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I am in my mid 20's and single. I hope to have sex one day but with my husband in marriage. Not to say I haven't had desires of course, but I don't beat myself up over urges that God gave me as long as it doesn't lead to sin. I don't freak out over normal sexual thoughts.

I've heard people say that sex is for procreation and that enjoying it to pleasure is selfish. I don't want kids. If I were married and intimate with my husband I don't want to be made to feel ashamed of it.

I wish people would recognize that sex isn't just about having children for those who don't want them.

I am scared God won't provide.
 

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We were made sexual beings, not just for procreation, in my opinion. The challenge that I've noticed for people, is finding the love of your life and both wanting the same (children or no children). I've met couples who have NO desire to have children - they want to work, travel, enjoy each other, and of course, they have sex. While no prevention is 100% short of abstinence, unless your particular church has doctrines about that issue, then it shouldn't be an issue.

I think we are in a time where we see more and more couples choosing to go childless because they want to have more freedom. Some feel it would be selfish to bring children into this world with all the yuck that it can bring.

I would encourage you to seek what you want in your life. God hears our pleas. He answers- affirmative or negative, he answers. But he also gives us the resources and ability to cope with what he answers.

So what if people don't see things your way (particularly married couples with children)? Are you able to respond back assertively with compassion for their beliefs, yet affirming yours without bringing on a chasm or defensive relationship between both of you? Do you ever find these convos make you doubt yourself and your conviction for your life?
 
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God devoted an entire book of the bible (Song of Solomon) to the subject of sex and there is never one hint of pregnancy or children. It is ALL about celebrating sexual pleasure in a wide variety of modes.

One should NEVER be ashamed of being how God made you to be.

What exactly are you afraid that God will not provide? A husband?
 
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There are many ways that marriage -- and sex within marriage -- honor and worship God. You will not necessarily be able to control what other people think or say, but you can nonetheless give glory to the divine and the miracle of spirit-in-flesh in all the wonderful ways that God has given us. Without guilt or shame.
 
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I am in my mid 20's and single. I hope to have sex one day but with my husband in marriage. Not to say I haven't had desires of course, but I don't beat myself up over urges that God gave me as long as it doesn't lead to sin. I don't freak out over normal sexual thoughts.

I've heard people say that sex is for procreation and that enjoying it to pleasure is selfish. I don't want kids. If I were married and intimate with my husband I don't want to be made to feel ashamed of it.

I wish people would recognize that sex isn't just about having children for those who don't want them.

I am scared God won't provide.
Celticroots, You make a good point -- its not about having "babies", its deeper --
 
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