What is the best way to convert someone to the faith?

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If he is willing to come to church with you occasionally, find a parish that has a modern church building. While traditional churches are certainly beautiful and inspirational to many, a more contemporary setting might make him more comfortable.

If you know the priests and deacons, look for the ones you think would communicate well with him. See if you can engage in conversation with one of them at a parish gathering your husband may be at.

If Mary and the saints freak your husband out, don't watch EWTN at home. If these devotions are important to you, practice them when he's not around, but don't let them obscure the picture for your husband.
 
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good advice


If he is willing to come to church with you occasionally, find a parish that has a modern church building. While traditional churches are certainly beautiful and inspirational to many, a more contemporary setting might make him more comfortable.

If you know the priests and deacons, look for the ones you think would communicate well with him. See if you can engage in conversation with one of them at a parish gathering your husband may be at.

If Mary and the saints freak your husband out, don't watch EWTN at home. If these devotions are important to you, practice them when he's not around, but don't let them obscure the picture for your husband.
 
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I have know many, many folks over the decades where spouses started as participants in two churches. There are many different kinds of improvements to the situation.

One approach is to respect each other's beliefs. It is the Church's teaching that other Christians are indeed Christians and have a portion of the deposit of faith. You might consider occasionally attending church at a church acceptable to your husband. It could be his church or another. Continue to attend Catholic church on your own, when you can. Let him know that he is welcome to attend, as any non-Catholic always is.

Some folks here might not consider it a step forward for the two of you to be praying together in a non-Catholic church. I would disagree. Of course, as a visitor, you would not take communion in a non-catholic church.

As an aside, if your husband's church actively preaches against the Catholic Church, you may be able to find a church where you both might be comfortable is worshipping, as visitors. Most churches welcome visitors. They are more or less pushy about changing your views. After an initial welcoming, most are happy enough to leave you alone to work out your salvation, as Paul taught.
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Many here would consider me unreasonable (not uncommon). However, I don't think that the idea of spouses attending separate church is a long-term solution within the framework of marriage. I understand that this is sometimes the best solution.

During my life, there were times when I attended two churches each weekend. There were times when I sometimes attended one church and sometimes another.

IMHO, the present issue might be to find a temporary solution. I pray that when your husband sees that your faith is important to you AND that you respect his devotion to his faith, then you might be able to take further steps. I would think that RCIA is a long way off for your husband, but that is not your concern; that is the job of the Holy Spirit.
 
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Thanks for the responses guys! Fantine and Mark46 you both have really great advice. I have offered to go to church with my husband and he has offered to go with me so I think that is a big plus. Like you said people may think that is a bit of a backslide but I think it's a great idea. My grandma forced my grandfather into the church and absolutely resents everything about it because she's literally nitpicked him to deal over it throughout their 60 years of marriage. Needless to say, he never goes, except maybe during Christmas if he's forced. All that aside I do know my husband too and he takes time to have things warmed up to him. I think by having that mutual church agreement that might work out very well in the beginning. I don't mind multiple church experiences. It just me more time to worship the lord if anything.
 
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