As a single man, who is a Christian, and not only has heard God's word, but daily attempts to live it...........
My city has a "network" for Men that supposedly 'equips' us and teaches us to "man up" and step up to the challenges facing our community. There is a variety of churches involved. We have this monthly breakfast where there is a speaker or pastor and we get the usual lecture of:
Well, today....evidently the message and lecture was that "men don't come to church" because there are no "resources" out there for them. So they showed us this new "webpage" with stuff for men to uplift them and help them be better fathers, husbands, leaders, and Christians...........
It only costs ten bux a month to be a member, and they have videos of sermons by pastors that "love" men evidently. Pastor's like Mark Driscoll who "screams" at men with "How Dare You!" sermons. Sermons from men like Perry Noble who tell men to "grow some" and ask women out! Information that is high on advice, but has little application. Advice telling men that they all have inappropriate content problems, they are no good, depraved, and need to listen to the "wise counsel of their wives"
Only ten bux a month! Step right up! The webpage looks like its was designed by an old man using a "build your own webpage" he got for free on Google. Boy, these guys were just so proud of themselves...because if men "out in the world" and in "church" can get help from "real men" by a webpage they will change their lives tomorrow, come to church, repent, and suddenly be the "Godly man, that God wants him to be"
Man, it was a laugh.......wow.....men just need to go on this invention called "the Internet" and get help, find this webpage, pay 10 bux a month to be shamed, belittled, yelled at, and told what they are not doing. Brilliant! If ONLY someone had thought of this sooner!
My take on helping men today? Convincing them that they need a Savior? Bringing them into church? Growing them to conform daily to God's Son?????????
Want my take? TB (too bad) you're gonna hear it
No more "workshops" no more "bold directions and bold plans" no more "tools" and "resources" to equip them. No more angry sermons made to tickle the women's ears and shame the men that are in church. No more stories that if "we just made the praise music loud, with hard rock with smoke machines and lights the men will relate to this"
NO. NO! Ten thousand times NO!
Men today who are out there in the world are HURTING. They want questions answered about Christ's love, forgiveness, and regeneration. They want to see men who not only have heard the Word, but live it. They want prayer, comforting words, and hope about their own lives. Answers to TOUGH questions.....why did I lose my job? why did she leave / divorce me? why didn't my father love me? why can't I seem to get ahead? i am so sick and tired of being sick and tired.......and nothing calms, helps, comforts, or answers. why did god allow this? my kids are driving me crazy, every-time i lead, my wife undermines my authority with them. what good can god do for me when i am unforgiveable?
These questions are HARD to answer. HARD to work through. It will take TIME and WORK by a church community to do this, and fix this. Something MOST Christians inside the walls DON'T want to do. It's easier to say "we'll give you the tools" and the overused word of "leadership" (I have heard this word used more inside the church than outside). The church has enough "leaders" so to speak. It needs followers now. Followers of Jesus Christ...not followers of a 'bold' pastor. Men inside the church are going to have to face the fact they THEY are going to have to do this. Christ called YOU.
These workshops, seminars, tools, and equipping "classes" look great on paper, but they do little.
The best example is Christ. He did it with no medium except Truth. Pastors say today "Jesus would have loved an iphone and Facebook"
No, he wouldn't. It really wouldn't serve a purpose to him. His purpose WAS relational. It wasn't "I'll post a tweet and all will be well"
and pastors who say this by the way forget the FACT that many churches are downright poor (my church....most people could not afford an iphone, and have to use the computer at the library).
It's easy to puff yourself up today as man in church that has nice teeth, a cute wife, good hair and a good speaking voice to tell "the rest of us" what we are not, and bemoan that "men are not stepping up"
Their message is never looked at. Their outlook is never questioned. Their position is deemed beyond reproach.
I agree men need to be men. I agree more needs to be done.....but what WE are purporting and doing isn't working, and it's time to really take it back and see, not just read....but really, really focus on how Jesus ministered. His message is for all time........but hey, I'm just a single Christian man with no credentials.......no seminary training. No "bold" ministry of living in Timbuktu for two years (yet these same people who do ministry like this ignore the shanty trailer park across their town near the railroad tracks and toxic-waste dump). I don't have the looks that are deemed "cute" "hot" by a cultural standard.......so my opinion means nothing in the church today concerning these matters.........
My city has a "network" for Men that supposedly 'equips' us and teaches us to "man up" and step up to the challenges facing our community. There is a variety of churches involved. We have this monthly breakfast where there is a speaker or pastor and we get the usual lecture of:
- Men are not stepping up in their families
- Men are not doing enough for the church
- Men are not coming to church
- Men are not "bold" and "courageous"
- Men just want sex
- Men don't come to church because they can't face their depraved nature
- Men are making all these 'fatherless' homes and we men in the church are not doing enough to help single mothers
- Mostly white
- Mostly over the age of sixty
- ALL have been married for at least 25, 35, 40, 45 years.....or more
- Most are retired, or have had positions in their work careers that gave them the luxury of not worrying where their next meal would come from, or how they were going to pay the rent every month.
- Most are paunchy, overweight, and evidently know how to 'relate' to men
- Every month the words I hear over and over again are: reaching out, bold, outreach, programs, tools, equip, challenge
Well, today....evidently the message and lecture was that "men don't come to church" because there are no "resources" out there for them. So they showed us this new "webpage" with stuff for men to uplift them and help them be better fathers, husbands, leaders, and Christians...........
It only costs ten bux a month to be a member, and they have videos of sermons by pastors that "love" men evidently. Pastor's like Mark Driscoll who "screams" at men with "How Dare You!" sermons. Sermons from men like Perry Noble who tell men to "grow some" and ask women out! Information that is high on advice, but has little application. Advice telling men that they all have inappropriate content problems, they are no good, depraved, and need to listen to the "wise counsel of their wives"
Only ten bux a month! Step right up! The webpage looks like its was designed by an old man using a "build your own webpage" he got for free on Google. Boy, these guys were just so proud of themselves...because if men "out in the world" and in "church" can get help from "real men" by a webpage they will change their lives tomorrow, come to church, repent, and suddenly be the "Godly man, that God wants him to be"
Man, it was a laugh.......wow.....men just need to go on this invention called "the Internet" and get help, find this webpage, pay 10 bux a month to be shamed, belittled, yelled at, and told what they are not doing. Brilliant! If ONLY someone had thought of this sooner!
My take on helping men today? Convincing them that they need a Savior? Bringing them into church? Growing them to conform daily to God's Son?????????
Want my take? TB (too bad) you're gonna hear it
No more "workshops" no more "bold directions and bold plans" no more "tools" and "resources" to equip them. No more angry sermons made to tickle the women's ears and shame the men that are in church. No more stories that if "we just made the praise music loud, with hard rock with smoke machines and lights the men will relate to this"
NO. NO! Ten thousand times NO!
Men today who are out there in the world are HURTING. They want questions answered about Christ's love, forgiveness, and regeneration. They want to see men who not only have heard the Word, but live it. They want prayer, comforting words, and hope about their own lives. Answers to TOUGH questions.....why did I lose my job? why did she leave / divorce me? why didn't my father love me? why can't I seem to get ahead? i am so sick and tired of being sick and tired.......and nothing calms, helps, comforts, or answers. why did god allow this? my kids are driving me crazy, every-time i lead, my wife undermines my authority with them. what good can god do for me when i am unforgiveable?
These questions are HARD to answer. HARD to work through. It will take TIME and WORK by a church community to do this, and fix this. Something MOST Christians inside the walls DON'T want to do. It's easier to say "we'll give you the tools" and the overused word of "leadership" (I have heard this word used more inside the church than outside). The church has enough "leaders" so to speak. It needs followers now. Followers of Jesus Christ...not followers of a 'bold' pastor. Men inside the church are going to have to face the fact they THEY are going to have to do this. Christ called YOU.
These workshops, seminars, tools, and equipping "classes" look great on paper, but they do little.
The best example is Christ. He did it with no medium except Truth. Pastors say today "Jesus would have loved an iphone and Facebook"
No, he wouldn't. It really wouldn't serve a purpose to him. His purpose WAS relational. It wasn't "I'll post a tweet and all will be well"
and pastors who say this by the way forget the FACT that many churches are downright poor (my church....most people could not afford an iphone, and have to use the computer at the library).
It's easy to puff yourself up today as man in church that has nice teeth, a cute wife, good hair and a good speaking voice to tell "the rest of us" what we are not, and bemoan that "men are not stepping up"
Their message is never looked at. Their outlook is never questioned. Their position is deemed beyond reproach.
I agree men need to be men. I agree more needs to be done.....but what WE are purporting and doing isn't working, and it's time to really take it back and see, not just read....but really, really focus on how Jesus ministered. His message is for all time........but hey, I'm just a single Christian man with no credentials.......no seminary training. No "bold" ministry of living in Timbuktu for two years (yet these same people who do ministry like this ignore the shanty trailer park across their town near the railroad tracks and toxic-waste dump). I don't have the looks that are deemed "cute" "hot" by a cultural standard.......so my opinion means nothing in the church today concerning these matters.........
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