I am a married Mormon who doesn't wish to make waves but I want to live my life without some of the more excessive expectations of legalistic Mormonism. I currently do so discretely. This really only constitutes a drink or two with friends on occasion. My spouse is a very conservative Mormon as was I when we married (That has since changed but I do still feel Mormonism to be "spiritually productive" but not necessarily a required, all encompassing lifestyle that it professes itself to be) , and drinking at all is prohibited, very strictly. I want to be totally open with my wife about all things but don't feel that it would be very well received, and its frankly not worth the heart burn it would give her. I feel it is an ethical dilemma. It really is of no consequence and I can't go through life living a lifestyle for others...yet in being/living honestly with myself, I am less than totally open/transparent with my spouse......