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Hello everyone, I am new to this forum and community. I am a non-denominational female, Christian. I am 30 years old. I have Aspergers, Depression and Anxiety and goodness knows what else.

I will quickly explain why I need prayers.

Recently I felt the need to post my thoughts on the same sex marriage legalization that was recently made legal. At first I remained neutral to the whole thing, but I remembered something in scripture about Christians and how they should not be passive and undecided about such things.

So I wrote a msg on Facebook publicly. I said that while i may be pro-man/woman marriage, i do not hate, or condemn people of other lifestyle choices. That it isn't for me to judge, but that it is in God's hands. Also that I still love and respect everyone, who may be gay or are pro-same sex marriage, i can still love them, doesn't mean i have to agree with their choices.

However, people i hold very dear and respect have shunned me, my family is angry with me, and one of them has pretty much disowned me, and others have insulted me. I feel very alone and heartbroken.

On top of this, i feel guilty as well. I don't take back anything that i wrote, but i feel like maybe i should've just not have said anything?

My mother told me to apologize for offending everyone and to take down the facebook post. Which i refuse to do. It would be like taking back what I said, and i dont regret what i said. It's maybe the how i chose to express myself that i am regretting.

It hurts me, that people that i know and love are offended by what i wrote and are basically ignoring me. No one will talk to me, I have tried to reach out and talk about it, but they clearly want non of it.

These are the times that i wish we could just send Jesus a text or call him on the phone and ask him what to do. I know i can pray and talk to Jesus about it already, but i feel like there is a wall between us right now. I would explain that too, but i dont think this is the proper place to write it out. I also don't want to bore you with my whole life story.

I just felt a great need to reach out to other people like me. I just ask for some prayers, as i feel horribly alone.

Thanks in advance and God bless.
 

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I'm a gay guy. While I'm happy with the supreme court's decision to protect gay-marriage under the constitution, even I can admit to being a little annoyed by the rainbow-explosion on social media :p

It sounds like you got a lot of fallout from posting your thoughts on facebook. I think this can happen to a lot of us at times. It took me many years to figure out how to facebook in a more friendly manner, so that I don't offend the people really important to me. If you upset someone that you really value, it might not be a bad idea to send them a message an say you're sorry, at least for upsetting them.

As for gay marriage, without getting into if it's right or wrong, it's a very sensitive issue right now. Just like many things, republicans, vs democrats, people who like Obama, people who hate them. There are tons of topics that will cause people to get hostile. While I strongly encourage you to thoroughly examine your opinions and re-examine them. I think that social media is there to share a lot of these controversial views. Sometimes having our views challenged is how we evolve our understanding. So I think, for the most part it's ok to say what you want and see how people respond. If they don't respond in a way that you like, think hard about whether that is because something you think might not be right, or whether its something with them. Argue your points, but never insultingly. If you can remain friendly during a debate, and people are still mean to you, they probably aren't the best people to friends with.

Anyhow, you can chuck my advice if you want! That's what prayers for and I'm praying for you!
 
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poor darling... God bless you very much, dear sister in the LORD. i am so sorry you are going through these trials. i pray you lean on the Lord Jesus and that He will comfort your heart and help you know what to do in regard to your family and friends who shun you. pray for them, would be my best advice, and stay in Christ. much love to you. :prayer:
 
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I'm a gay guy. While I'm happy with the supreme court's decision to protect gay-marriage under the constitution, even I can admit to being a little annoyed by the rainbow-explosion on social media :p

It sounds like you got a lot of fallout from posting your thoughts on facebook. I think this can happen to a lot of us at times. It took me many years to figure out how to facebook in a more friendly manner, so that I don't offend the people really important to me. If you upset someone that you really value, it might not be a bad idea to send them a message an say you're sorry, at least for upsetting them.

As for gay marriage, without getting into if it's right or wrong, it's a very sensitive issue right now. Just like many things, republicans, vs democrats, people who like Obama, people who hate them. There are tons of topics that will cause people to get hostile. While I strongly encourage you to thoroughly examine your opinions and re-examine them. I think that social media is there to share a lot of these controversial views. Sometimes having our views challenged is how we evolve our understanding. So I think, for the most part it's ok to say what you want and see how people respond. If they don't respond in a way that you like, think hard about whether that is because something you think might not be right, or whether its something with them. Argue your points, but never insultingly. If you can remain friendly during a debate, and people are still mean to you, they probably aren't the best people to friends with.

Anyhow, you can chuck my advice if you want! That's what prayers for and I'm praying for you!

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Thank you so much for the reply!

Your reply was really helpful and made me feel better. I absolutely will not chuck your advice, i value it!

I am also starting to realize facebook is not the best place to discuss such delicate subjects as gay marriage and similar subjects. I really should've known better. I dont know what came over me, i just felt a strong need to do it, or else i wouldn't have. I knew there would be backlash, but i never imagined my own family...

You are really kind to say such thing's even though we have different viewpoints. It takes a big person to push their own thoughts and feelings out of something you clearly disagree with. Just...thank you for that.

It must be hard for you sometimes in your position, being a gay christian man. I probably know nothing about being shunned and ridiculed, compared to what you may or may not have been through. I am sorry if i am assuming, but i hope you haven't been treated unfairly, but knowing society...

I think you're really brave and I know God loves you, and maybe he sent you to help me in a way. Because a lot of what you said really made sense, and i truly feel better after reading your reply.

I am not sure what will become of my family and my relationship with them. I am considering privately sending them a msg. If will be the most difficult thing I will ever do though, to hear their reactions. Maybe they will yell at me, or maybe they will just ignore me. It pains me to think, what they will say.

The most difficult part of this entire thing is. I am from BC Canada, I fell in love with an American. I moved to NC to be with him and got married. I am now living with him currently in NC. So my family are all back at home (3000 miles away) and I have been away from them since November 2014. I have never been away from them this long. I miss them dearly. However the awkward part is, my husband and I are supposed to visit them for Christmas this year, lol. Good times! I wonder how that will go, or even if we are invited now. I wonder if they will all be snickering and gossiping about me behind my back when i leave the room. I wonder if they will forgive me.

I guess i will just have to suck it up and deal with it the best way i can.

Thanks again Sir. Feel free to msg me any time :D Also thank you for your prayers, that means so much to me!
 
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poor darling... God bless you very much, dear sister in the LORD. i am so sorry you are going through these trials. i pray you lean on the Lord Jesus and that He will comfort your heart and help you know what to do in regard to your family and friends who shun you. pray for them, would be my best advice, and stay in Christ. much love to you. :prayer:

Thank you deeply for your word and prayers. Everytime i pray for them I burst into tears, because i have all these emotions welling up inside me. I still get it done, its just so overwhelming. I will continue to pray for them, as that's the only thing i can think of. I may write some apology letters, if i can talk myself into it. Thank you again! <3 God bless.
 
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