Hello all!
I'm not sure I'm posting this in the right place, but here goes:
I am a 23-year-old woman who has recently drawn closer to God. I know I was saved as a child (and I'm Baptist, once saved always saved is what I have always believed) but only recently have I really began to submit my life fully to God's will. I have begun daily Bible reading and study, daily prayer and meditation, trying to get closer to Him.
At this stage in my life, many of my thoughts center around what God wants for my life and if I am truly doing what he wants or what I wants. Something that has been on my heart for some time during this is the idea of courtship versus dating. I feel that God wants me to save as much of my heart for my future spouse as possible, which is why he has not led me to date in my life. The aspects of modern courtship really appeal to me, as I am more interested in finding a future spouse with whom to serve the Lord than to fill some need to just have somebody in my life. But there are many things I am unsure of.
How do I meet a man who is interested in a courtship relationship? I do not know of any local churches where that is the norm. Most young men whom I meet in church are still looking for the modern idea of dating. They want some sort of physical affection and balk at the idea of holding back in that aspect. Many of them are also not looking for a commitment. Should I just continue to pray over it (which I continue to do either way), or should I actively seek to put myself in a place where I am likely to find someone?
I come from a broken home and do not have a spiritual father. I know many young women trust their fathers to help oversee their courtships. Would a man seeking to be part of a courtship even want to court someone from a broken home?
And in the end I always wonder, if I do meet someone who is looking to date rather than court, is there any halfway? How do I present the boundaries and beliefs I have without scaring that person away? I probably shouldn't even be worried about scaring someone away.
Can you tell I think a lot about this? I am just unsure of many things right now.
I'm not sure I'm posting this in the right place, but here goes:
I am a 23-year-old woman who has recently drawn closer to God. I know I was saved as a child (and I'm Baptist, once saved always saved is what I have always believed) but only recently have I really began to submit my life fully to God's will. I have begun daily Bible reading and study, daily prayer and meditation, trying to get closer to Him.
At this stage in my life, many of my thoughts center around what God wants for my life and if I am truly doing what he wants or what I wants. Something that has been on my heart for some time during this is the idea of courtship versus dating. I feel that God wants me to save as much of my heart for my future spouse as possible, which is why he has not led me to date in my life. The aspects of modern courtship really appeal to me, as I am more interested in finding a future spouse with whom to serve the Lord than to fill some need to just have somebody in my life. But there are many things I am unsure of.
How do I meet a man who is interested in a courtship relationship? I do not know of any local churches where that is the norm. Most young men whom I meet in church are still looking for the modern idea of dating. They want some sort of physical affection and balk at the idea of holding back in that aspect. Many of them are also not looking for a commitment. Should I just continue to pray over it (which I continue to do either way), or should I actively seek to put myself in a place where I am likely to find someone?
I come from a broken home and do not have a spiritual father. I know many young women trust their fathers to help oversee their courtships. Would a man seeking to be part of a courtship even want to court someone from a broken home?
And in the end I always wonder, if I do meet someone who is looking to date rather than court, is there any halfway? How do I present the boundaries and beliefs I have without scaring that person away? I probably shouldn't even be worried about scaring someone away.
Can you tell I think a lot about this? I am just unsure of many things right now.