This is so hard. But I have no home church right now. Back slid hubby refuses to take us in our one car.
Many changes have taken place in our family of late. Serious and life-changing things of a very painful nature. I have another thread her at cf in the prayer wall about "Family Split Apart" to see more detail.
Since those changes, hubby has become a different man. He told me today, in no uncertain terms, that I had better get remarried if I want to continue being a stay at home mom. He told me he no longer believes the Mom should stay home and the Dad should go to work and support the family. I can't really tell him that lifestyle is biblical (even though I believe it is) because that will just start an argument because he is a backslider. I was a sahm and homeschooler for 8 years to our kiddos. Godsaw us through financial tightness. But I started the journey by telling hubby that's what I wanted, even though it wasn't his idea for us. He eventually went along with it because a car accident left us with only 1 car and that meant I couldn't go to work outside the home. He grew to support me in that role.
Now, he's shifted. My original training--and 4 years experience--is as a high school teacher. I originally quit teaching to have our first baby and I was committed to staying home. I'm terrified of returning to work. My motivation is nil. The workload is too high. We have to call parents from home to deal w/behavior problems and failing kids. We have to take papers home to correct every night and I always had a very hard time with correcting papers in a timely fashion. The paperwork is huge. Then there's the afterschool meetings. I have 3 kids and my youngest is only 2. It was my dream to be a quiverfull, stay at home, homeschool mom for the rest of my life!
I believe in wifely submission. I do not believe in divorce and remarriage. Besides. If I decided to put my foot down on this issue I'd end up divorced and STILL having to work for a living anyway, just seeing my kiddos less. But this is something I'm afraid of--going back into the workforce. I can't stand the idea of taking all that work home with me after being away from my kiddos all day long!
He says it's to get us back on our feet financially and into a better living situation and also the good benefits. (As an insurance salesman he doesn't get any benefits).
I'd appreciate replies of all thoughtful kinds, including replies from moms who are FORCED back into the workplace.
Also, it's going to be an uphill battle to get my teaching credential reinstated for various reasons.
BTW, we STILL have only one car as a family. I'm praying that would still somehow keep me from having to return to the workforce. But hubby says if I don't teach I have to find something that a.) makes at least $40,000 per year and b.)has benefits. Teaching is the only thing I'm qualified for that fits that description, as far as I know.
HELP!
Many changes have taken place in our family of late. Serious and life-changing things of a very painful nature. I have another thread her at cf in the prayer wall about "Family Split Apart" to see more detail.
Since those changes, hubby has become a different man. He told me today, in no uncertain terms, that I had better get remarried if I want to continue being a stay at home mom. He told me he no longer believes the Mom should stay home and the Dad should go to work and support the family. I can't really tell him that lifestyle is biblical (even though I believe it is) because that will just start an argument because he is a backslider. I was a sahm and homeschooler for 8 years to our kiddos. Godsaw us through financial tightness. But I started the journey by telling hubby that's what I wanted, even though it wasn't his idea for us. He eventually went along with it because a car accident left us with only 1 car and that meant I couldn't go to work outside the home. He grew to support me in that role.
Now, he's shifted. My original training--and 4 years experience--is as a high school teacher. I originally quit teaching to have our first baby and I was committed to staying home. I'm terrified of returning to work. My motivation is nil. The workload is too high. We have to call parents from home to deal w/behavior problems and failing kids. We have to take papers home to correct every night and I always had a very hard time with correcting papers in a timely fashion. The paperwork is huge. Then there's the afterschool meetings. I have 3 kids and my youngest is only 2. It was my dream to be a quiverfull, stay at home, homeschool mom for the rest of my life!
I believe in wifely submission. I do not believe in divorce and remarriage. Besides. If I decided to put my foot down on this issue I'd end up divorced and STILL having to work for a living anyway, just seeing my kiddos less. But this is something I'm afraid of--going back into the workforce. I can't stand the idea of taking all that work home with me after being away from my kiddos all day long!
He says it's to get us back on our feet financially and into a better living situation and also the good benefits. (As an insurance salesman he doesn't get any benefits).
I'd appreciate replies of all thoughtful kinds, including replies from moms who are FORCED back into the workplace.
Also, it's going to be an uphill battle to get my teaching credential reinstated for various reasons.
BTW, we STILL have only one car as a family. I'm praying that would still somehow keep me from having to return to the workforce. But hubby says if I don't teach I have to find something that a.) makes at least $40,000 per year and b.)has benefits. Teaching is the only thing I'm qualified for that fits that description, as far as I know.
HELP!
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