I thank you for taking the time to read this.
I have saved myself for marriage. It was important to me. After age 25 I figured this was not a prayer to be answered. I found myself in 2 abusive relationships and finally met a man who seems great - he prays with me daily, we have a lot of the same beliefs, I am comfortable with him, and he says he wants me to know that I can be loved.
So what is the problem?
He was previously married. That didn't bother me so much until he started telling me the details. He was so happy that they were each other firsts, he even went into detail telling me the decisions they made for their first time. He told me quit a bit about their sexual relationship, and even could tell me the exact date of the last time he had sex with her - over six years ago.
I can't seem to stop thinking about that. I barely remember what day it is, his joy at being her first and her being him first is something I can never have, and the last time they had sex was on Valentine's Day.
I don't know if I can ever measure up to that. He speaks about the relationship like it was a mistake and even on that day had doubts, but since everyone was there, he went ahead with the marriage. Yet there are some details he remembers so clearly and perhaps because of how my abusive exes told me how worthless I was, I am already feeling he cannot be as happy with me as he was with her, because she will always be special to him because they were each others' firsts.
I have saved myself for marriage. It was important to me. After age 25 I figured this was not a prayer to be answered. I found myself in 2 abusive relationships and finally met a man who seems great - he prays with me daily, we have a lot of the same beliefs, I am comfortable with him, and he says he wants me to know that I can be loved.
So what is the problem?
He was previously married. That didn't bother me so much until he started telling me the details. He was so happy that they were each other firsts, he even went into detail telling me the decisions they made for their first time. He told me quit a bit about their sexual relationship, and even could tell me the exact date of the last time he had sex with her - over six years ago.
I can't seem to stop thinking about that. I barely remember what day it is, his joy at being her first and her being him first is something I can never have, and the last time they had sex was on Valentine's Day.
I don't know if I can ever measure up to that. He speaks about the relationship like it was a mistake and even on that day had doubts, but since everyone was there, he went ahead with the marriage. Yet there are some details he remembers so clearly and perhaps because of how my abusive exes told me how worthless I was, I am already feeling he cannot be as happy with me as he was with her, because she will always be special to him because they were each others' firsts.