Okay, so I know I am suppose to love my neighbor as myself, but right now I do not!
We moved to a neighborhood after living rurally for over 7 years and our cats have always been indoor outdoor cats. Yesterday the neighbor came over and said that our cats are leaving hair on their porch and can I keep them out of their yard. She also said that her husband wants to set traps and call animal control. I was kind of caught off guard, and I really didn't know how I was suppose to do what she asked. I said that it was going to be pretty difficult to keep them from going into her yard as they can jump fences and suggested that she shoo them away so that they know they are not welcome.
This was not satisfactory and she said that fine they would trap the cats, I was upset and said "great, okay then" through up my arms and went back to what I was doing. I muttered to myself about her rudeness thinking she was gone and she said that I was very rude and that by not agreeing to keep my cats out of her yard <Staff Edit>. I told her that I just did not know how to fix the problem. That I would try to keep them indoors but I didn't know how well that would go.
Today there is a trap by there front door. I have found some fencing solutions (?) but until then it is going to be a challenge to keep the cats from darting out the door (my husband is disabled and not too quick with his reflexes)
Any advice on how to move forward? I realize I could have handled things better but I also feel that by threatening trapping she helped to put me on the defensive. We rarely talk to these neighbors, usually only when they have some kind of complaint, although they tend to disguise it as advice about what the HOA will say about issues.
Also they are suppose to be moving, but this has been the story ever since we moved in and so far no such luck!
struggling with my humanity
We moved to a neighborhood after living rurally for over 7 years and our cats have always been indoor outdoor cats. Yesterday the neighbor came over and said that our cats are leaving hair on their porch and can I keep them out of their yard. She also said that her husband wants to set traps and call animal control. I was kind of caught off guard, and I really didn't know how I was suppose to do what she asked. I said that it was going to be pretty difficult to keep them from going into her yard as they can jump fences and suggested that she shoo them away so that they know they are not welcome.
This was not satisfactory and she said that fine they would trap the cats, I was upset and said "great, okay then" through up my arms and went back to what I was doing. I muttered to myself about her rudeness thinking she was gone and she said that I was very rude and that by not agreeing to keep my cats out of her yard <Staff Edit>. I told her that I just did not know how to fix the problem. That I would try to keep them indoors but I didn't know how well that would go.
Today there is a trap by there front door. I have found some fencing solutions (?) but until then it is going to be a challenge to keep the cats from darting out the door (my husband is disabled and not too quick with his reflexes)
Any advice on how to move forward? I realize I could have handled things better but I also feel that by threatening trapping she helped to put me on the defensive. We rarely talk to these neighbors, usually only when they have some kind of complaint, although they tend to disguise it as advice about what the HOA will say about issues.
Also they are suppose to be moving, but this has been the story ever since we moved in and so far no such luck!
struggling with my humanity