I am in the situation, that I have 10 years ago divorced the mother of my only son. I am at the moment going through a period of worrying deeply about my sin, I guess that is the grief that produces repentance, spoken in e.g. 2cor7.
The mother of my son is in an abusive church. Actually, it was the pastor who put me together with her, after her first husband had left her 6 months before. She also had a son with her first husband. She and her first husband were in the leadership together.
Since I was the one deciding for the divorce, I feel quite heavy about it.
Sometimes I feel angry that the pastor put me in this squeezing situation. Anger is also a sin.
I feel i have been through all the possibilities. I did study many views on marriage and divorce, and adultery (that a 2nd marriage could be considered). But at the bottomline is, that I fear that I have the obligation to go back to this woman, and even go back to that abusive church. I did the sin of divorce. If I repent of that sin, does it not mean to go back to the marriage?
I know what my feelings want, but if God considers that (2nd) marriage a valid one, do I not have to go back to her?
The mother of my son is in an abusive church. Actually, it was the pastor who put me together with her, after her first husband had left her 6 months before. She also had a son with her first husband. She and her first husband were in the leadership together.
Since I was the one deciding for the divorce, I feel quite heavy about it.
Sometimes I feel angry that the pastor put me in this squeezing situation. Anger is also a sin.
I feel i have been through all the possibilities. I did study many views on marriage and divorce, and adultery (that a 2nd marriage could be considered). But at the bottomline is, that I fear that I have the obligation to go back to this woman, and even go back to that abusive church. I did the sin of divorce. If I repent of that sin, does it not mean to go back to the marriage?
I know what my feelings want, but if God considers that (2nd) marriage a valid one, do I not have to go back to her?