What makes sex so great?
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iambren
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From the lofty regions to practicalities marriage has always struck me a little like prostitution. She wants the status,security,and a good provider to meet her material longings.
He wants a graceful homemaker but definitely SEX! So the two roughly exchange money for sex and we know what that sounds like. What irks me is when either lets their hair down post-marriage,fail to meet their responsibilities and are SO shocked when they lose that abiding intimacy,head down to the lawyer's office all disillusioned.
He wants a graceful homemaker but definitely SEX! So the two roughly exchange money for sex and we know what that sounds like. What irks me is when either lets their hair down post-marriage,fail to meet their responsibilities and are SO shocked when they lose that abiding intimacy,head down to the lawyer's office all disillusioned.
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My goodness. I certainly don't want "status" or "security" from my husband. We both work towards those things together. And he would probably sit down and laugh till he had tears rolling down his face if someone told him that he should view me as "a graceful homemaker"! We view sex as an expression of love, desire, and passion for each other. We don't use it as a means to get what we want. If people go into marriage viewing sex as currency, they're already doomed to a very difficult relationship.
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How do you define "raw deal?" An arrangement that does not fit your profile that twists marriage into prostitution?
Where exactly does the idea of covenant fit into your profile?
BTW - the writers of the bible (both testaments) had the cultural understanding that sex was a wife's right (not the husband's) and a husband's responsibility. (that was in addition to being the breadwinner)
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Paul sure seems to think that sex is part of the deal,a sure incentive anyway. Then again,I've had a lot of conversations with gals living with their boyfriends that they can't convince to propose. When asked "Why marry anyway?" I usually get this blank expression. With exploration though it often comes down to a need for security.
Yes,love and covenant are the ideal. I've lived long enough to suspect other things are going on deeper in the soul.
Yes,love and covenant are the ideal. I've lived long enough to suspect other things are going on deeper in the soul.
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I agree with what "ProudMomxmany" originally posted way back when. She nailed it wonderfully!
The only thing I would add is that sex doesn't have to lead to children. God blesses us whether we are mothers and fathers or not.
The only thing I would add is that sex doesn't have to lead to children. God blesses us whether we are mothers and fathers or not.
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What they are finding out is your first relationship, ie marriage has a 80% chance of success. Second marriage / relationships have a 50 % chance and third have a 30% chance of survival. The reason is that it gets more difficult as you go along. My wife was a virgin and she is pretty much the one that holds our marriage together. I think it would have been less stressful for her if she had married a virgin.
Some people come out of high school now a days having had or been had with 5 or more people. Their chance of settling down with one partner for life is slim. Although some people manage to hold it together long enough for the kids to grow up and move out on their own. For example when my niece moved out her mom moved out with her.
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Ana the Ist
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I was gonna say "enthusiasm and friction"...but I like your answer.
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Of course those are both available with sex outside of marriage as well .....
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LeoWhat makes sex so great in a marriage? Obviously I've never done it and I'm not married, so what do I (possibly) have to look forward to?
When sex is in a healthy marriage it is excitement, pleasure, connection, & joy all rolled into one. When a couple is looking forward to the; intimacy, foreplay, and its climax is amazing. It has a melody of pleasure before, during, and after. Mind body and soul should be it a happy place. It is like whipped cream and a cherry on top of the relationship bananna split. Good sex requires other important elements; companionship, trust, shared interests, and a warm home to reach its potential. It all rolls into joy knowing the heart, mind, and body are be bonded. There is a lot to look forward to.
Please remember like all activities; it takes practice
, and can be; great, good, or just fun even if an element or two is missing. Be patient with yourself and spouse. Don't be afraid to read up on intimacy and talk with a married friend. Also understand there is a great deal of biology, by God's design, involved. If you can, wait, if you can't be careful. Do not be to hard on yourself.
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