Need Advice and Uplifting

I was told this by a christian who had never met me before...'you are fearfully and wonderfully made' it wasnt her own opinion, she said it was Gods. And it is true. I had to learn what God thought of me, not other people.

He loves you, and thinks of you as precious. when he made Eve, it was out of finer material than Adam. We were Gods last creation. God looks on your heart, and sees the good things he placed in there.

Dont take any notice of what other people say who dont know you. In some cultures, the mums will say their offspring is ugly cos they believe its not good to puff them up, or the devil will get them. So it might just be your mum is downplaying you deliberately. Think of it this way...it is better than mothers who force their children to enter beauty pageants. I see that in America and im horrified. Really young girls dressed like adults. (Or hookers)

I can sure relate. While I truly believe my father and grandmother mean well, they were highly critical. I was called fat all the time (I was but still..), unattractive, stupid - all kinds of things. My dad would make fun of me for how my clothes looked; in fact, I remember crying at a Christmas celebration because of some comments he made about an outfit I received as a gift. I know there are individuals who have suffered horrific abuse beyond what I can imagine at the hands of their parents, but still, I think such words and attitudes leave lasting emotional scars.

Academically I have always done well, but sometimes I feel as if nothing I do matters. I have been on the President's list at my college multiple times but have never received acknowledgment from either of my parents on account of this.

One thing to consider is why your family members are like that. Odds are they were treated that way by their family or friends; it is just normal to them. Additionally, they are probably just as critical of themselves as they are off you. Try to view them as "damaged souls" who have yet to experience Christ's love (we love others because He first loved us), rather than harsh or cruel.

Do not seek validation from men. You are more than the grades you make, the success and failures you experience, and the opinions society has of you. You can be something far more honorable - a servant and a child of God, the Creator, the Most High. We may not all be "great" or accepted in this world, but Jesus said He would not cast out those who come to Him. The most beautiful flower fades; the most attractive model will die, but likely not before time takes away her physical beauty. Life can rob individuals of physical beauty, intellect, and all possessions in just a moment. Build a firm and lasting foundation. Build your life on the Rock - Jesus Christ. Doing good. Loving God and serving Him and man. This is what lasts. That is what matters.

Hi Danae,

Jesus was also ostracized and made fun of when he lived on the Earth. So, first of all, take heart sister, he knows exactly what your going through and can also sympathise with you because he also knows what it is like to be mistreated even by those he loved and were close to him. But he relied on God and God was his comfort and he encourages those who feel alone and sad to come to him and form a close relationship with him. Your spirit will be uplifted when you have that close relationship.

Jesus was also not a handsome person. Did you know that?

Isaiah 53:2
He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.

In this life, strangers, friends, yes even family can be mean and ungodly towards you, it's sinful human nature. But God tells us to continue to love those who hate you and do good to those who mistreat you. It's a very hard thing to do but God blesses those who do it. In a few years time, when you have a job of your own etc, you can put the school life behind you and move on. It's important that you don't take to heart mean things people say and just resign it to the fact that many of them just don't know the gospel, count yourself blessed that you do.

Luke 6:27-28
"But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

Proverbs 25:21-22
If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink: For you shall heap coals of fire upon his head, and the LORD shall reward you.

God bless you.

It is pretty bad when your family doesn't believe in you. All I want to say is God believes in you, my advice for you is start taking steps rebuilding your inner self, read the bible highlight the verses that speak of God's love, tell God how you feel and ask God to heal you on the inside. Take steps of changing your appearance change the hair style, you know you need to build up your confidence, buy new shoes or few outfits. Eat healthier food. All these things make a difference. The most important one is God needs to heal you and He will. HUGS

You can't control what others think about you, but you can choose what you think about yourself. God valued you so highly that He sent His only Son to give His life for you. The more you make Him your life (Gal 2.20) the more the reality of who you are in Him becomes manifest. When we exalt Him, we are exalted in Him (1Sam 2.20).

It would be a real tragedy if their negativity held you back from accomplishing the goals you have set for yourself. I would dedicate your intentions to God and then make a solemn commitment to believe what He says, do things His way and not fear man. It means weaning yourself off dependence on man's opinions. That can be difficult at first, but it is worth it, and it is in fact part of God's plan of sanctification for each of us (Gal 5.1).

Back to the Bible...

I KNEW YOU BEFORE YOU WERE BORN
“For You created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me were written in
Your book before one of them came to be.”
Psalm 139: 13-16

Some good thoughts were given here, Danae. While it is sad that one does not feel appreciated, perhaps one is really valued, but family don't have a history of showing affection. Know for sure that God loves you, and if you show love to Him He will embrace you more. Make it a practice --habit, of speaking a kind word to others in passing and you will begin to feel good and find others who will appreciate you.

You seem to have good goals in life, and with the Lord before you the goals can be achieved. Look up always, and write me anytime, friend.