I want to clarify the question.
I do not know of a word that applies, so I used the phrase "raised by".
The question is, basically, do children have the right to have a mother-child relationship with their biological mother and a father-child relationship with their biological father?
The mother may die when the child is 2 years old. But the child can still grow up relating to his/her biological mother as his/her mother. Through pictures. Through stories that people tell. Through words like, "Your mother would be so proud of you".
The same thing could be said about a child whose biological father is in prison when he/she is born. The father may never be physically present or ever be a teacher, disciplinarian, etc.--never be able to help "raise" the child--but the father-child relationship can be experienced if both father and child want it and if other people allow it. Through letters and pictures. Through visits to the prison. Etc.
If, say, a man has a child through surrogacy with a donor egg and the biological mother is never in the picture then having a mother-child relationship with her is not possible for the child. At least not until he/she is an adult.
If one or both biological parents not being in the picture as much as possible is not a right then nobody would have a problem with the adults in a child's life eliminating everything that could be part of any possible emotional connection with his/her biological parents?
I think that the responses naming only things like love, a safe environment, etc. are off base. No, I did not just say that children do not have the right to be loved or to be safe, so please do not distort my words. The point I am now trying to make is that the healthiest thing is to be able to function in every way. To say that either a relationship between two people must be pleasant or there should not be a relationship at all is unrealistic. A child may feel hurt by and angry with his/her biological mother and/or father. If there is no right to a parent-child relationship of any kind with a child's biological mother and/or father then the chance to communicate that hurt and anger is denied.
I do not know of a word that applies, so I used the phrase "raised by".
The question is, basically, do children have the right to have a mother-child relationship with their biological mother and a father-child relationship with their biological father?
The mother may die when the child is 2 years old. But the child can still grow up relating to his/her biological mother as his/her mother. Through pictures. Through stories that people tell. Through words like, "Your mother would be so proud of you".
The same thing could be said about a child whose biological father is in prison when he/she is born. The father may never be physically present or ever be a teacher, disciplinarian, etc.--never be able to help "raise" the child--but the father-child relationship can be experienced if both father and child want it and if other people allow it. Through letters and pictures. Through visits to the prison. Etc.
If, say, a man has a child through surrogacy with a donor egg and the biological mother is never in the picture then having a mother-child relationship with her is not possible for the child. At least not until he/she is an adult.
If one or both biological parents not being in the picture as much as possible is not a right then nobody would have a problem with the adults in a child's life eliminating everything that could be part of any possible emotional connection with his/her biological parents?
I think that the responses naming only things like love, a safe environment, etc. are off base. No, I did not just say that children do not have the right to be loved or to be safe, so please do not distort my words. The point I am now trying to make is that the healthiest thing is to be able to function in every way. To say that either a relationship between two people must be pleasant or there should not be a relationship at all is unrealistic. A child may feel hurt by and angry with his/her biological mother and/or father. If there is no right to a parent-child relationship of any kind with a child's biological mother and/or father then the chance to communicate that hurt and anger is denied.
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