Distraction Ideas for Masturbation/Sexual Fantasy

for me when I started getting freedom over sins of the flesh was when I listened to steve gregg teachings on the function of grace. I learned that the thing that is amazing about grace is that it gives us the power & the will to stop sinning. Most people LOVE their sin & don't want to give it up. When we realize our wills are fallen too, then we can pray , "Father, I have this sin in my life and I love it. I don't want to quit doing it but I know it is sin. I confess it as sin to you. Would you please change my will & give me the power to resist this sin and remove the desire from me? Would you please lead me into your precious promises and show me the power and wondrous gifts you died to give me?"' something like that or along those lines.

I promise you, if you start telling the Lord that you're powerless over your sins and you ask Him for His grace to put it away, He will empower you to stop it forever. Upon any remnant desires pop up, just pray & the grace rushes in immediately. When I learned this, the glorious amazing nature of grace opened up before me and then I understood finally what Christ did for us on the cross. He gives us through His grace the power to stop sinning. What's hard after that is "seeing" what sins we have so we can repent of them and receive this amazing grace. The Holy Spirit has to show it to us and convict us of it before we can repent of it. I believe anyway. There's a lot of theological debates about this stuff but I firmly believe the Church really started losing out when they quit teaching the power of grace to deliver from sin.

Dear Brothers & Sisters,

Apostle Paul speaks in this way,

[BIBLE]No temptation has overtaken you, that is not common to man, God is so Faithful, He will not let you be tempted beyond your abilities, And with temptation, He will also provide a way of escape, That you may be able to endure it.[/BIBLE] 1 Corinthians 10:13.

Yes to admit, its hard to revive instantly but we need our inner man (soul ) to regain the Power, and the power is in The Word, Stay focused on what we have to. After office hours, do not switch on the laptop,palmtop,tablets etc.

Breathing : There is a great relief in the breathing. When get aroused, immediately start breathing. This brings down the body temperature and the mind creates space. Feel only the breathing.

Meditate: Let your inner man say the word .[BIBLE]"I Can do all things through Christ,Which strengthens me."[/BIBLE]. Ph 4:13

Iterate the lines, as much as you can, You will flee from the bondage of lust.

Repeat the same when get aroused,will see slowly where the lust takes its place.

In Jesus name Amen,

Regards,
Ronald

I Had common problems but God set me free dont worrxy !

I usually play minecraft haha

Talk to God.

And visualize that sexual fantasies especially adulterous and fornication types is the touch of Satan. That it is well within his power. Actively resist him.

Shift to your thoughts to God and the Holy Spirit dwelling within you. Open the Bible. Cleanse it away. It will pass and you'll be all the merrier because you've just put another notch on your six-gun in your walk with Christ.

AnswersforChrist said:

Its especially frustrating when you know if you just had a wife you would no longer have these problems.

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This is a myth thought by single people, and is not true. We married men still have feelings of lust and desire for other women, even after marriage. The thoughts and feelings you have while single do not go away by simply taking a wife. Yes, you can have sex with your spouse, but being bombarded with today's societies sexual advertising and Tv/movies, those thoughts pop into our heads every minute. Marriage does not save you from lust or masturbation. You would be surprised at how many men continue to touch after getting married. Every man struggles, married or single.

I found this in Jeremy Taylor's writings once, in a way it totally re-iterates what this thread is about, but I found it helpful because of it clearness.

"When a temptation of lust assaults thee, do not resist it by heaping up arguments against it, and disputing with it, considering its offers and its dangers, but fly from it, that is, think not at all of it; lay aside all consideration concerning it, and turn away from it by any severe and laudable thought of business."

Here is a brilliant clip by an exinappropriate content star Shelly Lubben and this clip tells her on the evils of inappropriate contentography: shelleylubben/shelleys-videos/ex-inappropriate content-star-presents-truth-about-inappropriate contentography-students-christian-high-school

Also there are resources of overcoming inappropriate content and also people that seek to get out of the inappropriate content industry.

Hi, I'm new to this site but not a new believer however i have struggles in this department one thing i recognize is that sexual immoral struggles is like getting through an addiction you have to take each day one at a time and to each day you get through without falling you just have to Praise God additionally be aware of triggers that may set your thoughts in motion towards feeding the flesh such as books, movies, conversations etc. just know or figure out what your trigger might be and guard against it.

"There are people who want to keep our sex instinct inflamed in order to make money out of us. Because, of course, a man with an obsession is a man who has very little sales-resistance. God knows our situation; He will not judge us as if we had no difficulties to overcome. What matters is the sincerity and perseverance of our will to overcome them....We may, indeed be sure that perfect chastity - like perfect charity - will not be attained by any merely human efforts. You must ask for God's help. Even when you have done so, it may seem to you for a long time that no help, or less help than you need, is being given. Never mind. After each failure, ask forgiveness, pick yourself up and try again. Very often what God first helps us towards is not the virtue itself but just this power of always trying again. For however important chastity (or courage, or truthfulness, or any other virtue) may be, this process trains us in habits of the soul which are more important still. It cures our illusions about ourselves and teaches us to depend on God. " CS Lewis (Mere Christianity)


Have activities and pastimes other than TV and radio. Find a scenic landscape picture in magazine and render it in watercolours or oils - it doesn't matter if you can't paint - in a sense no one (or very few) really can. Read books that take you out of yourself - older literature does this better than modern pulp novels. Tolkien's writtings I find expansive in the sense of making one feel there is more to life - it re-mythologises and awakens deeper longings in the reader. Listen to classical music which uplifts you. There is something for everyone.




Most important if you fall down, get up again!

I have found this helpful also.

http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/anthem-strategies-for-fighting-lust

Its also a boundary with self, or self-control issue - Cloud Townsend book Boundaries is helpful.

It does become difficult to get those desires under control. It is something one must struggle with daily, at least it is for me, but I try to distract myself from those thoughts. It is too easy to give in , with the way people are these days, and subtle looks and gestures, I try to keep myself in check, trying and failing.

The internet really isn't the best place to be spending a lot of time for anyone struggling. I took a few days total break from the net altogether. Turned my modem off entirely.

one needs to move from trying and failing to getting up if you fall down.

the first thing we often get help towards is getting up again when we have fallen. In his old school manner Lewis's chapter on Sexual Morality in Mere Christianity helped me more than any chart explaining the cycle of giving in.

Of course its not just Lewis, Oswald Chambers with his sometimes terse daily devotionals called things like "Get a move on..." and the fact that he was anointed to teach and train also has helped me.

Most popular psychologists and motivational guru's always seem to be trying in one way or another to imitate these christian writers and they rarely can.

I'm far from innocent when it comes to self gratification, but here are my two cents worth on the topic. Firstly, getting older helps. We get married we get jobs and work hard. All of these things leave little time for things like touching yourself, so if you are young and feeling bad about it, try not to worry, before you know it you will have way too many commitments to spend much time masterbating. Secondly, if you look at inappropriate content, just have a think about it. None of those women are doing it because it's what they dreamed of when they were young. For the most part money is the driving force behind the whole inappropriate content industry. I do not get aroused by knowing that these men and women are taking their clothes off because they need the money, I can actually find it quite sad that that is how they make a living. Personally I don't find anything sexy about that. I don't really find any of it sexy any more. All of that ridiculous make up making that all look like androids. It's easier for me to feel sorry for them, rather arousal. I hope none of my words offend, and if they help that's just great.
Best wishes,
Lee

pray


read the WORD

and fellowship with other believers

Yeah, It's one of the hardest sins to over come...but I found a solution....Be honest with God, Don't try to hide it and "deal with it on your own" Get on your knees and tell God and tell Him you have this problem...and you need him to help you get rid of it. I did this once...and God did not condem me...I believe He...and It makes since because, A. He loves me, and B...He already knew about it. I think we'd get over a lot more things if we just, were honest with God...and would go to Him for the answer.

God Bless,
-Katy

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