The whole thing with the gays is more about the political side of things. And I'm not saying they don't need forgiveness. I want to show them Christ's love but I'm just worried that I'll mess up my opportunity. I kind of see me position as a "sexual minority" placing me uniquely to talk to these people.
The above and what I have seen of your responses on this thread suggest to me that in some ways you are ahead of the great majority of those who might read this thread (certainly ahead of me) though I can see how you would also be a minor minority in vulnerable positions, hence your reaching out here.
I don't think there are easy answers to much of what you must face, but various general thoughts come to mind--though you might have thought of the same already.
1) Be prepared for pain and find useful ways to cope. One need not be a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] or seek for trouble, but Jesus promised "in this world you will suffer tribulation." Seeing such tribulation as following in the footsteps of Jesus helps a little where applicable (e.g., cf. Col. 1:24). So does Jesus' promise "but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world" (John 16:33)--meaning also that one's perspective ought to include that which comes after death and at the coming of Jesus again (a coping mechanism among other things). Remember that only some have ears to hear; focus more heavily on them.
Then there are life's troubles unrelated to identification with Jesus and the gospel (my care broke down, I'm sick, etc.), but that is too much of a digression.
2) Seek a small circle of Christians who share your burdens as you share in theirs. This is one of the purposes of the church (not an online forum, which may have its place, but face-to-face). In this sense, # 2 is a subset of # 1 although church functions are broader. Be a member of a gospel preaching church.
3) Be prepared, in part by reading widely (and deeply in the Bible) and seeking mentors. Not just mentors who may have a model of gospel ministry to and among homosexuals (have you tried Google searching different related terms for these?) but those who are well versed in the Bible, theology, history, and related science (I mean more than one person with varied areas of relative expertise). Granted the following is a little off-topic (the 26 June SCOTUS decision), but one of my NT mentors speaks briefly:
here.
4) Cultivate Christian virtues. Humility and thankfulness. Boldness and self-control. Generosity and joy. Wisdom and the fear of God. Be a disciple of Jesus pointing to Jesus.
5) Write. Speak. Practice. Think ("renewing your mind" Rom. 12:1-2). If you are in it for the long haul, this is part of what it will take to do it right. Recite Bible verses and passages that help or that you need. Also be slower to speak than to listen.
6) Be patient and long-suffering, the former sometimes even with yourself. What if the fruit of your actions in some cases only begins to appear in a later generation, even if imperceptibly?
7) Pray and praise and confess your sins. Keep a journal of prayers. Pray at set times and spontaneously (Lord, help!). Practice praying. Remember what God has done in prayer--both in the Bible and in your own life. Use prayers from the Bible. Even the laments (e.g., of the Psalms). Sing the Psalter as unto the Lord. And here's a site for prayer training:
http://www.seejesus.net/studies/praying-life/start-here .
I realize the above is not specific to your concern. That reflects my own deficiencies in the topic probably more than the general nature of the above quote to which I here attempt a response. And I have no doubt you have already practiced at least much of the above even if it may be helpful here to recall and recite them--or such is my hope. May God help us.