I just googled "P&W Keyboard Forums" and found this.
I had forgotten all about it.
I am almost four years down the road now, and it's kinda cool to look where I was back then just getting started.
My wife and kids and I did change churches like I said we were considering. We got in at the beginning of a church plant near our house, and it has grown a lot over the almost three years of it's existence. And I went from being on a worship team (at my old church) of 2 musicians, to now being one of two keyboard players on a pretty large worship team. We don't have two keyboard players on stage at once, but we alternate every two weeks.
We normally have 2 acoustic guitars, 2 electric guitars, a drummer, a bass, a keyboard, 3 vocalists and often a violin on stage on a given sunday. And there are almost double that many people on the worship team, who alternate each week. We have been blessed with so many talented musicians, and it is such an honor worshipping with them.
I am still using Propellerhead Reason as the center of my keyboard rig, the latest version 8.3. And I am using it a lot deeper than I was back then. I have a two-tier keyboard setup, a 61-key midi controller on bottom which I use mostly to play pianos and pads, and then an upper 49-key controller I use for lead sounds.
I upgraded my laptop to a MacBookPro recently, and that has boosted performance a lot. And I use an Motu 896mk3 as my audio interface. I can play loops from Reason when we occasionaly use them, and send them to one output on my interface, and then send my keyboard sounds to a different output.
My piano skills have improved a lot, although after reading this I realize that I never have learned my chord inversions like was suggested to me, and I still think that is a good next step for me.
Anyway, I just wanted to pop in and say thanks for all the advice in this thread. It was very helpful at the time and even now.