hello guys,
I am pursuing a girl whom I met at work, but it has been 6 months and I don't know if I should stay persistent or just give up. Please give me some advice on what I should do and think.
She is the most special girl I have ever met and we have a lot in common e.g. religion, profession, studying & dogs. We used to message each other every night and we went for lunch alone for many times. I didn't ask her to be my girlfriend because I was moving to another city (an hour away by flight) for study and I didn't want her to misunderstand that I was after a short-term casual relationship. She sure knows I love her as people from my department and her department never go out together. Before I moved, I said I would come back to see her at Easter.
Things changed immediately once I moved 4 months ago. She doesn't reply to my message every day and we only have one long chat per week. And a couple of weeks before Easter, she disappeared from messenger and I thought it was the end.
But right after Easter, she messaged that she was away and she was sorry that she missed my visit. I proposed to visit again and just flew back a week ago. It was our first meeting outside work and I thought it went well. We talked about work, study, dogs and church just like the old time. At the end of the meeting, I asked if I could see her again and she said "yea, but let me know in advance as I can be away sometimes".
Unexpectedly, I didn't get any reply for the 3 messages I sent over the last week. I am so confused now. If she is just a normal girl, I will just give up. But she is a christian, so when she smiled when she hugged me when she said "yea", I truly believe her. She has work, study, long daily commuting and church. I don't know if she is just busy or not interested or half-half.
I am pursuing a girl whom I met at work, but it has been 6 months and I don't know if I should stay persistent or just give up. Please give me some advice on what I should do and think.
She is the most special girl I have ever met and we have a lot in common e.g. religion, profession, studying & dogs. We used to message each other every night and we went for lunch alone for many times. I didn't ask her to be my girlfriend because I was moving to another city (an hour away by flight) for study and I didn't want her to misunderstand that I was after a short-term casual relationship. She sure knows I love her as people from my department and her department never go out together. Before I moved, I said I would come back to see her at Easter.
Things changed immediately once I moved 4 months ago. She doesn't reply to my message every day and we only have one long chat per week. And a couple of weeks before Easter, she disappeared from messenger and I thought it was the end.
But right after Easter, she messaged that she was away and she was sorry that she missed my visit. I proposed to visit again and just flew back a week ago. It was our first meeting outside work and I thought it went well. We talked about work, study, dogs and church just like the old time. At the end of the meeting, I asked if I could see her again and she said "yea, but let me know in advance as I can be away sometimes".
Unexpectedly, I didn't get any reply for the 3 messages I sent over the last week. I am so confused now. If she is just a normal girl, I will just give up. But she is a christian, so when she smiled when she hugged me when she said "yea", I truly believe her. She has work, study, long daily commuting and church. I don't know if she is just busy or not interested or half-half.
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