'm going to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]."

In summary, my sex drive is 100x more than a rabbit and when I'm attracted, I'm attracted EVERYWHERE. Any ideas on how to keep myself sane and pure? I'm trying hard not to sin and give into temptation.

Saucy said:

You said you just can't NOT touch and have physical contact because you enjoy that. Well, you might have to add tougher boundaries and not touch someone. If you know something sets you off, avoid it. Also, can you take care of certain urges before he comes over? Would that help?

I wouldn't share that with a guy either until you are super close and in a committed relationship because that will open the door for him to use that to get you into bed quicker. You can find the right way and wait. I consider myself to have an incredibly high drive, but I've been waiting for marriage successfully and I'm 31. That doesn't mean I haven't gotten in trouble a few times. If the temptation is worse, then you need to try harder.

Don't be alone in a room with him. Have more double-dates. Remain accountable with another girlfriend.

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Thank you so much! And yes, my sex drive is absolutely horrible. I'm praying hard right now to overcome this, and your statement of being pure encourages me to do so!

white dove said:

Such a thing has neeeever happened here before.


This doesn't sound like an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] at all. Simply being turned on, being easy to turn on and having a really high sex drive does not equate an orgasmic experience. A person understands that when they've had one (or more). Not even comparable.

Even so, people should feel comfortable sharing their boundaries, especially with someone they're dating. If someone wants to remain 'pure' - whatever that means to them (no kissing, no making out, no inappropriate content, etc) - he/she should know their triggers and keep a healthy distance from situations that could most likely encourage 'less-than-pure' behavior.

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Perhaps I haven't orgasmed for everything stated above, as I've never done the deed myself to actually know what it's like to push myself over the edge on my own. It feels like a rush of endorphins did a marathon through my body, or a carnal pleasure explode. I do know that it's happened before during a french kiss, a serious night of nonstop thinking about a new lover, etc. In public, I have made noises and faces. I do my best to make it out as cramps...not always successful. I do my BEST if we're on a park bench, but that only happened once, so...

My [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], or intense turn ons, are more mental than anything. I think it's because my heart is fluttering, my mind is racing, and I feel every nerve of my body get high from falling in love. My body reacts to the chemistry that we have, and the feeling of addiction to my new found lover. I forgot to mention that it gets easier when that stage is over, and you're still attracted, without the blutterflies everywhere. I do [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] when I french kiss though, no matter how much the young love passion dies out. I don't get so bothered when I'm looking into his eyes, though.